The wife asked me what is the normal frequency of married life. My husband rarely gets excited a few times a month, and whenever I need him, he always says he is too tired or has one excuse or another, and sometimes he reluctantly agrees to do so before he is weak. His husband said that in the morning when he was half awake, his erection was very good and lasted for a long time, but at night when he had intercourse with his wife, his erection was not firm enough, and sometimes it did not take long to insert into the vagina before it weakened, and he did not feel nervous, but he felt more fatigued. The wife always has a need at night, a few times down can not meet do not want to have sex. So, why is there such a puzzling situation? In fact, the husband’s sexual function is not a major problem, the couple’s sex life in the choice of the timing of intercourse needs to be improved, the timing of intercourse plays a very important role in the quality of sex life. In our Chinese traditional concept, the same room should be in the dead of night, after going to sleep and lights out. But the modern society is highly competitive, the work pressure of the male compatriots, often have to change overtime overtime, so that physical and mental exhaustion, and even some people go home and fall asleep. On the other hand, when it comes to sleep at night, the biological clock has also pointed to the “rest”, at this time, and then reluctantly sex life, the effect can be imagined. It seems that even for people with normal erectile function, choosing the wrong time for intercourse can cause some problems. The best time should be in their own work pressure is not too much, the body is not tired state, usually can choose in the evening 8, 9 o’clock, a hot bath, let the wife to give their own back and inner thighs and other sensitive parts of the massage. The relaxation of the body and the mind plus the sensitive parts of the “itch”, sexual desire will come; can also choose to shower together for skin-to-skin, then some “rain”, the effect is naturally half the effort. And after sex, because the biological clock has not pointed to “rest”, gay men even after ejaculation appeared a little tired, not to fall asleep, after a proper rest can also accompany the wife to watch TV, talk about the heart, sex can play a better complement. If you work late at night, when the body is fatigued, even if the woman asked for sex, and the man feels “out of shape”, to learn to politely say “no”, try to avoid intercourse, so as not to encounter “failure The “failure” of the blow. If it is a fertility requirement and you do not want to miss the woman’s ovulation, you can choose the next morning to make up for it. Generally, sex should be avoided when either spouse is ill, under stress, nervous and anxious, depressed, fatigued, hungry or after drinking, in a bad environment, or when the couple is not in a good relationship. The right time for intercourse, both to produce a pleasant physical sensation, but also to make the couple love, the opposite is the trigger for the rupture of the couple’s feelings.