When it comes to feeding, it is simply a teary-eyed. Eat more vomit, eat less cry. Every feeding is like a battle. Today, share this good article to more mothers. I hope we take fewer detours on the road with our children. The 3 myths of baby eating Many studies on children’s diets have found that more than half of parents will ask their children to finish all the food in the dinner plate, no leftovers, and parents have to do this, was summarized for three reasons: 1, eating rules to establish a good early, or will develop bad habits. 2, the child must not have eaten enough, should eat a little more. 3, the child is growing, nutrition is to be rich, the meal should be more. At first glance, these three reasons for the concept seems to be no problem, but back to the table to look at the “battlefield”, you will know that there are actually a lot of problems inside! The following 3 points can be said to be the main myths: 1, the development of eating ability includes many items in the early development of self-care ability of young children, the development of eating ability, in fact, includes many items, such as “children’s self-eating ability” (can eat by themselves), “children’s eating quality” (have not eaten better and better), “children’s eating duration” (time to concentrate on eating), “children’s There is a big difference between the “eating environment adaptation” (whether the child can eat in a fixed dining chair and at the dining table) and the “behave only after eating” observed by parents. 2, adults will often ask children to eat too much Statistical studies have found that 1/3 of parents still ask their children to eat more after they say they are full, resulting in children often eat too much. To prove that this is not a parenting theory, I ask parents in many of my family talks: “Do you put food on your baby’s plate and then add more dishes that you think are nutritious or that your child loves? More than half of the parents in each session said that they would do this action. If this is the case, the total amount your child ends up eating is definitely not the amount you thought was just right at the beginning. 3. Forget to add snack portions Nutrition is important, but there must also be the concept of “abundance”. Let the child every day large meals plus small meals, sometimes ignore the amount of snacks, sometimes the time allocation is not good, the main meal and more food, it is really difficult for the child! Some people may say: Is there really a hungry child in our society now? Looking at the statistics of childhood obesity rate increasing year by year, I think we will know the answer! The rule of “finish your meal” is the cause of obesity and not eating well The Pennsylvania Children’s Research Center in the U.S. took a straightforward look at a study that asked preschoolers to “finish their bowl of food” since 1987. It found that children who were overly concerned with external messages like how much food was left in the bowl during eating, even after a high-calorie meal, ate more food than children who were more aware of internal messages. Other studies have also found that boys who are asked to eat all their meals will order larger meals when eating out; adults with obesity have a much deeper impression of the dietary norms at home as children than adults of normal weight, and “eat all your meals” is the most common rule. “Wow, you ate all the rice, you’re great!” “Eat all the vegetables in your bowl before you can leave the table.” Most parents want their children to eat well, and even use encouragement, intimidation, coaxing and other means to make them “finish their meals. The New York Times points out that we are taught from an early age not to waste food, mainly because our parents, grandparents and countless generations of ancestors lived in a time when food resources were scarce and when children had to take full advantage of the opportunity to eat because there was no telling where the next meal would be. Today, however, we live in a time when we have regular meals, afternoon tea, late night snacks at the market, or snacks at the store whenever we want them, and children are most likely not hungry, but they are still born with the ability to control what they eat. When parents are not aware of such a change in the times and still focus on “eating a clean plate” instead of the child’s true “feeling of fullness”, children will gradually lose the ability to control their own diet and lay the groundwork for future eating problems. A study by the Pennsylvania Childhood Obesity Research Center in the U.S. looked directly at a study from 1987 that asked preschoolers to “finish their bowls of food”. The results found that if children cared too much about external messages like how much food was left in the bowl during eating, they would still eat more food than children who were more aware of internal messages, even after eating a high-calorie meal. But doing so will only make snacks seem more tempting, but will eliminate the child’s intrinsic motivation to choose healthy foods. Too much haggling at the table can also blur the focus and prevent children from concentrating on the internal message of hunger. By the time they are adults, training overrides intuition, and all they know is to bury their heads in the sand and finish