Parents put all their energy into their children’s studies, as if grades are the only way to have a future, but parents think carefully: what kind of child can be invincible for life, and do grades really mean a future? Have you listened to the inner voice of the child? Voice 1, Mom and Dad always compare me with other children Child 1: I have a lot of peers around me, Mom always says intentionally or unintentionally which which child how? Look at you? It makes me suffer a lot and sometimes I have a very strong sense of inferiority! Voice 2, Mom and Dad only focus on my academic performance Child 2: My mother is a teacher, at school at home do not forget her those students, always in front of me to say that she which which students how? Let me suffer from poor academic performance! Voice 3, mom and dad did not see the process of my efforts Child 3: I think I am a very well-behaved child, many times accommodate my parents, for example: in fact, I do not like studying very much, I prefer sports, but, see my parents in order to my academic performance can come up, so worried, I try hard to read and practice, but, my parents never affirm me, or say how my grades are not good, but Then there is no care in fact I have worked very hard, sacrificing my a lot of rest time! Voice 4, Mom and Dad always think I don’t know what to do, everything is decided for me Child 4: I am already a high school student, my volunteer is a doctor, but, my parents do not allow, said as a doctor know the hardships, but, I hope my life in the big things can make their own decisions! …… As a parent, have you listened to the voice from the heart of your child? Parents value their children’s academic performance, but the key to good grades is for children to love learning! How can you make your child love learning? In fact, most children do not know why they have to study. All parents need to do is to let your child see your hard work and efforts in their eyes and hearts, and want to study hard from the bottom of their hearts, at the same time, regardless of the results, far from your expectations or near, more recognition of your child’s efforts, only then your child will be able to motivate more than, bitter and happy, go forward, straight to the goal! Many times we impose our own ideas or wishes on our children in the name of “managing them”, and take out our emotions on them for things we don’t like or don’t like, in the name of “being good to him/her”, but this may However, this may hurt the child’s young mind and make the child subconsciously feel that he/she is inferior to others in many aspects, which will sow the seeds of unhappiness for the rest of the child’s life! What should parents do? This is a matter of great concern to everyone, next I’ll talk about my personal opinion: high quality companionship Many people raise children’s methods: every day all the time not to guard the child to play with the child, it is easy for the child to fall asleep, the mother rushed to cook, laundry, clean up the house, the work is not done, the baby is awake again, continue to accompany the baby ……. The question is, is this constant companionship with the child, indeed the child needs? In fact, before the child is one year old, it does need the mother’s constant company, but when the child learns to walk and begins to explore the world on its own, the mother and father need to let go more! High-quality companionship can make both partners happy and peaceful. In the process of companionship, the child absorbs not only what the parents do, but also what they do. Parents can play with their children to make them feel important, so that they can have more in common with each other and build a good parent-child relationship. Don’t try to make the child give you “face” “Sing one, or mommy will not be happy”, “Why are you so timid, it’s useless”. “This child is just so out of place” …… Mothers and fathers count their children, thinking that other people’s children are performing and theirs will be considered stupid if they don’t. The truth is, no one cares if your child can sing, and it’s only your own face that you can’t cross over. If the standard of excellence in the eyes of the mother and father is that the child can earn face for her every time she needs face, then this kind of love is not too selfish, so that the children raised out of the child will not necessarily grow up to be excellent, but will definitely become a performing personality, lose themselves and become others. Restrain the possession of love and cultivate the ability to love Often children who are not good at fighting come home to be scolded by their mothers, “He stole your toy, why don’t you grab it back”, “He hit you, why didn’t you fight back”, in the face of this kind of blame, will the child be hurt more deeply? Will the child be hurt more deeply? Children in the group was robbed of toys, was beaten a little hurt deep? This is the love of hate, because love you, so anxious, so the mouth is not to say. But is this really because of love? In fact, the world of children have their own rules, each child will find a way, according to their own characteristics and temperament, to find their own positioning. Moms and dads should not stand in the position of adults to complicate the world of children, divided into friends and enemies, bad guys and good guys, bullies and bullied, but silently observe, first encourage and then guide. Compared to toys, children care more about being recognized. Mom and dad’s words and actions directly affect the child’s outlook on life.