The baby has become “enthusiastic” about hitting people since some time, when he turned around and hit another child without paying attention. The mother is embarrassed and rushes to apologize and give the baby’s bottom a couple of times “I told you to hit someone”. Many parents are beginning to wonder how their originally well-behaved babies suddenly like to hit others. 1, baby hand development exploration stage: baby love hitting commonly occurs in about 1-year-old baby, because at this stage of baby hand development in a sensitive period. They suddenly found that the original small hands can also be used in this way, and in the baby’s first hit most people did not go to stop, and even teach the baby to hit the family to amuse the baby, they think this is smart, is close to him. 2, the lack of language expression skills: about 1 year old baby language expression ability is still very lacking, can not express their true thoughts, sometimes they just whistle with you or others, the baby does not know that this is hitting behavior, but also can not grasp the weight. So they can only express their thoughts through other means. 3, baby self-awareness began to emerge: about 2 years old baby self-awareness is developing rapidly, everything to the “I” word at the head, “I” things will not allow others to touch, to “protect” up, so there is a playmate’s behavior. At the same time, babies are very concerned about the importance of their parents to themselves. If parents do not pay attention to the baby because they are holding other babies or people at home, the baby will trigger a strong jealousy of the third party “strike”, or crying, dropping things and other upset emotions. 4, the growth of baby’s imitation ability: baby’s imitation ability is very strong. In life, parents are sometimes seen slapping each other to express their feelings, or when babies see the fight scenes on TV, they will inadvertently imitate. In the community we commonly see these kinds of treatment 1, violence to violence: some moms or dads will immediately give the baby two after seeing the baby hit. In fact, this situation will only make the baby’s heart resentful. At the same time, the baby will be very confused: why you can hit me, but I can not hit others. The child who is full of resentment inside may use the hitting method to solve the problem next time. 2. Cold treatment: Leave the baby alone to calm down and think by himself. This is also a simple and rough way for the baby to be inappropriate. 3, restrict children to go out to play: some parents are afraid that the baby will cause trouble, they reduce the baby and other children’s contact opportunities, so that the baby less go out to play at home. This approach is not conducive to the physical and mental development of the baby. 4, to the baby labeled “bad boy”: mom and dad to the baby labeled “you are a bad boy” “you love to hit”, which in turn reinforces the baby hitting this thing. This is the time when it is most important for moms and dads to properly guide their babies to build their relationship skills, rather than letting them avoid it. This is because avoiding and not facing the problem will not produce positive results. Aggression in babies is more of an exploration of the world, the development of interpersonal relationships and the beginning of the mentalization process. Correctly interpreting and dealing with aggression at this stage will help your child grow up later. By dealing with this issue, parents are actually helping their children to properly express their needs and get outside help, rather than simply correcting behavior. What should parents do? 1, parents should remain calm and divert the baby’s attention If parents overreact, the child will find it funny to think that they are playing a game with them, and in turn will keep repeating the action. Therefore, it is a good way to divert attention in time. You can find alternative toys for your child, and children who show a tendency to hit can play with some percussive musical instrument toys to shift the need for hand development to other places. 2. Teach your child appropriate expressions When your child raises his or her hand and is ready to hit, immediately grab the child’s hand and make a touching motion, and tell the baby, “Touch Mommy, Mommy is so happy and happy~”. No matter how old the child is, it is very important to stop and tell the child the right thing to do at the same time. The child’s knowledge of the world is still very little, so when they are not allowed to do so and so, the child will be quite helpless and overwhelmed, rather than let the child into an embarrassing and helpless predicament, it is better to quickly give the child a correct guidance instructions. 3, set a good example for the child Love to imitate is a child’s innate ability, so mothers must pay attention to their own words and actions in front of the child, not in front of the child to use excessive behavior to deal with the problem; remember the very hot video circulated in the circle of friends before, because a girl playing in the playground stepped on a boy, but did not apologize, resulting in the boy’s mother to the girl did not relent, emotions are quite out of control, the emotional outburst to drag the little girl. Emotional outburst to drag the little girl, their own children were also scared and cried. Although the mother is for the little boy argued, but the mother’s aggressive approach really did not set a good example for the little boy, if the mother is such a way to deal with the future, for the child, and finally only learned to move on the violent response.