It’s really not easy as a parent, you can’t scold your child recklessly, and you can’t indulge too much. In fact, when a child makes a mistake, the first thing parents should do is to control their emotions, and then communicate with their children with a normal heart. The following 16 sentences, parents often inadvertently said the export, but will have a bad impact on children, need to pay special attention. 1, manly man, as far as? It is very important for children to learn to express their emotions freely, if often speak to children like this, eventually the child will become a person who is unable to express their emotions freely (such examples in life are still few). 2. This is not something a boy/girl should do! Don’t arbitrarily dismiss your child at the stage of exploring something that interests him/her. Wouldn’t it be great for a boy to be a great dancer or a girl to be a great athlete? 3. In the future, if you have a child like you, you will know how I feel! This statement may sound like it means something, but it can be very hurtful to the child. Because the subtext of this sentence is that the process of raising this child is not happy, and also contains a deep malice: hope that the child will suffer the same pain in the future. 4. Your mom/dad is a stupid X (or similar). Maybe she/he really is, but you can’t keep hanging on to words like that and saying them to your child. And if you keep hearing you say this, your child will think it’s normal to judge a family member this way. 5. You are more introverted, while your sister/sister/brother/brother/is more outgoing. The only thing this does is make the child go down the road of introversion or extroversion and think that he or she can only be this way. 6. Shut up! Everyone doesn’t like it when people say that about them, and as for children, they respond by not trusting you and saying a lot to you. 7, why can’t you be like your sister or brother? This is of course creating an artificial divide between siblings. 8. Keep crying if you can, and I’ll see how long you cry! In this way, the child will feel that you do not want to communicate with him anymore. Feelings of powerlessness and fear will keep him/her upset, and it’s no longer about what he/she cried for in the first place. The best way is to tell your child to calm down and think about whether this is really okay. 9. Why can’t you do anything right! Everyone accumulates experience from trial and error, you say so, the child will not have the courage to try, of course, will be very slow progress. 10, what’s so scary about it, go try! You tell your child that there is nothing to be afraid of will not make him / her feel better in any way, instead, you should ask your child, what are you afraid of? 11, this is what happens when you do not listen! You may think so when you tell your child not to run, but he/she still runs and falls down. But if you say that to your child, it’s a wasted opportunity to tell him/her some sense. 12. You are a bad child. I believe most parents don’t say this to their children. When a child has really made a mistake and deserves to be taught and corrected. What you need to tell your child is that this thing is bad and this behavior is wrong. 13. I don’t like the way I look. You think saying that about yourself won’t have an effect on your child? If you are a parent who is more confident in your own appearance, your child will become more confident too. 14, I’m not good at math either, this child follows me. Come on, with your words, the child’s math is not good. 15, you do not get, you can not get. I’ll do it for you. Let them brush their own teeth, tie their shoes, finish their homework, as long as they are given, they can learn. If you always do it for them, the result is that all the things children can not do independently. 16, or XX time you better. You may think this is fine, but it will affect your child’s self-confidence and make him/her feel that he/she is not good enough now and will keep reflecting on why he/she has become bad.