what’s on their plates, without knowing what “full” really feels like. The good news is that more and more research is seeing the benefits of focusing on internal hunger messages. A team of researchers at the University of Minnesota found that young people who use hunger and satiety to guide their diet have a lower body mass index (BMI) and lower rates of eating disorders than young people who don’t, and such girls are less likely to deliberately lose weight or overeat. In this era of abundant food and easy fattening, it is more important to know when you are “full” than to “clear your plate”. It is more important to develop the ability to eat under self-control! Why do we mention obesity? Because weight control is related to being reminded from an early age to finish all the food on your plate! The Pennsylvania Children’s Study found that asking preschoolers to “finish the bowl of food” can make children too concerned about the message of how much food is left in the bowl, even after eating a high-calorie meal and still eating more food, which I’m afraid is the result of parenting behaviors that can interfere with the functioning of a child’s brain or mind. Other studies have found that adolescents with obesity have an impression of childhood eating as “eat up, no leftovers”! However, the conclusion of these studies is that the ability to train children to control their own diet will make their bodies healthier! The 11 dietary parenting methods The problem of picky eating and picky eating must have been plagued for a long time! Previous nutritional surveys have found that up to 50% of domestic children have nutritional imbalance problems because of picky eating. We look at psychology, behavior and the characteristics of ingredients to improve the overall baby’s diet upbringing! 1, the use of chewing, to produce a sense of intrinsic muscle hunger Many babies do not have an appetite, not the mother did not cook delicious, but no sense of hunger! In fact, parents can let their children chew a small amount of slightly sour or chewable snacks, such as dried fruit, hard cookies, etc. before the meal. Because sour food can improve the tension of the oral chewing muscles, so that the child is ready to eat; and chewing hard food is the first message sent to the brain muscle hunger center, so that the brain produces a sense of muscle hunger, ringing the bell ready to eat. 2, cast the food surround method Many babies like the taste of corn, mashed potatoes, cheese, you can usually ask children to eat some of these preferred foods first, so that the taste of favorite foods stored in the mouth. Then eat some disliked dishes (such as cauliflower, carrots, tomatoes) to reduce the direct impact of the latter food on the child, to guide the child to slowly accept that it is actually not so terrible. 3, the family wine game, into the formal meals Take your baby out to eat, he just like the table jars of ingredients, and in fact, at home you can make good use of this feature, let your baby add their own natural ingredients, fun and delicious. For example, white and black sesame seeds, dried fish, meat floss, etc., the game of hosting a family wine into the meal, it must be much better than feeding the child with the TV on. 4, “rainbow diet”, visual impact on mood After the baby is 2 years old, in fact, you can switch to a dinner plate with a grid to eat, using the child’s psychological and colorful visual development of color, so that each meal has more than 6 kinds of color distribution. Psychology found that the red and yellow with the appetite will help to produce, so that children feel better, so do not rush to feed only into the red carrots, need to match some yellow (such as corn kernels, pumpkin, pineapple) ingredients, through the role of psychology, can reduce partiality, increase the absorption and utilization of nutrients. 5. From understanding ingredients to hands-on participation Take your child to the market to buy food, take your child to make dumplings together, wash vegetables and cook rice together, these are all actions they can participate in. In addition to bringing children to know the ingredients, the preparation process will also generate a sense of muscle hunger, further stimulating children’s desire to eat, which is a very important but rarely appreciated step. A friend of mine is the author of a best-selling book on parenting, so his two baby girls, 5 and 3 years old, to grow their own vegetables, prepare their own dinner, the children eat with pleasure, the intrinsic motivation to eat stronger, and can learn a lot from the hands-on cooking. 6, don’t use forced to eat into the last bite with forced to eat in, the child to picky food instead of fear, in the process of feeding, I hope parents can “you give me another bite, or give me a try” parenting language, into “this is the last two bites, and you have progress! The most important thing is to be a trustworthy parent in the face of your baby’s picky eating behavior, so that there is room for negotiation next time. 7.Use the characteristics of ingredients to boost your baby’s appetite Some babies are usually less energetic and have gastrointestinal discomfort, so they are prone to pick and choose. In addition, the use of a small amount of fruit with meals, natural fruit aroma and color can stimulate the baby’s sense of smell and vision, so that children have the opportunity to shift attention away from the green vegetables, rather than every time you first see the green dishes, you first say I do not like to eat to hypnotize themselves. 