We often see children throwing tantrums in outpatient clinics, and in this case, the first step is to come in for an examination and a physical examination to see if there are any problems with their overall development. Some children who have tantrums are lagging behind in language, their ability to express themselves has not kept up with their physical development or their psychological needs, so they have no way to express their needs with language, and they may be aggrieved. Another is that when he has a need, he can’t express it, and others don’t know what he wants, so he will use tantrums to express it. Generally speaking, this situation is related to the family. If the parents usually ignore the child when he is fine, they will only pay attention to him when he throws a tantrum, and the child may acquire the behavior of using tantrums to achieve his goal. If it is a language problem, then improve the child’s language skills. If it is a learned problem, parents should role-play how to express needs in a reasonable way. Generally children throw tantrums when their wishes are not met, or when they are criticized, or when they can’t grab something with others, these situations will be more often, but of course there are special ones to see. First of all, these scenes are performed, for example, he wants to take something can not get, then we go to see, he took two dolls, we go to play, I want to take your things, or come together to play this thing, or want to buy, this time parents can say this thing is very good to lend me, OK. Generally speaking hope that parents can let children get in a reasonable way, to meet his more reasonable requirements, and can not say nothing to give, that the toddler simply roll on the floor, no matter what you will give, so it will force the child to get things in a tantrum. If the thing can actually be given to him, then give it to him, but if the child takes something that is very dangerous, such as a knife, fire, etc., certainly not give it to him and can tolerate his tantrum. But patience is not just to say no to him, but to understand him, tell him that mommy knows that you want to take this thing very much and you are very angry that you can’t get it, if you really feel very sad, mommy can hold you and let you cry for a while. If you really can’t get it, for example, he went to grab something, this thing is someone else’s, people do not want to give you, then you can not get it, so the mother can know, then you can express his needs for him, that children feel that you understand me, that since understanding may he cry a, after crying he may not need to use tantrums to express.