A high school student wrote this in his 12 pieces of advice to parents: 1. Don’t give me whatever I want. In fact, sometimes I just want to know how far I can go; 2. Don’t yell at me. You shout at me will only reduce my respect for you, but also taught me to shout; 3, do not always give orders. If you make requests to me instead of giving orders, I will do things more willingly; 4, please keep your promises; 5, do not compare me with anyone, if you think I am better than others, someone will be sad; if you think I am not as good as others, it will be me who will be sad; 6, do not let me do this at one time, and then let me do that, so that I am at a loss; 7, please let me be self-reliant, if everything is done by you for If you do everything for me, then I will never learn to do anything in the future; 8. Don’t lie in front of me, and don’t ask me to lie for you, as this will make me stop believing your words; 9. Your behavior will also teach me to admit my mistakes; 10. When I tell you about my problems, please try to understand and help me, love me by telling me; 11. Please treat me like a friend, although we are a family, it doesn’t mean we can’t be friends; 12. Don’t ask me to do what you don’t do yourself. I will never do something that you ask me to do and you don’t do it yourself. In fact, children in middle school age expect their parents to be like their friends. What will parents and friends do if they read these suggestions? Many parents are unfamiliar with how to communicate emotionally with their children, or have plausible ideas about how to do so, and don’t notice that there is a communication problem with their children until they are completely confused. Many parents think that children listen to me is not emotional communication? In fact, it is not so simple, emotional communication is the need to see each other’s psychological needs, to understand each other. Parents should pay attention to the following five points when communicating with their children emotionally: a. When your child talks to you about issues that interest him, focus on listening, do not seem to listen, or do other things (such as watching TV) while listening. If you are doing something very urgent, you may want to say hello to your child to get his understanding; Second, even if you disagree with your child’s opinion at the beginning, you should listen patiently and fully understand their views. To express their views in an exchange of views, do not nag and preach without taking into account the child’s views; Third, speak in a tone of respect rather than a lecture. Respect for children will make them respect themselves, lectures often bring resentment and antagonism, only to produce the opposite effect; 4. parents should face the growth of children’s self-awareness and awareness, guidance, help them to correctly understand the physical and psychological characteristics of their own age, clearly point out their own still existing childishness, dependence and one-sided understanding; 5. If his opinion is reasonable or consistent with the adult’s opinion, make decisions based on his opinion, which can increase his sense of “participation in politics (home economics)” and responsibility, thus promoting the coordination of family relations; (but make it clear that parents should not seek the child’s opinion on matters that belong to their own, children are not the parents’ “parents. “parents.”) Doing the above five points, I believe that the emotional communication between children and parents will become better and better, so that they can really become heartfelt friends. Of course, the above methods are only directional, not a complete method of emotional communication and exchange, as parents, constantly learn and understand the laws of life growth, in order to catch up with the growth of the child, or at least do not let the child fall too far behind, which does not make the role of parents when too tired.