8, you say in front of the child picky, he will be more picky More encouragement, more changes, more to eat with (the whole family to eat together), is also very important to make children not picky key. Many parents will be fed in a hurry, according to research, the first try will be picky food, not necessarily a few more attempts will not be successful; some studies specifically pointed out that such attempts will most likely be successful within 9 times! So you may need to be more patient and try again after a while, don’t spoil your child’s mood at every meal, so that your child and parents will be very happy. 9, changing ingredients soup base Whether in cooking soup or boiling soup, in fact, sometimes we feel that changing the content, how to cook out the taste is still more or less the same, which may be one of the reasons why children are tired of eating and partial food. Because the taste of some ingredients is heavy, sometimes overpowering other foods, so it is important to try the sweetness and saltiness and taste for your child when you finish cooking the soup. 10.Staple foods can be done in different ways Some children’s picky and partial eating is actually a fear of texture. Adding foods that you don’t like to eat to a different texture of staple foods can sometimes be successful, such as omelet rice, rice with grains, noodles, toast bread, and buns. 11, Bite not bad! Diet adjustment for babies with poor chewing ability In the face of children with poor chewing ability, such as meat that cannot be chewed or vegetables that always spit out, the usual progressive practice of soft to hard in the diet is needed, for example, to make a mixed vegetable chawanmushi, you can add “egg, black fungus, carrot, shiitake mushroom and sliced fish”. This already has the initial soft to medium soft food in it. If you add the hairy bean kernel, the child will eat the middle hard food from a bite of steamed egg, which is progressive chewing practice. How much does a child really have to eat before he or she is full? And how much does a child really have to eat before he or she is full? Moms are always complained that they are so thin because they didn’t force their children to eat? The mystery of how much a child should eat remains unsolved. For children before the age of 5, it is always difficult for parents to catch the amount of food their children eat, as for children between the ages of 1 and 3, limited by language and abstract feelings are still developing, it is even more difficult to know whether the child is full or not, the child often head aside, said not to eat, or is in the dining chair like a caterpillar, so feeding has become one of the top ten most headaches for parents parenting! One time, a pediatrician talked to me about letting children eat on their own, I quite agree, and then this super cooking doctor mom said: “just let them eat on their own, all eat a little bit and ‘full’, look at the amount of children eat in the past, usually feel very incredible, the heart of thousands of questions, this will be full? I couldn’t agree more, and it does make it very difficult to teach! This also reminds me of my previous experience visiting a kindergarten! A bunch of children in the middle class practiced eating on their own, quickly and well, with faces full of expressions of the need to eat, which blew my mind. I came closer to take a look, everyone’s bowl, rice is like the size of an egg a small ball only, meat, vegetables and fish are there, but the portion is very small, I then also realized that the original so simple method, and “let the child eat all”, is to let the child eat happy super important principle! 7 directions to let you know if your child has eaten enough But is your child really full? This diet problem must still be fighting in your mind, there are 7 major directions, parents must know: 1, health, development curve are normal, the amount of diet is OK, thin of course is no problem, do not need to feed more bites! 2, the child’s snacks to discuss inordinate, that is certainly not mouth slander, but the main meal is not full! 3, after 1 year old baby, milk if still drink too much, the main meal will not eat a few bites on the full, but will soon be hungry, so solid and semi-liquid food to gradually become a source of nutrition. 4, when the child says full, first observe whether there is something to distract him, remove the distraction first, not rushing to say: “where full? You give me to finish eating! If every meal are a bunch of emotions, not eaten full also angry full! 5, watching TV while eating, is not conducive to digestion, will certainly soon be full! 6, the amount of food first time not too much, so that the child has the opportunity to ask you again. In winter, if you clip too much at a time in the child’s bowl, the meal will soon be cold, it is likely to affect appetite! 7, do not put too much attention on the child’s meal, adults also concentrate on eating their own, occasionally assist on the good, children’s imitation ability is strong, and like to eat together as a family!