I saw a patient today who was coming in for an abortion and asked for her age and maternal history as usual. 36 years old, first child. My first thought was to persuade her to keep the baby. So began a sweeping pursuit of questions. The most common problems with having to have an abortion are taking medication during the peri-pregnancy period, irregular lifestyle, lack of adequate preparation, dyeing hair and nails, perming hair, and so on. She had a cold and fever for 10 days after ovulation and took fever reducers. According to the “all or nothing” theory of drugs, the effect of taking drugs at this time on the child is lethal, which means that if the child is not affected, it will be born well, and if it is affected, it will be eliminated in early pregnancy. I was relieved to hear this reasoning, because she took the medication within 2 weeks of fertilization. And now that this baby is 2 months old, there must be no problem with the baby’s heartbeat bursting. But she didn’t give up on the abortion because of my reassurance. The second reason was even more important: her dad had a tumor and was undergoing chemotherapy, and it would take 4 months of chemotherapy, all of which would require her care during this period, and she would have to take on the process of his treatment because there were no siblings to help. For the sake of her dad, she decided not to have her own child. At this point her eyes were red and I could see she was torn. I didn’t give up my efforts because 36 years old is already an advanced age and fertility tends to decrease with age. Maybe this pregnancy will be her last smooth conception experience and later, when everything is ready, her pregnancy can become more difficult than ascending to heaven, so I put the issue of advanced age to her solemnly and hoped that she would consider it. “I’ll think about it,” she said. I really hoped she would live for herself and not carry too much of the burden of having a father to watch over, but as a woman don’t so easily deprive yourself of the power of motherhood and the right to have a child born. I hope that the sick father can see the birth of his grandson and that the child can add a living life to the home. The cycle of life is unnecessary to give up your own happiness for the sake of your father, not to mention that the sick father may prefer to see the happiness of his grandchildren and the joy of his children. So live for your own sake, please pursue that primal desire in your heart to leave this child behind.