Every do parents love their children very much, but do you know, the following several methods of educating children, is not love children, precisely is a kind of irresponsibility to the child. 1, want to eat on their own, we say: get everywhere, rice is cold …… mom feed! Note: the child’s sense of autonomy, the child’s hands-on ability is thus stifled. 2, the child is a little uncomfortable, we say: baby, we go to the hospital, a little injection will be fine! Doctor, use some good medicine! Note: Our blindness and ignorance directly lead to the child to become a lack of resistance to the glass man, so that he suffered more pain and suffering and medical trauma, so that the world how much more drug-resistant bacteria and incurable diseases. 3, the child wants to play with mud, we say: too dirty, not allowed to play! Note: depriving the child of the right to play, extinguishing the child’s nature to play, blocking the child’s knowledge of things, narrowing the child’s space for exploration. 4, the child wants to wash their own dishes, we said: do not get dirty clothes; water so cold; do not break the bowl …… Note: the child’s eyes were like a game of labor, because of you, enjoyable labor has become a drudgery, limbs muscle atrophy, no masculinity. 5. When your child goes to school, we say, “You have to study hard, listen to the teacher, and don’t talk nonsense if you don’t know what you don’t understand. …… Note: Your child doesn’t dare to ask why, and is afraid of the teacher’s words and the jokes of his classmates; your child only knows how to accept and follow the crowd, and doesn’t have any creativity, or even any opinions or thoughts of his own. 6. The child said, “Mom and Dad, when I grow up, I want to do what I can,” and we said, “Good boy, just read a good book, you don’t need to do anything. Note: an opportunity to cultivate a child’s sense of responsibility, the opportunity to be a man (woman) of the world’s top man (woman) is so that you are quenched in the bud, growing into a shrinking man, an irresponsible person. 7, the child is not learning well, we say: you know mom and dad for you, how much suffering? You eat well, wear good, don’t do anything, why can’t you even read well, you really disgrace us! Early to know …… Note: In the heart of the children, they do not see love, they think that you pay all the original is just a transaction, they are only parents of private property, is the parents of the tool to show off their ancestors 8, the children do not know through what way to think of gratitude, he said to you: Mom and Dad, I love you, you have worked very hard! We say: love what love, what do you take to love? Read a good book, listen is the best love. Note: Love turns out to be so utilitarian, realistic and cruel! The seed of love has not blossomed has withered; the ability to love has not been formed on the blow; 9, the child learns very well, the temper is also very bad, lazy surprisingly, we said: all right, the big on the good, as long as the study is good, what does not matter. Note: We forget that a person must first adult to adult reasoning, we give up the end, the child’s sound personality training arbitrarily trampled. 10, the child is really finally grown up, he is bigger than you, but nothing will not do, what do not want to do, he ate you no discussion! At this point we are at our wits’ end, we said: when he became a family, with a wife and children on the good, but you this long finally found that the trouble is getting bigger and bigger, more and more! Note: want to tell no one can say, regret, intestines are remorseful! Or simply do a “sister-in-law”. Love for children is not spoiling, nor is it always accommodating, but first of all, we must respect the child as an individual, fully give them the freedom and the right to explore the unknown, let’s all be a responsible parent!