“Drowning” is interpreted in the dictionary as “submerging”. People are drowned by the water called “drowning”, if the parents of the love flow overflow flood up, that will also “drown” the child, this is drowning, is a kind of irrational, directly destroy the physical and mental health of children’s love. 1, special treatment. The child’s status in the family is superior, everywhere special care, such as eating “sole food”, good food in front of him for him to enjoy; do “only child”, grandparents can not be a birthday, the child’s birthday to buy a big cake, gifts. Such children feel special, accustomed to superior, inevitably become selfish, no empathy, will not care about others. 2, excessive attention. A family always take care of him, accompany him. New Year’s festivals, relatives and friends often laugh and tease endless, sometimes adults sit in a circle around him in the center, again and again to welcome the child to perform programs, applause. Such a child thinks he is the center, indeed become a “little sun”. Family members have to surround him, and all day and night without peace and quiet, extremely distracted, “people crazy” is particularly serious, and even guests came to make trouble to talk. 3.Easy to satisfy. What the child wants to give what. Some parents also give young children and elementary school students a lot of pocket money, the child’s satisfaction is easier. This child is bound to develop a bad character of not valuing things, materialistic enjoyment, waste of money and inconsiderate of others, and no patience and hard work. 4.Lazy life. Allow the child to eat, live, play and study without regularity, how to do what you want, sleep, do not eat, wandering during the day, watching TV late into the night and so on. Such a child grows up lack of motivation, curiosity, do people get by, do things in a hurry, start but not finish. 5, praying and begging. For example, while coaxing and begging the child to eat and sleep, promised to tell the child three stories before finishing the meal. The child’s psychology is that the more you beg him the more he squirms, not only can not distinguish between right and wrong, not to cultivate a sense of responsibility and generosity of character, and the prestige of education is lost. 6, do-it-all. I have asked some mothers, to not require children to labor, some even said: “I can’t wait to hurt, but also tolerate children to labor?” Some also said: “called ‘small things’ to do things more trouble, it is better to do it for him.” So three- and four-year-old children still have to feed, can not dress, five- and six-year-old children do not do any chores, do not know the pleasure of labor and help parents to ease the burden of responsibility, so arranged, will inevitably lose a hard-working, kind, sympathetic, capable, progressive children. This is by no means sensationalized. 7, fuss. Originally, “the newborn calf is not afraid of tigers”, the child is not afraid of water, not afraid of the dark, not afraid of falling, not afraid of disease. After a fall, they tend to get up and continue to play without saying a word. Later, why are some children timid and cry? That is often caused by parents and grandparents, the child is sick when the performance of panic, pampering the end result is that the child does not allow parents to leave a step. These children are branded as weak. 8. Deprivation of independence. In order to be absolutely safe, parents do not let the child out of the house, also not allowed to play with other children. What’s more, some children become a “little tail”, can not leave their parents or the elderly step, cuddling sleep, snuggle up to sit on the back of the pack to go; contained in the mouth for fear of melting, spit out for fear of flying away. Such children will become timid and incompetent, loss of self-confidence, develop a dependent mentality, but also tend to become a “gatekeeper tiger”, rampant at home, outside the timid as a mouse, resulting in serious character defects. 9, afraid of crying. As a result of accommodating children from childhood, children in the upset to cry, sleep, not eat to blackmail parents. Spoiled parents have to cajole, surrender, compliance, accommodation. Fear of children crying parents are incompetent parents; scolding mom and dad’s children will become mercilessly rebellious, in the character of selfishness, ruthlessness, capriciousness and lack of self-control in the seeds sown. 10, in-your-face favoritism. Sometimes dads control their children, mom protects: “Don’t be too strict, he’s still small.” Some parents teach their children, grandma will stand up and speak: “You can not ask too quickly, he will naturally be good when he grows up; when you are small, but far from his good it!” Such a child is of course “unteachable”! Because he has no concept of right and wrong, and always have “umbrella” and “shelter”, the consequences of not only the child’s personality distortion, sometimes also cause family disharmony. Most of today’s parents know that spoiling children is harmful, but can not distinguish what is spoiling, not to mention their own family has no spoiling. The above 10 forms of spoiling is a typical example, not every family all have, but the general family in a variety of spoiling will occupy a few, I hope that parents can be corrected in time!