When raising children, Chinese people know that “raising children poorly and raising daughters richly”, believing that the education of boys should be harsh in material matters, while for girls to meet their material needs. But experts believe that the real meaning of the phrase is: poor son, the focus on the cultivation of its strong will, character and sense of responsibility; rich daughter, to shape its good temperament, broaden the horizons, increase experience and insight. As the old saying goes: “Hardship and suffering, the jade is in the making.” To let the son from the boy into a “real man”, we must “labor its bones, grinding its will, the top of its confidence, refining its physical strength”. To summarize, the following aspects can be grasped: 1, a bit of “hard life” superior material life is the first killer to bury boys, will breed hedonism, frugality, the heart of comparison, etc.. Parents should control the boy’s expenses, the necessary growth, learning expenses can not be less, but the child proposed to buy new shoes and new clothes parents unconditionally meet, a birthday must go to a big hotel, classmates bought a new cell phone they also want …… such requirements parents must be careful to allow, not to take how many names, how many points in exchange. 2, experience a sense of frustration The flowers in the greenhouse can not withstand the storm. The actual fact is that you can find a lot of people who are not able to get a good deal on this. But to give the necessary guidance, so that children know how to solve problems. 3, learn to live independently Some college students send a packet of dirty clothes home every month, such news is mind-boggling, but true. When men grow up to accept a variety of social challenges, when they are young, they must learn to independently undertake things within their reach. Parents may wish to appropriate “lazy”, from a young age consciously let boys dress themselves, packing bags and so on. 4, appropriate to suffer a little aggravation society has a lot of unfair things. The boy was properly aggrieved from childhood, will have a deeper understanding of life. So, boys do wrong, even if there is a misunderstanding, parents may also want to “harsh” a little, give appropriate criticism and punishment. In addition, everything must have a cause, such as being bullied by others, parents should ask whether the child first to provoke others. The boy should know how to take his share of responsibility from an early age. 5, to do things with a finish Children often do things “three minutes hot”, half of the things to do began to complain, want to stop. But boys have to finish what they started, parents must not agree to stop, must be properly cheered, and urge the child to complete seriously. If you allow your child to stop halfway once, then the next time, and the next time, you will develop a character of procrastination, lack of seriousness, and giving up when there are difficulties. A girl who is “richly raised” will be more knowledgeable, independent and assertive, and will know exactly what she wants, so she will not be easily seduced by all kinds of worldly prosperity and vanity when she grows up. But “rich” does not mean that parents have to “throw money” at girls, poor girls can also be “rich”. The specific do up, you can pay attention to the following points: 1, more encouragement Girls need more affirmation and recognition, because this is their self-confidence, independence, strength, the pursuit of excellence in the source of motivation. Therefore, parents to say more words of encouragement to girls, more to give an encouraging hug, you can make girls more confident. 2, more love Parental love is a “safe haven” for girls’ hearts, so that their hearts become bright, warm and optimistic. But parents should pay attention, too much “love” is spoiled, is likely to cultivate a petulant, rude and unreasonable “little princess”. Parents need to provide girls with rich conditions and environments that allow children to “explore freely” and see the richness of the world in order to build a sense of security. Only when a girl’s knowledge grows and her ability to judge is enhanced will she not be easily seduced by the outside world. There are many ways to grow in knowledge, and families that have the means to do so can often travel and learn some talents. In the journey encountered do not know the road, parents can let their daughters to help ask for directions, so that the child in the trip not only increased knowledge, but also learned the skills of interaction with people. Families with poorer conditions can let their girls read more, even if a library card is a good practice.