In China, the second and third generation of the rich seems to have been defined by the society as a negative word, they are always associated with news such as racing cars, picking on women, hitting people and even taking drugs. In the West, on the other hand, children of the family, means developed IQ, good character, taking responsibility, and synonymous with well-educated. While Western aristocrats have prepared a long-term structured education system for their children from birth, China’s newly affluent population has not prepared a systematic preparation of education concepts and implementation techniques for those “children growing up in a privileged environment”, and the education of China’s second generation of rich people has become a social problem. Case 1 Aristocratic left-behind children Mr. Chen is the founder of an enterprise, his wife is also a strong woman, they are the typical “two ends of the child”: when they go out in the morning, the child has not yet woken up, and when they come home in the evening, the child has already fallen asleep. 2-year-old son is very poor, and every day he accompanied by a nanny from the countryside. Mom and dad enrolled him in a very expensive early childhood education program, but every time he took him to class only the nanny and the driver. Analysis When it comes to “left-behind children”, many people think of children of migrant workers, whose mothers and fathers work in factories in the Yangtze River Delta or the Pearl River Delta, and who live in the countryside with their grandparents and grandmothers. In fact, the children of many entrepreneurs are also “left-behind children” to a certain extent. The busyness of Chinese entrepreneurs is recognized around the world. They are so busy that they don’t even have time to learn about new technologies in education, let alone have enough time to spend with their children. In developed countries, no matter how big their business is, they spend a lot of time with their families and children on weekends. In terms of getting parental attention and time together, the children of Chinese entrepreneurs are even less fortunate than the children of ordinary families at the age of 0-3 years old. The children of Chinese entrepreneurs become another kind of “left-behind children” in a special sense in their early growth. Children who grow up in this environment are cold inside, they are extremely indifferent in interpersonal relationships, and this indifference even directly affects their intellectual development. Although these left-behind children have a rich material life, their hearts are often darker and more negative than those left-behind children of migrant workers. Because in their minds, parents do not pay attention to me even if they are around. The infamous Li Zongrui was also a left-behind child by his mom’s side in his childhood. None of those bosses who raised a loser 20 years ago would have realized that there was something wrong with their education style. They would spend a lot of money to send their children to learn piano and dance, but the important quality education was precisely ignored, “You say I don’t understand quality education? Am I that unqualified?” Scientific development to date, there is no way to predict the child in the future world will encounter challenges, there is no way to know his specialties and hobbies, as parents, only to give them as much as possible, and constantly expand their cognitive instincts. Case 2 Family of origin conflict Mr. Wu’s business is doing well, after the success of his career, he bought a large house, parents and mother-in-law in-laws are taken over to live together, but in the education of children above the issue of the two generations will often clash, the elderly are too permissive of the child, Mr. Wu and his wife slightly dissatisfied with the views they have, “Are we too old? We’re not useful anymore?” “Your kid was brought up by us like this back then!” Analysis: In the West, several generations of the same family situation is rare, each person is an independent individual, couples eat A A system, mom and dad and children eat together also AA system. Chinese people are too burnt, very important to the family, after earning money will try to buy a big house, several generations of the same house, grandparents, parents live together, different generations have different ideas, it is difficult to reach agreement on the concept of education, the formation of the baby’s character is very unfavorable, and sometimes even let the child to form a certain degree of split personality. 0-3 years old children are through the “interpersonal interaction”. “0-3 year olds judge themselves by their interpersonal interactions: “Grandma says I’m good”, “Dad says I’m naughty”, am I good or am I naughty? For a child, everyone is his “boss”, and when there are too many “bosses”, he doesn’t know who to listen to, and when one’s self-judgment is inconsistent, the power of action that could have been carried out normally will be impeded. Moreover, the conflict in the family of origin will sooner or later become a conflict within the child. It also tends to develop a conflicted, hesitant, and tangled, avoidant personality, which can have a harmful negative impact on the child’s life. It makes it difficult for the child to face challenges and pressures, and it is not easy to withstand setbacks and failures. Case 3 Timid children under strong parents Mr. Tian is a powerful entrepreneur, many financial magazines have interviewed him, that he is bold and decisive, strong character, he hopes that their children can also inherit this fine quality, but do not know why, two-year-old son always looks very timid, eyes are very wandering, Mr. Tian is very confused, “I love him so much, he Why is he afraid of me?” Analysis: Chinese entrepreneurs are all entrepreneurial, they are bold and decisive character tough, this character is very favorable to the business start, but in the child’s education will play a negative impact, the child and the children to play together, the father said, “You go to grab with them ah, what are you afraid of?” Education is made up of countless details. Those who are the bosses are used to being on top, and when they talk to their children, they seldom squat down to encourage them with their eyes; what the children see is a big mountain, and it is useless for the parents to be gentle in their tone of voice. Education is done, not said, not what you want the child how he will be, you say to the child a thousand times ten thousand times, “you have to be bold ah!” These are useless, education is a technical work, is a move to do out, and these moves is the need for someone to study, the best way is to play games with the child, you play the tortoise he plays the rabbit, you play the teacher child plays the cat, you play the role of ghosts child plays the Baji, in front of the child to play the role of a weak, over time, he will become bold. Case 4 Hate in Intimate Relationships Qiuqiu and Xiaxia are half-sisters. Qiuqiu’s mother left early because of a car accident, and she has always believed that it was Xiaxia and her mother who took away her father’s love for her. As her father’s business grows bigger and bigger, he spends less and less time with them at home, often leaving the two sisters with an elderly nanny. The father is currently flying around the world, but considering that Beijing is a better educational environment, the two sisters remain in Beijing. In a way, the two sisters are each other’s only family members, but instead of sticking to each other as companions, they hate each other. Analysis: Hate in intimate relationships is one of the most difficult conflicts in the world to resolve, and one of the most painful and entangled feelings. Just like these two little sisters, if there is no father’s love and guidance in the words, they are very easy to go on the road of hatred between each other, it can be imagined that, according to this pattern, this pair of little sisters after ten years, it is entirely possible that they become indifferent and attack each other, and the affection disappears without a trace. Sometimes, even siblings with the same father and mother can go down the same path if they lack proper parental guidance and care. On the other hand, this type of problem can be solved quietly if the father can make more efforts to let the two sisters have more time to communicate and have fun together, so that they can form a kind of mutual dependence and supportive relationship with each other. Summarize: China has an old saying, “rich but three generations”, as entrepreneurs, parents of children, the feeling of helplessness is heavy and heart-wrenching, they look forward to the best of both worlds, can devote themselves to their careers, but also do not delay the child. The education of children of ordinary families may affect only the child alone, while the impact of the education of children of entrepreneurs is much more than that – as Ms. ChristineG ilbert Cbe, the Royal Inspector General of Schools of the United Kingdom, views, the children of Chinese entrepreneurs “Whether or not the seeds of humanistic concern and social responsibility rooted in the heart are sown early in life, with a correct outlook on wealth, wise intelligence, inner principle and rounded flexibility …… even affect the G D P indicators of the country in the future. Therefore, it is more important to care about the inner world of the child rather than the external material conditions. For us, the rich second generation is not synonymous with a sound personality and a life full of hope and sunshine (although many people would think so). They may have the most and the best educational resources, but in fact, what they need most is simply parental care and love, and warm companionship. No matter how busy they are, it’s no excuse to create a family day for each other, at least every week. In this day, put down all the work, focus on accompanying the child, can be more smiles, more tolerance, more appreciation! Perhaps the happiness of a child’s life begins here.