Accepting bad news like a bolt from the blue Within two weeks after receiving a cancer diagnosis, it is often clinically referred to as the “emotional shock period”. Patients often find it difficult to accept the cancer diagnosis, and may feel shocked, deny, avoid or disbelieve such a cruel fact, and may experience various negative emotions such as worry, aggression, anxiety and depression. Some people do not recognize the diagnosis of cancer and continue to work and study as usual; some doubt whether the doctor’s diagnosis is correct and whether the family members have concealed the disease; some develop a psychological state of fear of cancer and death. These manifestations of denial, suspicion and fear are actually a psychological defense strategy for people. In these emotional states, there may be a lack of appetite, difficulty sleeping, difficulty concentrating, and difficulty maintaining daily life. For most people, these symptoms will disappear within 7-10 days, with some people taking longer. Different people in different psychological states may behave differently. Some people may think that the doctor got the test results wrong and go to different hospitals to repeat the tests, while others may avoid reality and throw aside the test list requested by the doctor. In short, how to accept such bad news is the first psychological hurdle that every cancer patient must overcome. Facing all kinds of difficulties between treatments After patients are sure about the diagnosis, all their minds will be focused on the things related to the disease. The emotions of disowning and guessing gradually disappear and fear becomes the main emotion. For example, some patients who are usually in better health and younger are prone to aggravation and anger, thinking that they are unfortunate and still so young, why did they have cancer by themselves. During treatment, the efficacy of treatment is the most important concern and worry for every patient and family members, and it is usually a complex psychological state of anxiety accompanied by hope. At the same time, the lowering of blood picture, hair loss and vomiting caused by chemotherapy and other treatments will make patients and family members worried; the expensive medical expenses will increase the psychological burden of patients, which becomes a big stone in the hearts of many patients. As the treatment progresses, many patients, after receiving standardized treatment and learning about the disease, will adopt an optimistic and calm attitude to face the disease and treatment, and their mood will gradually calm down, and they will be able to face difficulties positively and start to solve problems with emotional stability. On the other hand, some patients cannot face the disease and treatment with a calm mind, or are haunted by negative thoughts all day long, feeling sad, fearful and helpless, pessimistic and disappointed about the future, or even giving up treatment or thinking of dying. The misfortunes of cancer patients are similar. How to face the difficulties during cancer treatment and how to adjust their mentality is the second psychological hurdle that cancer patients have to go through. Self-blame, confusion and fear in the mind When we have cancer, we will regret that we did not pay attention to our body before, and we will blame ourselves very much. Some people will hold a “criticism meeting” for themselves all day long, and some people will often have various negative thoughts in their mind. Do you have any of the following thoughts? Here is a dialogue with a psychologist to see if the psychologist’s words have any inspiration for us. What do cancer patients usually fear? 1.Fear of death; 2.Fear of pain; 3.Fear of dismemberment or disfigurement; 4.Fear of side effects of treatment; 5.Fear of not getting enough information; 6.Fear of losing control …… How to face the aggression and anger inside? 1, learn to love themselves Some patients summarize the cause of their illness, will come to the conclusion that I am angry with others, this other person may be the husband, or neighbors …… In fact, these right and wrong, in front of the disease, will appear insignificant, but this aggression in turn will also hurt ourselves. It is not important to sort out who is right and who is wrong, what is important is how we can better learn to love ourselves, first of all, to calm the aggression and anger in our hearts. 2, cherish everything you have Remember: life is used to run, not to calculate; feelings, is used to maintain, not to test; love, is used to love, not to hurt; trust, is used to precipitate, not to challenge. In the face of injury we have to be tolerant, but tolerance is not to tolerate, but to spare others while sparing themselves; tolerance is not to condone mistakes, but for the sake of harmonious progress Know how to be healthy, know how to love In the face of internal grievances and anger, how do we resolve them? 1. Pay attention to mental health. In the face of frustration and disappointment, do not lose yourself, give up all the reasons that make you sad, find a thing that makes you happy, open the mind, and learn to water the tree of the heart with the following emotions. 2.Pay attention to the impact of emotions on physical health. 3.Learn to express your emotions in a healthy way, become the master of your emotions, and regulate your inner aggression and anger in time. 4.Know how to love. Use love to dissolve the unpleasantness in your heart, learn to appreciate others while appreciating yourself, and find the beauty in life.