OU, English, piano, painting, nowadays, whether living in big cities or small counties, whether children or parents, talking about extracurricular interest classes are as precious, less than one or two, more than five or six, children like a gyroscope general day told to bounce between various educational institutions, after school for students has long been not “liberation number “The next subway that comes in a hurry is more like a burst of thunder. You ask the children, they have long been numb, few “rebellious” have teenagers strongly resist, most students have little view of such high-intensity, high-density learning, they go to cramming classes, as if school is as commonplace. You are asking parents, they are aggrieved but justified: “Let my child not lose at the starting line”. This slogan is like a magic spell and like a stimulant. Parents place all their hopes on raising their children in extracurricular classes, and if their children study one subject less or a few months later than others, it is as if they have suffered a great loss and are immediately inferior to others. However, it is because of this general psychology of parents, the interest classes, extra-curricular learning classes, but caused a strange phenomenon: when we all take interest classes as a shortcut to the test, one result is that the market is rising, in order to score extra points or test and learn the children did not get the rewards. It is understood that an elementary school in Hangzhou, the class teacher had let the children fill in the interest specialties, a class of 50 children, 35 children are learning piano. The teacher had to announce that playing the piano was not considered a speciality because “there are too many people who can do it”. It is understood that a secondary school 2017 enrollment, in the name of special students enrolled in three to four hundred students, including more than 60 piano grade 10 students, and according to the school’s enrollment plan, the piano special students only one or two. The problem is, after such a fierce fight to enter the private high school art students, many will be in the middle school under the severe pressure of classwork, give up the art special. Parents seem to be suffering from a disease, collective anxiety. This disease is a reflection of the anxiety of our society as a whole, parents are anxious about houses, cars, children, units anxious about efficiency, provinces and cities anxious about GDP, and in turn, parents will raise their children to become successful people as a way to dissipate this anxiety, they think that once the child is a good study, more special skills, they can live better in this society, parents are wrong? Are parents bad for their children? No, they are just in a complex and anxious mood, like people walking in a fog, trying to catch that mere light, which can only be said to be the only thing they can do. In this context of the times, parental anxiety cannot be completely avoided, but when anxiety becomes a social group disease and spreads irrationally by conduction to each other, then those who are most vulnerable in this group will definitely behave irrationally. And the bearers of these behaviors are their own children. What we are talking about today is not to stop children from “running”, and not to urge them to “give up the game” and just talk about the so-called happy education, I think few parents will let their children do this. So what do parents have to do? Don’t let your child run in the wrong direction Let your child learn ahead of time to avoid “losing at the starting line”, but learning against the rules will not only bring about the problem of fast and slow competition in the end, but the problem of running off course or running in the opposite direction. Children have their own growth pattern, for example, 3 years old is the intuitive thinking period, 5 years old is the image thinking, the older children begin to appear the sprout of logical thinking, 8-12 years old is the best period of memory. What is the consequence of letting an imaginative, creative child memorize Chinese characters and recite addition within a hundred, which he does not understand but can do, is that the space for imagination is filled with solidified knowledge. A study showed that children who knew more Chinese characters in preschool were ahead of other children in language in first grade, but by second grade, the level was equal to other children. In the case of drawing, for example, children can only observe and copy from an adult’s perspective at the age of 8. Before that, drawing is just a self-expression of intuitive thinking. Letting children too young learn drawing skills, telling them that the sun should be round and the clouds should be white, is a waste of time, regardless of the stifling of imagination. “The direct consequence of this is that the students’ ability to draw is strong and their ability to express is weak, which of course does not produce masters. Now many children three years old began to learn roller skating, in fact, children’s bones are not well developed, roller skating will hurt the body. Too early to learn ballet is also the same, the child’s periosteum and so on are challenges. “Don’t let your child lose at the starting line is an advertising slogan invented by savvy businessmen,” said Lu Lingyue, “Parents can be forgiven for being kidnapped by college entrance exams, but if they are swayed by advertising they are too unqualified.” The mission of interest classes is to send children to prestigious schools. Children are versatile, but don’t enjoy their hobbies. “Many kids with tenth-grade piano vow never to touch the piano again; they don’t feel that music is a lifelong companion because it takes away their time for fun.” A teacher who specializes in teaching piano says reluctantly. Sometimes simply by being too early and too eager, parents kill their children’s interest instead. “When this child came to enroll, she asked me if your school wanted to study OU, and I said no. She clapped her hands and said great, I wanted to vomit when I heard about OU. When she got to middle school, her teacher discovered her talent for math and started exposing her to OU, and this child ended up being so enthralled with OU that she got the grand prize.” The same children who learned OU, a group of children in Zhejiang had participated in the international OU competition and won the first prize, and when they returned with the honor, the deputy director of the Department of Education in charge of basic education asked the children to talk about their feelings, and one child said, “I should never touch OU again in my life.” The education community has recognized the serious consequences of over-education and intensive education. Recently, the Ministry of Education released the Guidelines for Learning and Development of Children Aged 3-6 for public consultation. The Guide is very specific in listing learning and developmental goals for young children of all ages. For example, preschoolers aged 5-6 are only required to “be able to add and subtract within 10 through physical manipulation or other methods.” It is not stated that children in this age group must recognize words, but only that they “are interested in word symbols in reading books and in life situations, and know that words represent certain meanings. “The children are not the parents’ children. Parents change their mindset Children are not pets of their parents, and they are not tools to make up for the shortcomings in their lives. Whether it is the parents, the teachers or the education department, or even all the institutions of society that have anything to do with children, if they have considered that this child is a whole, independent and different person, he will behave in a very different way. A child under this philosophy will be able to treat others as human beings when he goes out into society. If we can base on this point, that children are independent-minded, independent personalities, and complete individuals with their own feelings, then we teachers must put ourselves in the right position, teachers are not engineers of the human soul, but at best gardeners. The role of the gardener is to nurture and nurture the child, not to anticipate the future and grow for the child. The same is true for parents. In recent years, many parents have told her explicitly not to tell me the ranking of their children’s scores, I don’t want to know. A well-known education expert, whose daughter couldn’t find confidence in the top public elementary school and lost the joy of learning, eventually transferred her to a regular school, “Today she is only in a very ordinary but enjoyable career, but she is filial to her parents and has a cheerful and generous personality that makes me very proud.” By recognizing children as human beings, then many of the challenges in education are solved. There are so many more things we can do for our children. For example, children make mistakes, and since they are human, they will make mistakes, and children grow up making mistakes. When a child makes a mistake, that’s our chance to educate. The starting line argument is the result of the alienation of education, in fact, education does not need to win or lose, education is to train people, develop people, improve people, such a nature, so she does not exist a win or lose, there is not a good you I bad problem, if you see this point, parents still go to run for what? It’s not good for the child.