Key Issues and Responses for German Moms’ Positions I’ve heard the classic saying that parenting is a highly professional job, but many of us parents are unprofessional. Seeing the summary of German mothers in the education of children, it has to be amazing! The rigor of the Germans is obvious to all: Where does a strong nation come from? The answer is: education. For German mothers: instead of shouting through the voice, it is better to make the appearance; rules are greater than pampering, teaching by example is more important than teaching by words. Look at the German mom job description on the 62 German parenting rules, teach self-discipline good children, but also reflect on how much we do? German mother post key issues and countermeasures 1, the child lost three what to do? German mothers three “no” song: do not remind, do not help, do not care about him! 2.Children spend money like water? A gift for children – the account book. If you spend more money, deduct it back! Teach your child that every extra penny spent is the parents’. 3, the child does not eat properly, what to do? German mom’s hunger education: if you don’t eat properly, you have to starve! 4, children grab toys, how to do? First-come-first-served, or don’t play! Teach your children that there is no absolute fairness in society, only rules and order. 5, the child procrastination is not sleep? Say the time, never compromise! Parents break the rules, the child will despise the rules. 6.My child is in love? German moms respect their children’s love because learning to love and be loved is a valuable ability. Ten Rules of Conduct for German Moms Posts 1, Don’t do more for your child, but let your child do more. 2.Children have ten shortcomings, parents are responsible for five of them. 3.To raise children, parents must set an example. 4. Tell your children: If you fall down, get up by yourself. 5. Don’t plant the seeds of violence in your child’s heart. Learning how to argue is the first step to growth. Learning to love and be loved is a valuable ability. 8, let the child grow up in the collision, not in the care. 9, not to their own experience, instead of the child’s feelings. 10.Educate children: there is no absolute fairness in society, only rules and order. German mother’s eight post tasks and rules Post task one: ability is greater than achievement Let the child become an independent, complete individual. The child is not the appendage of the parents, not to mention the relay of the parents’ unfinished dreams. If you want to educate your child well, you should first treat your child as an independent individual and a complete person. Rule 1: Children are like flowers and trees, they need to be cared for and practiced! Dead knowledge and living ability are both learning. Rule #2: Pets are the best teachers – teaching children to love life, to give love and to get along with animals is a kind of learning. Rule 3: If you can get along with animals at a young age, you will be able to get along with others when you grow up. Possessing a soft heart, caring for the disadvantaged, and being kind are more valuable than gold! Take care of lives weaker than your own. Rule 4: Design different endings for stories, train logical thinking skills, use your brain, you can overcome difficulties and solve problems. Rule 5: Learn manners from the dinner table, anytime and anywhere opportunities to educate and develop children’s manners. Rule 6: Letting go is the first lesson in learning independence! Do not accept help from others when you can do it yourself. Rule 7: Don’t help your child do more, but ‘let’ your child do more. Rule 8: Environmental protection is not just a slogan! Just start from life, let your child know from a young age to love the environment and protect the nature environmental protection education, start from daily life. Rule 9: Trust your child’s feelings and judgment, and do not replace your child’s feelings with your own experience. Position Task No. 2: Teaching by example is more important than teaching by words There is a very good saying about parent-child education: Instead of shouting your voice, you should make a gesture. Parents ask their children to do, they must first do, otherwise they have no right to ask their children to do so. Rule 10: no matter how rich, we must avoid unnecessary waste, personality development: teach children: unnecessary spending, is a waste! A few dollars is a waste! Rule 11: Reading is the foundation for a child to form an independent personality. Rule 12: If you fall down, get up! The first step to being responsible─Tell your child: It’s your responsibility! When a child has a problem, he or she is responsible for it. Rule #13: Lead by example and follow the rules. Start by crossing the street. Is it a small thing to run a red light? Even the smallest thing is to lead by example! When parents sit up straight, children walk straight. Rule 14: A minute or a second is considered late, German moms teach punctuality this way! Apologize to your child even if you are a minute late! Parents must learn to be punctual for the sake of their children. Rule 15: Do what you say you will do! Keeping your word to your child is not just a matter of saying, “Mom, you don’t mean what you say . …… Parents keep their word so that their children will keep their word. Rule 16: Become a regular at the library – reading is the most romantic form of parenting and opens the door to knowledge for your child. Rule 17: Pervasive music in the home is the best way to get children to enjoy music, and when parents enjoy it, children will enjoy it. Rule 18: Harmonious family atmosphere is the only way to teach children with peaceful character, don’t plant the seed of violence in children’s heart. Post Task No. 3: Respect is better than authority Do not depreciate, do not indulge, let the child grow naturally. It is the common wish of all parents to see their children grow up. However, many parents impose their own ideas on their children and teach them lessons regardless of the occasion, without caring whether their children’s self-esteem is hurt. Rule 19: Love is invincible! Love your child and let him know that I’m not picking up …… Mommy Loves Me? Love has to be said out loud and let your child know it. Rule 20: Condescension, loud reprimands, and lack of patience will only fill your child with stress; treat your child as an individual, equally and with mutual respect. Rule 21: Don’t interfere, encourage your child to learn on his or her own. Rule 22: Even if a child makes a mistake, you can’t just reprimand him or her, children have dignity, it’s not that the child isn’t capable, it’s the education. Rule 23: Encourage children to argue with adults. Rule 24: Respect the child’s right to speak, understand the child’s ideas, when speaking to the child, half squat, eyes on each other. Rule 25: Children should be given love, not hurt; to love and be loved is the most valuable ability. Rule 26: Respect your child’s love. Rule 27: Education that lacks corporal punishment is incomplete. Post Task No. 4: It is better to suffer than to mend Moderate ordeal is the best exercise for children. Compared with children in other countries, German children are notorious for their ability to resist setbacks. How do German parents cultivate their children’s ability to resist