Introduction: When you pick up your child from kindergarten, what is the first thing you ask your child? In China, the first thing parents say when they pick up their children from kindergarten is: 1. What did you eat at kindergarten today? 2.What did you learn today? 3.Did anyone bully you? 4.Did the teacher assign homework today? The first words parents ask their children abroad are usually: 1) Are you happy today? 2.Was there anything interesting today? 3.Do you have any works? 4. Did you have fun with everyone today? Different questions reflect different educational concepts and methods. Chinese parents focus more on their children’s life and learning, while foreign parents focus more on their children’s emotions, interests and abilities, as well as on building their own sense of success and interaction with partners. The former concern is not wrong, but it may make the child pay more attention to life and learning process and neglect the emotional and emotional changes and the establishment of a sense of success. In the latter case, it is easier for the child to have the desire to talk and express himself/herself, which will make him/her feel something about his/her own actions and make him/her aspire to the future kindergarten life. Experts point out that when parents pick up their children every day, it is the most active and exciting stage of their children’s thinking, and it is also the golden time to develop their children’s intelligence. For example, you can ask such questions as: What is the happiest thing about your day? Why is it the happiest thing? What game did you play with the children today? What interesting things did you hear/see? Who is your best friend? What’s good about him? Questions like these are specific enough for children to know where to answer. If the first question parents ask each day when they leave school is, “What did you eat today?” At the most exciting stage of your child’s thinking, he will not be able to sort out his thoughts and answer what he ate three times a day, and may only give you a simple answer, such as noodles, because noodles are the easiest word for your child to remember. If you want to know what your child eats every day, you can take your child to the recipe garden in the garden and ask him/her to follow the recipe, and he/she will sort out his/her thoughts and tell you carefully. This way you will not only learn about your child’s diet, but will also greatly increase your child’s desire to tell you. The more the child tells, the more the parents will be able to understand how the child is learning and living. This kind of questioning also stimulates the child’s ability to express himself or herself verbally. The child’s expression is sometimes accompanied by his or her own opinion, which makes the child’s mind more active. When parents ask questions, they should be careful to use open language and ask more “whys” rather than using closed language like “is not”. Because, closed questions are likely to cause inertia in children’s thinking, while asking “why” will allow children to express their own ideas through their own thinking, which helps to open up the child’s mind, and the child’s rich imagination will be developed. At the same time, this kind of questioning can also train children to find problems, think about them and solve them on their own.