When it comes to child rearing, many parents have many differences with their parents’ generation. The older generation likes to use the enumeration method to illustrate the problem, especially the phrase “you also peed and peed back then”. Many people believe that “peeing and pooping” is a parenting style with Chinese characteristics, then, in the end, should not give children peeing and pooping, so do in the end is good? A, the hazards of peeing and pooping From a medical point of view, peeing and pooping is detrimental to the health of the child, not only to the development of the baby’s hip joint, but also easy to cause infant prolapse, anal fissure and other phenomena. If infants are given a lot of urine, they will urinate too often, which is not conducive to the maturation of bladder function. In addition, urinating and defecating itself violates and deprives infants of their ability to control themselves. Psychologically, it also makes the child feel disrespected and prone to forming a false ego. We find that some people, whenever they go to a new place, or every time they go to a car or fly, they must go to the toilet first, even if they have just been there ten minutes ago. Why? It is to regain a sense of control and security of the body. If we can respect our children’s feelings, they can build their true selves around their feelings and thus become more confident and relaxed. If we force the child to follow the will of the adult, the child’s ego is built around the will of the parents, creating a false ego. He lives all the time around the thoughts of others, the emotions of others. This result, at the root, has a lot to do with the fact that we adults have to poop and pee our children at our own point in time. Second, can peeing and pooping achieve the purpose of training children to control bowel movements? The urethral sphincter and anal sphincter of infants are not fully developed until about 3 years of age. This is the physiological basis of human control of peeing and pooping. Until then, the child is not capable of fully controlling bowel movements and urination. Especially before the age of 1 year, instead of training the child to urinate, parents should be trained to find times when it is easier for the child to urinate, such as 5-15 minutes after eating milk, after waking up from a nap, etc. This is still relatively successful urination training. The result is that the child does not know how to urinate based on the urge to pee, but only knows how to urinate reflexively based on the action of “being held”. For example, I often hear many parents complain that their children cannot sleep peacefully at night and must be peed on before they can go back to sleep, and that they do not even pee during the day, only crying because they are holding their urine. Many parents are harsh on their children, and once the child does not pee when they pee, or does not pee when they pee, they will blame the child, and even use scolding and scolding to require the child to tell their parents before they pee. Third, don’t blame the child for peeing, it’s the parents who are to blame. Peeing will form a conditioned reflex over time, and it’s easy for the child to pee in the case of peeing. However, when a child enters kindergarten, it is unlikely that the teacher will be able to pee for each child. The child finds it difficult to control his body and his bowel movements at this time. He needs to readjust to this rhythm. The child’s physiology has not yet grown to the stage where he can control his own bowel movements, so he waits until he wants to pee and can’t help but tell an adult, only to pee before his pants are off. Many parents will be upset and even scold their children for wetting their pants again. The child will naturally think that he or she has done something wrong. In fact, it has nothing to do with the child! “Diapers + diapers” is an economical and comfortable choice. What if my baby hates diapers? The biggest problem with diapers is that they are not environmentally friendly because the water-absorbing components are not degradable. Also, wearing diapers is not as comfortable as wearing a bare bottom. Other than that, there are no other problems. Many of the legendary problems with diapers are fallacies, and mothers can use them with complete confidence. It is also recommended that moms at least put diapers on when the baby is sleeping, so that the baby can sleep better and the mom can rest better. “Diapers + diapers” is the economical and comfortable choice! Many babies will start to hate wearing diapers at seven or eight months. So many mothers simply put only pants on their children during the day, and change a clean one when they wet it. Seven or eight pants a day is enough, and throw them into the washing machine at night to wash them together without any strain at all. If you are afraid that your baby will not wear diapers and pee on the bed and sofa, you can lay a large diaper pad when your baby is sitting and playing, or simply use a large diaper pad to put on the sofa and bed during the day. V. Urination training that really works! When your baby is about 1.5 years old, many mothers find that their baby can tell them in advance before they pee, which means that the mother can start to do some simple and basic urination training. Of course, if you continue to put your baby in diapers, it’s perfectly fine to wait until age 2 to start training, and your baby will learn much faster. It’s a good idea to have a cute potty ready. A convenient and cute potty will make your baby more willing to go to the pot or tell an adult when he or she has peed. It will also allow your baby to slowly learn to remove and lift his or her own pants, learn to control his or her movements to sit accurately on the potty, and the skill of not peeing outside. These improved skills will also increase your baby’s confidence. What will your baby learn if he or she is still peeing at this time, or even if you scold him or her for not cooperating with you or telling him or her to pee in advance? There are many kinds of urinals sold in the market, including cross-sitting ones and backrest ones. Mom can choose according to the baby’s preferences, one does not like to try a different kind. Many fathers abroad help their two- or three-year-old boys learn to pee by taking them to a potty or a small toilet, or by setting up a footstool next to the toilet, throwing a wheat ring into the water, and letting the boy aim at the ring and “fire”. This kind of positive guidance is a good idea for parents to use when training their children to urinate. Another widely available option is to let children come in and “observe” while adults go to the bathroom. Children learn by imitation, and especially like to imitate what adults do and feel good about doing it. Six, how to protect the small buttocks? One of the problems of baby’s small butt is urine soaking, and the other is trauma. Whether you use diapers or diapers, you should pay attention to changing and washing your buttocks regularly, and protect the skin of your buttocks with buttock cream or fragrant oil if necessary. Allow time for sunlight and ventilation for your little buttocks. If you don’t wear diapers or diapers, try to give your children closed crotch pants instead of open crotch pants, regardless of gender. This will protect your child’s butt from dirt and germs, and will reduce the possibility of abrasions and scratches on your boy’s penis. Some mothers complain that wearing closed crotch pants will often wet their pants. In reality, it’s just a matter of washing a few more pairs of pants. Just prepare five, six, seven or eight pairs. It is so convenient to wash most of the urine in the water once at night and throw it in the washing machine. Although we were also put over the year, but now is not talking about scientific parenting, so do not be “…… so over” confined to our parenting philosophy.