In recent years, the question of at what age a child should be bed-shared has been a rather controversial topic. In the West, many babies have their own independent room at birth, so in the Western concept of childcare, the time to sleep in separate rooms is defined as 0 years old. China is a country with a strong sense of family, like in the West, there are very few children who sleep in separate rooms at birth, and even if they do, most of them start by sleeping in separate beds. The reason for encouraging children to sleep alone, on the one hand, to promote the development of its independence; on the other hand, the child grows day by day, in order to let the child have a more healthy understanding of sexual knowledge, children and parents of the opposite sex to be avoided, so the child must sleep separately from their parents. Many education experts also put forward the specific age of sleeping in separate beds, some say it is 3 years old, some say it is 6 years old. In fact, there is really no uniform standard in this matter of parenting, because there are no two children in the world who are exactly the same. About sleeping alone, my own experience is that do not force the child, forcing will only bring the child more anxiety, but will affect the child’s physical and mental development. Generally speaking, when children are close to elementary school age, even if you do not say, they will naturally develop the idea of going to bed on their own, at this time parents can take advantage of the situation to encourage children to sleep independently. Once the child began to sleep independently, parents should encourage him to adhere to, never three days fish two days sunshine net oh. Parents can also observe the child, when he began to sleep independently, what changes will occur? As a girl’s mom, I think the child sleeps alone vs. sleeping with parents, the difference is still quite big, these two states, the child’s growth rate is also different. 1, the difference between one: their own children sleeping alone get up less Sleeping with parents, early open her eyes to see her loving parents around, so as long as there is an emotional bomb, can be thrown directly to the parents (the principle of proximity); if they sleep, even if they are not very happy when they get up, but the adults are not next to him, he is not good to have a seizure, their own silent dressed out, as for the get up, as if it had not sent out the gas. The child who sleeps alone has a better ability to navigate the world. Children who sleep alone can better manage their emotions, and often have a higher emotional intelligence. 2, the difference between two: their own children sleeping alone better hygiene habits When sleeping with parents, the child’s activity space at night is still basically in the parents’ bedroom, the child is equivalent to a space that does not fully belong to their own, for the organization of the room and the management of hygiene naturally will not be too concerned; but the child sleeps by herself is different, every day in their own room to sleep, she will unconsciously pay attention to the room’s tidiness, but also slowly develop the habit of tidying up the room, of course, the room is also a good place to sleep. Develop the habit of organizing the room, of course, this can not be separated from the daily supervision of parents. 3, the difference between three: their own children sleeping alone more powerful children are children, after all, the heart is not strong enough, timid and afraid of the dark is also understandable, but as a parent, always give the child the opportunity to grow, can not do anything to the child to arrange just right, take the matter of sleeping alone, combined with the age of the child, the parents can be appropriately increase the difficulty of some exercise for the child is also possible! When a child goes through the process of overcoming fear, he or she will also become stronger inside! If the child always rely on the parents’ bed, you always want to get the parents’ protection, parents and children’s sense of boundaries is not clear enough, a lot of things parents still want to give the child on behalf of the work, and over time the child is also more petulant. 4, the difference between four: the child sleeps alone, couples are more harmonious Children and parents sleep together, the aura between the two adults are still in the mode of parenting, each other to say a word also have to be careful, for fear of waking up the child, so, during the day, both husband and wife are busy with their own work, and at night, even talk about the opportunity is very little, if you encounter any conflicts, couples may also be directly into the Cold War mode; the child sleeps alone, the communication between husband and wife After the child sleeps alone, the couple communicates with each other more time to return to the world of two people again, and each other use this time to talk before going to bed, the cultivation of husband and wife’s relationship is very beneficial. Parents raise children, is a gradual process of letting go, let the child sleep independently, is the child towards independence of the landmark event, it is also related to the child’s self-care ability, emotional control ability, resistance to frustration, so in the “sleep alone” this matter, as long as the child is ready, the parents should encourage the child to adhere to; for the time being not ready for the child, parents can more than Ready for the child, parents can give the child some time, slowly guide, give the child to set up a warm sleep environment, more sensitive to the child’s emotional changes, when the child bravely take the first step, more encouragement to the child, the child is becoming more and more independent, parents will also be more and more worry.