setbacks? Ordeal camps are one of their assets – allowing children to participate in some almost cruel training activities. Perhaps you will think that this is very cruel, but German parents think that this is the love of the child. Because, love children, we must let children know how to be strong. Rule 28: Let the child grow up in the collision, rather than in the care, honing the child’s extraordinary courage and guts to protect themselves. Rule 29: Not letting your child do housework is more harm than love! Let your child experience that there is no such thing as getting something for nothing under the sun. Rule 30: Let your child understand the dark side of society and learn to protect himself. Rule 31: German hunger education: if you don’t eat properly, you will starve! Rule 32: A mitzvah for your child: try traveling alone. Rule 33: Children have ten shortcomings, parents are responsible for five of them. Affirm your child’s strengths and don’t forget to review the weaknesses. Rule 34: Let your child suffer more so that he will not suffer when he grows up. Rule 35: A small amount of clothing keeps you warm; a lot of clothing is a burden. Post Task No. 5: Rules over favoritism. Tolerance, not indulgence, and establishing rules are more effective than preaching. How can you effectively teach your children? Many parents do this by constantly lecturing, but smart German parents will set rules for their children and build a sense of rules from an early age. They make rules in consultation with their children and ask them to follow them. Rule 36: When you make a rule, stick to it and make your child follow the agreement, that’s the key! Rule 37: Parents don’t help when children can do it themselves. Rule 38: Children will follow the rules only if their parents are consistent in what they say and do. There are two principles when it comes to children: make a deal beforehand and don’t compromise afterward. Rule 39: Establish the concept of “can and can’t, can and can’t”. Rule 40: There is no absolute fairness in society, only rules and order. Rule 41: When parents break rules, children will despise them. Rule 42: Politeness is not innate but cultivated. No one can go wrong by acting politely. Post Task No. 6: Free-range parenting is better than captive parenting How can you teach a good child if this one doesn’t work and that one isn’t allowed? In the eyes of parents, every child is a seed and is bound to become a big tree. In the process of growing into a big tree, the gardener must make great efforts, such as cultivating the child’s self-care ability, cultivating the child’s good character and good habits, giving encouragement to the child, cultivating the child’s ego and the spirit of actively striving for performance, and so on. Rule 43: Teach your child to be independent and not to give up. Rule 44: Cultivate good habits, you can develop a good character, teach from childhood, start from small things. Rule 45: Tell your children not to be calculating and bullheaded. Teach your children to forgive and be tolerant of others, who is right and who is wrong? “Forgiveness” is the answer. Rule 46: ten points is progress, one point is also progress, children, you are not stupid, just have not learned it. Rule 47: Encouragement and affirmation are the rain and sunshine necessary for growth. Cultivate self-awareness and teach your children to be their own masters! Rule 48: If the child says “no” loudly, you should be happy for him, encourage the child, dare to express their own ideas, the courage to refuse the adult’s request. Rule 49: Don’t confuse modesty with self-expression; let your child learn to express himself and convey his enthusiasm; teach your child to dare to stand up, sing out and speak out. Post Task No. 7: Freedom is greater than restriction Give your child independent space for unlimited development. In the eyes of German parents, every child is an independent individual. They are neither attached to nor dependent on their parents. They have their own independent space and independent thinking. Therefore, German children mostly aim to develop independently. As parents, you only have to give your children the freedom they need. Rule 50: See the characteristics of your own child as well as those of others, remember! Every child is unique and comparing the strengths and weaknesses of two children will make them lose themselves. Rule 51: Don’t compare your child’s shortcomings with other children’s strengths. Belittling your child will zero in on your child’s self-confidence! Instead of belittling your child, encourage your child to learn from others. Rule 52: Avoid parent-dominated education, avoid comparative education methods, and raise your child according to his or her personality. Children should also be taught according to their abilities, and different children need different education programs. Rule 53: Give children more free space, learn to be responsible for their own, parents peeking at the child’s diary, is equal to the infringement of the child’s freedom! Close to nature, free-range children, more open eyes! Rule 54: Children should be free-range, not captive. Rule 55: Think before you make a decision, take responsibility after you make a decision, let your child make his own decisions and take responsibility for himself, let your child make his own decisions and develop mastery. Post Task No. 8: Self-control is more than control Establish a financial perspective from an early age and teach your children to save the first bucket of money. Germans are rich, but definitely not extravagant, so the average annual consumption in Germany is not very high, which is mainly due to the German parents from a young age to children for financial education. This is mainly due to the fact that German parents educate their children about money management from a young age. Under such education, German children develop very good financial habits from a young age: they don’t spend their pocket money frivolously, they go to the bank at any time to save money, and they are very frugal even when they are playing games. Rule 56: Instead of giving more money, learn how to use it. Rule 57: Second-hand bazaar experience, so that children can learn the common sense of trading, organizing children’s thrift bazaar, so that children can experience the process of buying and selling. Rule 58: Waste during games and in real life, “Do you know how much a missile costs?” Playing games also takes the opportunity to educate! Rule 59: Have your own account, save your own pocket money, open a bank account for your child, learn money planning from an early age, send red envelopes V.S to the financial view of the account book: teach your child the power of bookkeeping! Rule 60: Let your children know that the extra money they spend belongs to their parents. Rule 61: Think before you buy, you can’t ask for more money after you spend it, take your child to the bank to save money, feel the atmosphere of saving, learn to control your desires, tell your child: spend every penny with consideration! Tell your child: Spending money recklessly is an indulgence of desire! Rule 62: If you spend money recklessly when you are young, you won’t know how to be thrifty when you grow up. The key to taking your child to the bank is not how much money to save, but to have a sense of saving.