In today’s material conditions, there is no hunger disease for children, and there is a hunger called “your mother thinks you are hungry”. Children’s diet does require adult care, but adults must also respect the child’s dietary choices and independence. Parents will require their children to eat all the food on the plate, no leftovers, and have to do so for three reasons: 1, the rules of eating should be established early in life, otherwise it will develop bad habits. 2, the child must not have eaten enough, should eat a little more. 3, the child is growing, nutrition is to be rich, the meal should be more. At first glance, these three reasons for the concept seems to be no problem, but back to the table to see the “battlefield”, you will know that there are actually a lot of problems inside! And the following 3 points can be said to be the most important myths. 1, the development of eating ability contains many items in the early development of self-care ability of young children, the development of eating ability, in fact, contains many items, such as “children’s self-eating ability” (can they eat by themselves), “children’s eating quality” (have not eaten better and better), “children’s eating duration” (time to concentrate on eating), “children’s eating environment adaptation” (can they eat in a fixed dining chair and There is a big difference between the observation of parents that “eating is the only way to behave” and the observation of parents that “eating is the only way to behave”. 2. Adults tend to ask their children to eat too much Statistical studies have found that 1/3 of parents still ask their children to eat more after they say they are full, resulting in children often overeating. To confirm that this is not a parenting theory, I ask parents in many of my family talks: “Do you put food on your baby’s plate and then add more dishes that you think are nutritious or that your child loves? More than half of the parents in each session said that they would do this action. If this is the case, the total amount your child ends up eating is definitely not the amount you thought was just right at the beginning. 3. Forget to add snack portions Nutrition is important, but there must also be the concept of “abundance”. Let the child every day large meals plus small meals, sometimes ignore the amount of snacks, sometimes the time allocation is not good, the main meal and more food, it is really difficult for the child! Some people may say: Is there really a hungry child in our society now? I think we will know the answer if we look at the statistics of childhood obesity rate increasing year by year! “In 1991, an interesting study was conducted on young children between the ages of 2 and 5. These children lived at home, i.e., in their familiar environment, and ate 3 meals and 3 snacks per day. The daily food was varied and balanced, with occasional desserts. The special feature was that they were given a “double portion” each time, and they could decide how much they wanted to eat. The experiment again proved that the children ate exactly the amount they needed, they did not “overeat,” and although the amount of each meal was uneven, sometimes eating almost nothing and sometimes eating a lot, the total amount was about the same each day. If they eat a lot at one meal, they may not eat at the next. A child’s ability to regulate perfectly is really enviable, but unfortunately the older a person gets the more he or she will be influenced by the outside world. The “eat all the food” rule is the cause of not eating well and obesity. Studies have found that boys who are required to eat all the food will order larger meals when eating out; adults with obesity have a much deeper impression of the family’s dietary rules as children than adults of normal weight, and “eat all the food” is the most common rule. “Wow, you ate all the rice, you’re great!” “Eat all the vegetables in your bowl before you can leave the table.” Most parents want their children to eat well, and even use encouragement, intimidation, and coaxing to get them to “finish their meals. We are living in an era where we have regular meals, afternoon tea, and the ability to go to the night market for a snack, or go to the store for a snack at any time, and most children are not hungry, but children are still born with the ability to control their diet. When parents are not aware of this change in the times and still focus on “eating a clean plate” instead of the child’s true “satiety”, children will gradually lose the ability to control their own diet, setting the stage for future eating problems. Doing so will only make snacks seem more tempting, but will eliminate the child’s intrinsic motivation to choose healthy foods. Too much bargaining at the dinner table can also blur the focus and prevent children from concentrating on their internal hunger messages. By the time they are adults, training overrides intuition, and all they know is to bury their heads in the sand and finish the food on their plates, without knowing what “full” really feels like. The good news is that more and more research is seeing the benefits of focusing on internal hunger messages. Research teams have found that young people who use hunger and satiety to guide their personal diet have a lower body mass index (BMI) and a lower rate of eating disorders than young people who don’t, and such girls are less likely to deliberately lose weight or overeat. In this era of abundant food and easy to raise a small fat, it is more important to know when you are “full” than to “clear your plate”. Overfeeding can lead to anorexia nervosa There is some truth in the old saying, “If you want a child to be well, you need to be hungry and cold. “Generally speaking, if a child is not sick, even a few months old will have an appetite, and if he is hungry, he will show that he wants to eat. If the child has eaten enough or does not show a desire to eat, but parents are afraid of losing him, starving him, forcing him to eat, which on the one hand will lead to the child grow too fat, too fast and too big. In the near future, this will lead to the child’s mobility and clumsy performance, and in the far future, it will give the child’s future health risks. If this happens regularly, it can lead to anorexia nervosa in children. The so-called anorexia nervosa, to put it bluntly, means that the child will not be interested in any food in the future.”