Children, like adults, are also an independent individual with strong self-esteem and honor and shame, and parents as educators must learn to protect their children’s self-esteem so that it is not hurt, to do this first must fully trust their children. The child in the case will be beaten will indeed retreat because of fear of cowardice, but in this process of being bullied the child’s heart has been hurt, if the way to deal with one is to let the child’s heart suffer secondary damage, the child will think they are not capable in the eyes of their mother and father too useless, there will be more negative things. Then if a similar problem occurs again and then dare not do it will feel more useless, do it appears worse. Handling way two although the second best, but if afterwards not to carry out the correct value orientation to guide the child is equally prone to problems. Children because of the age of small, their views on things and the evaluation of the self completely dependent on others, so adults on the value of things to judge the direct impact on the child’s perception. Parents four don’t 1, teach the baby “violence to violence” Scenario: Dad arrived at the kindergarten full of joy, but as soon as he saw the point, he found his pink little face more than a red scratch, Dad really heartbroken. Later, the teacher explained that it was because Dot was playing with another little boy, and the boy scratched Dot’s face because he was fighting over a toy. The father was furious and “taught” the baby not to suffer next time, to be brave and fight back, to knock the other side down to not be bullied! It’s understandable that parents love their children and don’t want them to be bullied, but it’s definitely not right to “hit back when you’re hit”. Parents scold the other child in a violent way, or even instigate the child to fight back with a tooth for a tooth next time, the child will think that the parents are encouraging this behavior and that violence is the best way to solve the problem. The child will easily become arrogant, irritable or even become violent, so that the child is difficult to establish friendly and harmonious interpersonal relationships with others. The right approach: When a child is beaten and bullied, parents should first of all be cool-headed and not lose their heads in a rage because their baby is being bullied. Parents can teach their children some coping skills, when the child is being bullied, encourage the child to quickly, actively and accurately state their position, tell each other “no hitting me”, or immediately report to the teacher, asking for help. Parents can also take the initiative to communicate with the other parent or teacher to prevent similar things from happening again. 2.Yelling and blaming the teacher Scenario: Mom saw Ling Ling crying and red eyes, and asked the reason to know that Ling Ling’s beloved doll brought to kindergarten was stolen by another little girl and broken, Ling Ling scolded each other in anger and was even scratched by the child’s arm. The mother was angry at the teacher’s “indifference” and had to go to the teacher to argue. The teacher found out about the beating and stopped it immediately, and explained to the parents when they picked up their child from school, so the teacher’s sincere attitude deserved the parents’ understanding. However, some parents are overly critical and loudly accuse the teacher of faults in front of their children and other parents, and even complain to the director of the school. On the one hand, this will create a gap between parents and teachers and intensify the conflict; on the other hand, as the teacher is the closest person to the child in the kindergarten, such behavior of parents will make the child have a crisis of trust in the teacher and lose the sense of security, thus affecting the child’s life and learning in kindergarten. The right approach: Parents should realize that most teachers are competent and trustworthy. Parents can do more communication with the teacher about the child’s fighting problem and ask the teacher to pay more attention to the child’s activities. Parents can also encourage their children to build a trusting relationship with their teachers, telling them that “when someone steals your toy, you can tell your teacher and let her do justice” and that they should learn to be humble, share, and not hit others. “If someone comes to grab your face, you can use your arms to block it.” Teach your child some ways to protect himself. 3. Ask the baby who hit you for the reason Scenario: When she picked up Bao’er from school, the teacher told her that the child and a little boy named Xiao Lin had a fight because of some words. The mother was so angry that she had to find Xiao Lin the next day and question him face to face about why he had hit Bao’er. Xiao Lin was frightened by his mother’s anger and just cried, which could not say anything. Some parents are angry with the baby who hit them, forcing him to ask the reason for the hit. This approach is actually a kind of “cold violence” Oh. Although it is not right to hit a baby and you want him to realize his mistake, but in fact, babies often hit because they are too young to properly express their feelings and needs, so they use inappropriate ways to win their own interests. There is no need for parents to categorize it as moral and make a big deal about little kids. The right thing to do: Parents should treat the “little bully” who scratches their baby the same as any other baby. If possible, parents will stay out of the matter, concern but not interfere, let the child independently in their own circle and other children to deal with, let the baby slowly realize the solution, and parents only as the child’s moral backing, give him support to give him courage, so that the baby knows that being beaten is not his fault, the mother will stand on the baby’s side. 4, ignore other parents Scenario: originally Xiao Xin and Xiao Zhi two good friends, but in a small party, two children because of the fight to watch cartoons and then fight, the two parents were also good words to persuade, and later felt that the other child is too ungenerous, so that no one wants to take the initiative to admit fault, parents because of this small matter and the gap between the parents, now even pick up children The parents are now no longer greeting each other when they see each other after school. As a result of often picking up children, I believe that some parents are familiar with each other, and even privately often get together to have a family bonding. Don’t let family interactions become tense because of fights between babies, parents ignore each other, it’s a shame! In fact, babies are the least vindictive. One minute children are fighting and fighting to the death, but the next minute they may be having a good time. So, why should parents take it too seriously? The right approach: If children are fighting in kindergarten, parents don’t have to take it too seriously, and can even take a hands-off approach and let the teacher assist while the children work it out between themselves. Parents can also create some conditions for the babies to play together and see how they cooperate. If there is an argument between babies, parents can first see if they can solve it on their own, and if two babies are getting anxious, parents can step in to mediate and tell them the right thing to do. Adults for children’s education should be from a positive point of view, generally first to encourage affirmation and then point out the problem, so that children are more receptive, and can make children from an early age to develop a positive and optimistic attitude and way of thinking, conducive to the healthy growth of children.