Children should be allowed to endure certain difficulties and learn to overcome them by honing both their body and mind (character and physique). Cultivate children’s independence from childhood is the key to children’s mental health. First, avoid spoiling spoiled open mouth is not away from the “good”, out of the door is not away from the lift, eat any of their wants, dress any of their pick, will develop a child’s willful character. Parents “love children – drowning children – mischildren”, which is often the real life of some young people into the wrong trilogy. Second, avoid taking the side of connivance in daily life, the child did something wrong in public, parents know that it is not right, but with a variety of reasons to shelter and cover up, the result will inevitably make the child can not correctly treat the shortcomings and mistakes, some parents figure a moment’s peace, at the expense of making up falsehoods to deceive the child, so that the influence of influence, easy for children to follow the example of their parents, and develop into a hypocritical and dishonest character. Third, avoid sarcastic sarcastic to the child, that can “stimulate” progress, the results are counterproductive. Fourth, avoid demanding parents of children, “hate iron is not steel”, everything must be perfect, the slightest inconvenience reprimanded, so that the children are at a loss, the idea of feeling suppressed and bound, and for a long time the child may go to the opposite side of the road, I do what I want to do. Fifth, avoid dependence on children to withstand certain difficulties, learn to overcome difficulties from both physical and mental (character and physical) honed. Cultivate children from an early age to be alone. Sixth, avoid indulgence of the child without guidance and education, laissez-faire, let it do, do not fulfill the parental responsibility, the consequences are difficult to predict. Seventh, avoid scolding and corporal punishment In real life, some parents believe in “not to beat the creed”, can not be reasoned to convince people, but scolding, corporal punishment, the results of this not only failed to achieve the purpose of education, but also damage to the child’s self-esteem, and often produce feelings of antagonism. Eighth, avoid inattention to let the child choose their own appropriate games and sports, to train them to focus their attention, concentrate on the ability to complete a job, train children to persevere in perseverance, to do anything to have a beginning and an end. And do not repeatedly ask the child to change the content of the activity. Ninth, avoid the lack of adaptability to train children to adapt to the environment, which is very beneficial to the development of children. Tenth, no control to train children to learn to control their own emotions, including control of their own unreasonable demands and wishes. Eleventh, avoid melancholy silence to cultivate children’s optimistic and humorous character, do not be depressed.