When I visit the clinic, I notice that some kids don’t like to look at their moms, and then I ask the mom if she’s always worried about her kids. The mom says yes. Mom’s anxiety, will show, the child can detect, will become do not like to see their mother, this is very detrimental to the child’s growth, because it will not be able to establish a good attachment emotion. Parents need to know that establishing good attachment is the foundation for developing a healthy personality in their children. What are attachment emotions? Attachment is a special and lasting emotional bond between an infant and its mother, which is a positive mutual relationship full of deep feelings between the mother and the infant. It is a positive and affectionate relationship between the mother and the infant. It is related to the mother’s frequent response to the infant’s needs and pleasant reinforcing stimuli, and it is also the result of the infant’s social understanding of human beings, which ranges from generalization to differentiation in the course of his or her interactions with people. How important are attachment emotions? Attachment is expressed by the infant’s preference for proximity to the object of his attachment, when he feels comforted, cozy, and happy. When he is afraid and anxious in an unfamiliar environment, the presence of the attachment figure (the mother) will make him feel secure. Once this sense of attachment security is established, the infant will be more free to explore new things around him, and will be willing to try to socialize with other people, and will adapt to the society more broadly. Therefore, this mutual attachment between mother and infant is a “safe base” for the infant to socialize with others and explore the outside world. The quality of this early mother-infant attachment is important for the infant’s cognitive development and social adaptation in later life. This is what we call secure attachment, which not only promotes the child’s intellectual development, but also leads to trust, self-trust, successful attachment to peers and offspring, and good interpersonal relationships with people. How to build a good secure attachment? How can we establish this secure attachment emotionally? The main thing is that the mother should pay attention to reasonable fulfillment of his needs in her communication with the baby, express her love for the baby in many ways such as expression, language, touching and cuddling, and moreover give him emotional support when he encounters problems. Encourage your baby in new environments or when he comes into contact with strangers by telling him, “Mommy is here to watch over you,” and encouraging him to explore and socialize with others. If this is done, most babies can develop secure attachments. If there is a lack of patience and attention to mother-child bonding, some types of insecure attachment or non-attachment may occur. Babies who have not established secure mother-infant attachment feelings are mostly not good at getting along with others later in life, or cannot face reality well and are prone to some psychological problems. Understanding baby’s needs Babies are so small that they can’t speak, and at the very beginning, they just cry to express their needs. Parents should be able to recognize the reason why their children are crying, is it pulling up? Peeing? Hungry? Sleepy? Hot? etc. As far as possible to meet the baby’s requirements correctly. When the baby is awake, talk to the baby more often and hug him/her frequently, so that it is easy to build up good attachment feelings.