Nowadays, parents always complain about their children’s poor independence and dependence. In fact, a child is an independent person who grows up slowly in self-exploration. Parents should learn to let go of their children, who will not fall because you let go, but will fly higher and become stronger and richer in spirit. Loving your child and giving him or her free space is a must for every parent. A. Give your child an independent living space Each family can create an independent living space for their children according to their living environment. This space can be a room, or a small corner of the living room, the principle is convenient for parents to watch. The floor can be covered with plastic mats, surrounded by simple boundaries to distinguish it from other spaces. According to the age of the child, you can place the child’s favorite books, toys, brushes, paints, clay, thin wire, etc.. Toys to nature as the best, such as old books, old newspapers, cardboard boxes, old parts, etc., but also from nature to collect some plant branches, pay attention to ensure that the child is safe when playing, as little as possible plastic toys. This space is completely owned by the child, he can freely play, read books, craft, folding, doodling, creative painting, etc.. Smaller children parents can accompany to play together, slightly older children let go of his own play, not by the child’s invitation, adults better not bother the child. This allows children to give full play to their imagination and hands-on skills, but also to fully release themselves. Second, to create a psychologically independent space for children First, give children the space to think independently. The famous mathematician Hua Luogeng said, “The ability to think independently is a necessary talent for scientific research and creative inventions.” The ability to think independently will determine how far your child will go and how wonderful. In real life, there are many parents who want their children to keep learning and follow them from morning to night, pointing at everything and not giving them time and space to think. In turn, they complain that their children do not like to use their brains and are too lazy to think. These parents do not know that behind every dependent child, there is a parent who is “unwilling to let go” and “take care of everything”. It is this “hands-on” attitude of parents that single-handedly causes “lazy thinking” in children. Only by giving children the time and space to think independently can children slowly develop the habit of independent thinking, and he can have greater creativity. Second, give your child space for self-reflection. When children make mistakes, parents, especially mothers, do not nag up endlessly, especially children some habitual mistakes or shortcomings, you repeatedly nagging or criticism, so that the child’s mental capacity to “steel”, under your repeated reinforcement, the child’s shortcomings or mistakes not only can not be changed, but was solidified down, and even become a bad habit. Even become a bad habit. The wise thing for parents to do is to give their children a proper wake up call when they make a mistake, let them know they are wrong, and let them reflect on what is wrong and why they are making such mistakes. Giving your child the opportunity for self-reflection and making him or her responsible for his or her actions is very important for developing responsibility and resilience to setbacks. There is a joke: In a college cafeteria, a college student was staring at an egg and his classmates asked him, “Why aren’t you eating?” The student replied, “All the eggs we eat at home are white and soft, but the eggs here are different. This sounds like a joke, but it is also a true story. There are also many “school drifters” and “gnawers” in the university. These problems of college students are not only the failure of social education, but also the sadness of family education! Self-management should be cultivated from a young age, when children do their own things, parents do not point fingers, to allow children to do badly, no matter what kind of work, as long as the child does it, parents will give affirmation and praise. In the sound of your affirmation and praise, you will see the child’s independent ability to grow. In order to develop good character in children, parents can be appropriately lazy, learn to show weakness, and constantly emphasize that he did better than you. This way the child’s interest in doing things will grow, and self-confidence will continue to grow.