Today I want to talk to parents about the psychological problems of teenagers related to sex and how we parents can guide and help teenagers to solve these psychological problems. Parents and grandparents of middle-aged and older adults, I am talking about guidance and education, not discipline, and not just making up some lies when a child asks, “Where did I come from?” Some parents say, “You were picked up from the garbage!” Others say, “You came from the river.” And so on, these are all unscientific and irresponsible statements. Have you noticed? Now the times have progressed, children and in the past we are not the same as when we were young, now the society is open, in school we sing and dance together, out of school is everywhere novels, pictorials, movies, television, etc. can not be separated from the love of ah! Embrace ah! Kissing ah! No matter how old your child is, adults and children are sitting together watching TV. The neighbor’s little girl is 7 years old, the whole family watching “Pearl” at night, watching with great interest, adults asked: “Do you understand?” She said, “Yes, I can understand it!” And also to tell you who and who is what relationship, who loves who, who and who is good, especially understand, see the picture of hugging or kissing, staring at the scene, not shy, so that adults are embarrassed. Nowadays, adolescents of both sexes are developing and maturing significantly earlier, and it is not uncommon for girls to get their periods at the age of 10-11. According to the study, students at the age of 12-14 years old have begun to pay attention to the opposite sex, interested in the opposite sex, have a good feeling, hope to approach the opposite sex, by the opposite sex talk; 14-16 years old students have sexual impulses and sexual desires, sexual behavior and sexual transgressions have a trend of younger. At the same time by the influence of Western culture, some teenagers are more open to sexual issues, they talk about sex without changing their faces, a few students have a weak concept of chastity, which has to draw the attention of parents! The following talk about teenagers in the psychosexual aspects of several distress: we all know that girls to puberty breast expansion prominently grown, external genital development, the growth of armpit hair and pubic hair, the more obvious feature is to menstruate; boys grow whiskers, throat knots, voice from the thin voice of a child to technetium low, testicles grow, penis growth, spermatorrhea. These secondary sexual characteristics show that boys and girls gradually become real men or women, some adolescents in this period can not correctly and objectively understand their own bodies and secondary sexual characteristics. Our scholar Tang Aiwu survey: 50% of girls and 16% of boys feel shy, uneasy and incomprehensible about their secondary sexual characteristics during adolescence; women are not satisfied with their breast development and are worried about the fatness of their body shape; men are not satisfied with the size of their genitals and are distressed by their short stature and even have self-confidence problems. The second problem that plagues adolescents is sexual awareness. With the maturity of adolescents, sexual awareness begins to appear, showing that they are attracted to the opposite sex, often thinking about sexual problems, sexual fantasies and sexual dreams. It is not easy to treat this problem correctly. According to a middle school survey in Shijiazhuang, 16.8% of middle school students are “afraid” and “disgusted” of sexual dreams, 24% of high school students, and even 3% of middle school students think that sexual dreams are “immoral” and “sinful”. “and “sinful”. According to a domestic survey, among adolescents under 19 years old, 68.8% have sexual fantasies. The disturbance of sexual consciousness had caused 66.6% of boys and 71.7% of girls to have insomnia, inattention, depression and reluctance to interact with the opposite sex, and may make adolescents fall into contradiction, confusion and bitterness, which need parents’ help and correct guidance. The third problem for teenagers is sexual behavior, which includes masturbation, borderline sexual behavior and premarital sex. In particular, abortion among girls due to premarital sex has now become a grim reality in China! According to a set of data released by the National Population and Family Planning Commission in December 2012, China ranks first in the world with at least 13 million abortions per year, of which teenagers account for half, not including the 10 million drug abortions and the number of abortions done in unregistered private clinics (this world first is not a glamorous thing). Then there are adolescents, especially college students, but also some secondary school students have multiple sexual partners (heterosexual and homosexual), and unclean sexual contact is not very rare. We often encounter young people in their 20s or 17 or 18 years old who come to see us for STD, and we will routinely ask them about their sexual contacts. I have a deep impression of a second-year student of a university in the northeast, 19 years old, a boy, tall and handsome, came to me to check the AIDS, there are no symptoms, I asked a history of multiple same-sex partners contact, a positive HIV test, but really infected with HIV, so I feel particularly shocked and sorry! In addition to premarital sex, masturbation is another important cause of psychosexual distress. Cao Hanbin et al. surveyed 600 college students, 79.5% had masturbated, and 73.9% of those who masturbated had low self-esteem, and 13.4% were worried about future sexual dysfunction and impact on fertility. Some are worried about the impact on physical health, some are afraid of affecting their future sexual life, and even more by some absurd advertisements or rumors that masturbation occurs acne, mental disorders or infertility, causing great psychological distress to adolescents. How to solve the psychological distress of adolescents is an important task of our writers as teachers! Can not avoid, pretend not to see, pretend not to know, can not stop not allowed to go out, not allowed to read what kind of books, etc., not to mention the horizontal interference with the actions of children. What to do? We say, male and female adolescent sex education is very necessary, adolescent men and women in this period of physiology and body underwent rapid changes, psychologically more than ever thought of a series of questions about sex, they appear mysterious and curiosity about sex, very interested, they are eager to understand the knowledge of sex, to relieve their inner confusion. They are often reluctant to show and ask in front of their parents, they can only find classmates and friends to discuss or find some books about sex to read, but they lack the ability to criticize the content and are easily poisoned by some unhealthy books and audio-visual products, which is also a problem we should pay attention to as parents. At present, many teenagers learn about sex through the Internet, we have to remind parents that the information on the Internet is not always correct and standardized, some of it is not scientific, not standardized and stimulating, I hope parents will help their children to screen and judge. But in general, we should let young people understand scientific knowledge about sex, know that “menstruation” or “seminal emission” and the change of secondary sex characteristics are normal phenomena, demystify them, and get correct information through regular media and books or articles written by real experts (not the so-called experts in advertisements). Get the correct knowledge and information about sex through the regular media and books or articles written by real experts (not advertised experts). Parents should not prevent male and female adolescents from meeting and doing activities together, but rather advocate that schools organize joint activities for boys and girls, which have a positive effect on promoting healthy physical and mental development and the formation of a good group psychological climate, and help to form a united and positive collective. Boys and girls get along, but also to educate them to achieve self-respect and self-love, learn to protect themselves and cherish chastity. Enriching spiritual life, transferring excitement: adolescents are energetic, energetic, inquisitive, so they have a rich spiritual life, the pursuit of ambition, it is not easy to be affected by the unhealthy stimuli in society. A variety of extracurricular activities can enrich the spiritual world of young people. Schools can also set up literary, sports, writing, computer and other activity groups, painting and calligraphy exhibitions, photography competitions, film reviews and other activities, not only to enrich the spiritual life of young people, but also to make their “excitement” shift. Finally, we should guide young people to enhance self-control, regulate their feelings with their will, set up lofty goals in life, and become a person with ambitious ideals and goals in adolescence, so that when they encounter external temptations, they can study and work diligently for their ideals without being moved by them; when they are in adversity, they can deal with it calmly and still fight hard, showing a strong self-control ability, and at the same time Parents also help and guide them to slowly turn their ideals into reality and become useful talents for building the country!