When it comes to child rearing, many parents have a lot of differences with their parents’ generation. The older generation likes to use the enumeration method to illustrate the problem, especially the phrase “back in the day, you were also the one who took the urine and feces over here”. Many people believe that “put the urine to put the stool” is with Chinese characteristics of parenting, then, in the end should not give the child to put the urine to put the stool, do this in the end good? First, the harm of the urine and stool from the medical point of view, the urine and stool is detrimental to the child’s health, not only is not conducive to the development of the baby’s hip joints, but also easy to cause the baby prolapse, anal fissure and other phenomena. The frequent urination of infants will cause excessive urination, which is not conducive to the maturity of the bladder function. In addition, the urinating and pooping itself violates and deprives infants of their ability to control themselves. Psychologically, it will also make the child not feel respected and easy to form a false self. We find that some people, every time they go to a new place, or every time they go to the car and take a plane, they must go to the toilet first, even if they have just been there ten minutes ago. Why? It is to get back the sense of control and security of the body. If we can respect our children’s feelings, they can build their true selves around their feelings and become more confident and relaxed. If we force the child to follow the will of the adults, the child’s ego is built around the will of the parents, creating a false ego. He lives all the time around other people’s ideas, other people’s emotions. This result, at its root, has a lot to do with the fact that we adults have to poop and pee our children at our own point in time. Second, can peeing and pooping achieve the goal of training children to control their bowel movements? The urethral sphincter and anal sphincter of infants are not fully developed until the age of about 3 years. This is the physiological basis for human control of urination. Until then, a child is not capable of fully controlling bowel movements and urination. Especially before the age of 1, rather than training the child to urinate, parents should be trained to find times when it is easier for the child to urinate, such as 5-15 minutes after breastfeeding, after waking up from sleep, etc. This is still a relatively successful way of training the child to urinate. This is still relatively successful urinary training. Failed training is common before the age of 1 year, and the consequence is that the child does not know how to urinate according to the urge to urinate, but only knows how to urinate reflexively according to the action of “being put”. For example, I often hear many parents complain that their children cannot sleep peacefully at night and have to be put through a splash of urine before they can go back to sleep, and even during the day, they don’t put it through the urine, but only know that they are crying because they are holding it in. Many parents demanding children, once the child to urinate when not urinating, or not to urinate when they urinate, will blame the child, and even reprimand scolding method to require children to urinate before you must tell parents. Third, do not blame the child for peeing pants, it is the parents of the trouble to pee over time will form a conditioned reflex, the child in the case of peeing, it is very easy to pee out. But when the child enters the kindergarten, the teacher is unlikely for each child to go to the urine. The child finds it difficult to control his body and his bowel movements at this time. He needs to get used to the rhythm again. The child’s physiology has not yet grown to the stage where he can control his own bowel movements, so he waits until he wants to pee and can’t help it to tell an adult, and ends up peeing before his pants are properly removed. Many parents will be upset and even scold the child for wetting his/her pants again. The child will naturally think that he or she has done something wrong. In fact, this has nothing to do with the child! Fourth, is it good to use diapers? What if the baby hates diapers? The biggest problem with diapers is that they are not environmentally friendly, because the absorbent components in them are not biodegradable. Also wearing diapers is never as comfortable as a bare bottom. Other than that, there are few other problems. Many of the problems with diapers are fallacies and mothers can use them with complete confidence. It is also recommended that moms at least put diapers on when the baby sleeps, so that the baby sleeps a little better and the mom rests a little better. “Diaper + Diaper”, is an economical and comfortable choice! Many babies will start to hate wearing diapers at 7 or 8 months. So many mothers simply give the child only pants during the day, wetting a clean change, seven or eight pants a day is enough, and at night thrown into the washing machine together, not at all laborious. If you are afraid that the baby does not wear diapers urine bed and sofa, you can sit and play in the baby, lay a large diaper pad, or simply daytime with a large diaper pad to the sofa and bed. Five, really effective urination training! The baby is about 1.5 years old, many mothers find that the baby can tell in advance before peeing, which means that the mother can begin to do some simple and basic urinary training. Of course, if you continue to diaper your baby, it’s perfectly fine to wait until age 2 to start training, and your baby will learn faster. A cute potty is a great option. A convenient and cute potty will make your baby more willing to go to the potty or tell an adult when he or she has to pee. It will also enable your baby to slowly learn to take off and lift his/her own pants, learn to control his/her movements to sit on the potty accurately, and the skill of not peeing outside. The improvement of these abilities will also enhance your baby’s self-confidence. If you are still peeing at this time, or even because the baby does not cooperate with peeing or not tell the baby to pee in advance and reprimand the baby, the baby can learn what? There are many kinds of diaper pans sold on the market, including straddle ones and backrest ones. Mom can choose according to the baby’s preferences, one does not like to try another. Many fathers abroad to help two- and three-year-old boys to learn to pee, will take the baby to the urinal or next to a small toilet, or set up a footstool next to the toilet, throw a wheat ring to the water, so that the boy aimed at the wheat ring “fire”. This is a great way for parents to think about positively guiding their child’s urination training. Another idea that is widely used is to let the child come in and “observe” while the adult goes to the bathroom. Children learn from imitation, especially like to imitate the practice of adults, do up to feel very powerful feeling. Six, how to protect the little butt? The baby’s little butt trouble, one is urine soaking, the second is trauma. Whether you use diapers, or diapers, pay attention to the diligent change, wash the buttocks, if necessary, use buttock cream or scented oil to protect the buttock skin. Allow time for sun exposure and ventilation for little butts. If you don’t wear diapers or wipes, try to wear closed-crotch pants instead of open-crotch pants for kids, both male and female. This will protect your child’s butt from dirt and germs, and will make it less likely that your boy’s penis will get abrasions and scratches. Some moms complain that wearing closed-crotch pants makes them wet their pants a lot. Isn’t it actually just a matter of washing more pairs of pants? Just keep five, six, seven or eight pairs on hand. It’s easy to run them through the water once at night, wash away most of the urine and throw them in the washing machine. Although we were also put over, but now is not about scientific parenting, so don’t be “…… so over” confined to our parenting philosophy.