Remember those embarrassing questions you asked your parents as a child: Where did I come from? And parents gave a lot of creative answers to prevent us from knowing the truth: You came from mom’s armpit/belly button. You were picked up by Daddy from inside the garbage can. You popped out of a rock. And so on and so forth, it is simply the biggest shadow of childhood. Nowadays, as parents, when faced with the same questions from our own children, we also give full play to our imagination to give a new age version 2.0 answer: You were sent to us on a cell phone bill. You were mailed together with your mother’s online shopping, etc. … continue to pass on our childhood shadows to the next generation. This situation is a true reflection of the paucity of sex education in our families: there is a strong need for children, and parents are too shy or don’t know how to educate properly. In fact, we have to follow the general rules of children’s education, that is, children of different ages have different levels of cognition, sexual awareness and sexual development, and the content and methods of sex education are also different, so let’s discuss one by one how to educate children about sex at different ages! 0-3 years old: Before the age of 3, children’s sexual awareness is still in its infancy. 1 year old children can distinguish male and female through their faces and voices, around 2 years old can understand the difference between male and female, most of them can know their own gender, and by the age of 3, these gender awareness is relatively mature. 1 year old children will start to have the desire to know their own body parts and organs. At this time, parents can boldly let their children know their own sexual organs. Parents should establish their children’s correct gender concepts, strengthen their own gender concepts, and meet their gender needs in the process of parenting, dressing and playing. 3 years old – before puberty: This period is also still in the budding stage of sexual awareness. However, children’s awareness of gender differences is deeper and more stable, and although their sexual organs are not yet developed, they become curious about their own sexual organs, and some even play with them. Therefore, during this period, parents should not only continue to strengthen their children’s own gender concepts, but also consciously let children know their own and the opposite sex’s sexual organs correctly through their own bodies, picture books or cartoons, eliminate their curiosity and shame, let them learn to look at their own and the opposite sex’s sexual organs with the same normal mind as their eyes and nose, and at the same time, bring children together every day to maintain The children will learn to look at their own and the opposite sex’s sexual organs with the same common sense as their eyes, nose and other organs. This period of children may have curiosity to play with their sexual organs, parents must not blame or even scold the child, but to eliminate their curiosity as described above, as long as there is no curiosity, these behaviors will generally disappear on their own. Adolescence: During this period, children not only experience great changes in their secondary sexual characteristics, but also experience stormy changes in their sexual psychology, so sex education at this time is the most critical period, and because the changes in boys and girls are different, the content of education is not the same. For boys, parents should let them gradually realize that the scrotum and penis will gradually increase in size, the pubic hair will slowly increase, the erection of the penis and seminal emission is what is going on. For girls, parents should let them know that their breasts will gradually increase in size, their pubic hair will slowly increase, and their vulva will slowly change and they will have menstruation. In addition to making children aware of these physical changes, it is also important to pay attention to their psychological fluctuations, and it is best to have fathers teach their sons and mothers teach their daughters about sex, and to discuss and guide them with their own experiences. In addition to the gradual development of sexual organs, another distinctive feature of this period is the rapid development of sexual consciousness, which will bring about the development of sexual impulses and behaviors: a small number of adolescents may develop masturbation, while a very small number of adolescents may even have sexual behavior. In this case, parents should also provide early sex education: first of all, they should show their understanding of masturbation, which is actually a kind of sex life in western countries, and secondly, they should let their children know the harm caused by excessive masturbation and develop healthy hobbies to divert their attention. For the education of sexual behavior, parents should educate their children early on gender relations and morality, and also let them know clearly what sexual behavior is about, what harm premature sexual behavior can bring to themselves and each other, and how to protect themselves during sexual behavior is also necessary. Late adolescence to early adulthood: Few parents realize that sex education is still needed during this period. Indeed, the sexual physiology and sexual consciousness of this period has been relatively mature, but there is still room for further development in the higher level of gender morality, the concept of choosing a spouse, offspring rearing, etc. At this time, parents may not need to carry out specific education, but parents can come as a person, with a correct world view and view of life and children to discuss and guide actively. To sum up, sex education is a lifelong education, parents should carry out sex education for their children as early as possible, the earlier sex education is carried out the more scientific, the more easily accepted and correct the child’s concept of sex.