Some children, rebellious behavior is particularly strong, parents say east he said west, you let him do things he will not do, you do not let him do things, he will do, especially many 3 to 8-year-old boys, more common. Why do children have defiant behavior? Now we will tell you. A. Analysis of children’s rebellious behavior Psychologists believe that 3-year-olds are not normal children if they are not rebellious, and 3-year-olds are almost linked to “rebellion”. This period of young children is the first “crisis” in life. This is the period when the child says “no” to whatever he is told to do, and he is not happy when others say or do things he likes first, even if he likes them. Parents should have a correct understanding of this kind of “resistance”; children are not intentionally rebellious, they have reasons to rebel. At the age of 1 to 2 years old, physical strength gradually increases, and by the age of 3 years old, many things can be done on their own. Children want to give full play to their abilities, but they are suppressed and therefore resist; 2 to 3 years old children have their own “mental world” and “ideas” and want to express their The child’s ideas are suppressed by the “norms” of adult society, so he has to resist. If their desires are not satisfied, they often cry, yell, or get angry, and adults think that the child is too willful. At this time, the child is caught in the conflict between his own desires and social norms, as if he were a “little adult”. From the above, we can see that rebellious behavior is a stage that children must go through, and from another point of view, children with strong rebellious behavior are likely to grow up to have a strong independent will. Psychologists have selected 100 children between the ages of 2 and 5 who were more defiant, and 100 children who were barely seen to be defiant; tracking and observing them into young adulthood. As a result, 84 of the former were strong-willed, opinionated and had the ability to analyze and judge things independently and make decisions, while only a few of the latter were strong-willed and the rest could not make decisions and take responsibility independently. Therefore, parents should have a correct understanding of their children’s rebellious behavior, do not get angry, do not be impatient. Second, how to guide children with strong rebellious behavior Teach your child to pass this rebellious period peacefully, so that “self-service” does not deviate from the sense of “only I”, the child’s rebellion will naturally disappear gradually. If the child is forced to suppress his rebellion, it will be “internally attacked”, and once the rebellion is “internally attacked”, it will be embedded in the child’s heart for a long time, and the child will eventually become a “rebellious child” or Cowardly children. Therefore, the child’s defiant behavior, to be more correctly guided. 1, let the child to complete a thing: “self” psychology so that children have to do everything themselves, as long as the situation allows, should try to make him “as desired”; encourage the child to do a thing from beginning to end, even if the results are not good, but also to praise him a few words. 3-year-old children can put It is remarkable that a 3-year-old can do everything. For example, putting on shoes and clothes, putting on a coat, etc. can be trained. 2, let the child help do things: parents can let the child help do simple things, such as “wipe the desktop”, although the child can not wipe the desktop very clean, but also to allow the child to do. The child can maintain a good mood for a long time because he or she can taste the satisfaction of doing the same thing as adults. 3, let the child “experience” everything: no matter what to do, parents should respect the child’s opinion as much as possible, do not interfere with him too much, let the child come. There are some things that you know your child can’t do well, but let him experience once. For example, children of this age do not yet have a sense of “size,” but sometimes they clamor to put a large doll into a box smaller than the doll. Adults should not say “that won’t work” right away, but let the child try it on his own, and then he will “back off” after trying it. These methods are not to please the child, to accommodate the child, but to carefully inspire. Do not suppress them to get through the “resistance period”, as long as you persist, it will not take long for your child to make great progress.