The liberalization of the two-child policy, many women want to add a companion to the eldest child, but there is no way to open the mouth, said lightly afraid of TA do not understand, said heavy fear of bear children have emotions. How is it good? 1, when to tell the big baby about the pregnancy Generally speaking, in the decision to have a second child, mothers and fathers should begin to do the psychological construction of the big baby, if the big baby is not averse to the attitude of this matter, then you can tell the big baby the news of the pregnancy of the second child at any opportunity you feel appropriate. If you haven’t had the time to consult with your baby beforehand, then you can also not say anything about the pregnancy, but first test your baby’s attitude, observe your child’s reaction, and then choose the right time to tell your baby about this fact. If you are the latter, remember to tell your baby as early as possible when the time is right, early communication, so that the child has enough time to buffer and accept the fact, more likely to achieve good results. 2, depict the benefits of having a younger brother or sister with the big treasure Tell the big treasure will soon have a particularly good playmate who can play with them and sleep together; the big treasure can also act as the second treasure’s teacher, teaching the second treasure to read poems and draw pictures; the second treasure will buy birthday gifts for the big treasure when it grows up, etc. 3, often and the big baby talk about the belly of the little baby pregnant mother may wish to often and the big baby talk about the belly of the little baby, through the pregnancy in October, the big baby from the mind gradually accept and get used to the fact that the family will soon have a little brother or sister, then the latter things become much easier. You may want to tell your baby that the little one in your belly is sleeping now, or encourage him or her to give a portion to the little one in your belly when he or she is eating. Note: Some studies have shown that a difference of 2 to 3 years between two children is ideal and most common, and the second child here is mainly for families with older children over 3 years old. 4, let the big baby with you to do fetal education pregnant with the second child to the second child was born, parents have to be more caring big baby, do not let the big baby feel love is taken away. You can continue to adhere to the habit of reading poems, telling stories or singing children’s songs to your eldest child every day, and tell him that you now have an additional small audience, that is the little baby in your belly. After a period of time of this parent-child interaction, I believe that the big baby is no longer a stranger to the little baby. 5, to meet the curiosity of the big treasure child’s curiosity is very strong, may TA will keep asking the situation of the little baby in the belly, this time mom and dad must not be impatient, this is a good opportunity to do a good job of psychological construction of the big treasure, must be enthusiastic to give answers. 6, to give a sense of security, let TA know that your love will not be reduced to give a sense of security, so that TA feel the love of parents will not be reduced because of the arrival of the second baby. You can also tell the eldest baby that when he or she has a little brother or sister in the future, there will be one more person to love him or her. The mother during pregnancy try to ensure that the original life pattern, do not because of the pregnancy of the second child can not care about the treasure, at least in the time you can easily move, try to maintain the previous state of life. 7, if the big treasure firmly opposed to how to When you tell the idea of having a second child to the big treasure, may be strongly opposed, this time do not be impatient, to communicate with the child, to find out what the reasons for the child’s opposition, may be quiet to listen to the big treasure how to say, is worried about someone and he (she) grab toys, or worried about someone and he (she) grab mommy and daddy, or worried about someone sleeping with him (her) Small bed …… In short, to give targeted enlightenment. 8, pregnant mothers do not be affected by the negative emotions of the big baby believe that when you decide to share the news of your pregnancy with the big baby, you have already prepared psychologically, so if you are strongly opposed by the big baby, do not be too distressed, know that your mood directly affects the development of the little baby in your belly, your mood will also infect the big baby, do not forget that you still have ten months to complete the psychological construction of the big baby. Psychologists suggest the following steps: Step 1: Talk about your feelings and love for your child, express your appreciation and all your love for your child, your baby is the most outstanding work in your mother’s life, this love is eternal and does not change because of the environment and people, as far as the baby’s perspective is concerned, it is the eternal center of mom and dad; Step 2: Mom has always felt that in the future, after mom and dad are 100 years old, leaving you alone in the world, who will love you instead of mom and dad? This can only be done by blood relatives, so mommy is eager to find someone to love you in the future instead of mommy and daddy, and stay with you until the future; Step 3: Tell your baby that mommy has helped you find a little partner who can stay with you, and this person is your brother or sister, and mommy is pregnant and wants to share mommy’s joy with you today. I hope that in the future you two will have a discussion about everything and have the closest person who can take care of each other in everything. Baby, do you feel happy? I know maybe you will feel lost, no matter what, mommy and daddy will not always be around me alone, in fact not, this point mommy guarantee, also hope baby you can express their own feelings and views; Step 4: on the matter, discuss the baby’s ideas, agree with TA’s feelings, relieve TA’s worries, such as the second baby after the birth of TA’s biggest worry and so on.