1. Give your child time to play at will and don’t organize your life too much with rules American child education scholar Thomas Armstrong points out that free play is more healthy and beneficial for preschoolers than planned activities. Parents need to avoid cramming their children’s time with a variety of activities. All children need to have some time to do nothing and play casually. Teach him to care for others A happy child needs to be able to feel some meaningful connection with others and to understand what he means to them. To develop this feeling, you can help your child engage with others more. You can work with your child to sort through some old toys and donate them with him to charities that help homeless children. You can also encourage your child to get involved in some volunteer activities at school. Experts say that even at a very young age, one can derive pleasure from helping others. And develop the habit of liking to help others. 3. Encourage him to play more sports Accompany your child to play ball, ride a bike, swim …… more sports not only can exercise your child’s physical fitness, but also will make him become more cheerful. Keeping a dynamic life can moderately relieve your child’s stress and emotions, and allow your child to enjoy himself, have a more positive body image, and find pleasure and a sense of accomplishment from sports. 4. Laugh a lot Tell jokes with your child, make up funny songs together, and laugh with your child, it’s good for both you and your child. Just laughing is good exercise. 5. Be creative with your praise When your child is doing well, don’t just say, “That’s nice.” Be specific in your praise, giving details and pointing out what was impressive or better than the last time he or she performed, for example, “You were really polite today when you took the initiative to say good morning to the security guard.” However, it’s also important to be careful when giving praise so that you don’t foster false expectations in your child. Some parents reward their children with gifts or money, allowing them to focus on what they can get paid for, rather than on good behavior. Parents should let their children discover for themselves the satisfaction and fulfillment that comes from accomplishing something, rather than rewarding them with material rewards. 6. Make sure your child eats a healthy and wholesome diet A healthy diet not only makes your child physically healthy, but also makes him or her more emotionally stable. Whether it’s a meal or a snack, try to follow healthy principles, such as: low fat, low sugar, fresh and balanced diet. 7. often hug A gentle hug conveys infinite care and is a silent “I love you”. Studies have found that gentle touching and hugging can make preterm babies healthier, more active and more emotionally stable. For adults, hugs can also reduce stress and soothe unsettled emotions. 8. Listen with your heart Nothing makes your child feel more cared for than listening with your heart. Want to be a better listener? Don’t just listen with one ear. When your child is talking to you, try to stop what you’re doing and concentrate on what he’s saying. Be patient and listen to your child, don’t interrupt, rush to help him or ask him to finish quickly, even if you’ve heard what he’s saying many times before. The best time to listen is on the way to school with your child or when you put him to bed. We all expect our children to be their best, but sometimes we are too eager to correct or improve their performance. For example, if you don’t like that they didn’t wipe the table, just wipe it again yourself; or correct them that they must put things in a certain place. Demanding perfection in everything will weaken your child’s self-confidence and courage to not be afraid to make mistakes. Next time you can’t resist the urge to help your child do things better, think about it first: “Is this something related to health or safety?” “Imagine 10 years from now, is this still so serious?” If the answer is No, then let go and let your child do it. Teach him to solve problems. From learning to tie his shoes to crossing the street on his own, each step is a milestone in your child’s journey toward greater independence. When your child discovers that he is capable of solving the problems he faces, it brings them a sense of joy and accomplishment. When he encounters obstacles, such as being teased by a playmate or being unable to put a puzzle together, there are several steps you can take to help him: 1. identify his problem; 2. have him describe his solution; 3. identify the steps to solve the problem; 4. decide to let him solve the problem himself or provide some help; 5. make sure he can get the assistance he needs. Give him a stage to perform Every child has a unique talent, so why not give them a chance to show it? If they like to tell stories, encourage him to tell more stories to you. If he’s good with numbers, take him shopping and let him help you pick out something inexpensive. When you can appreciate your child’s talents and show your enthusiasm, your child will naturally have more self-confidence. The children around us need more than just food and clothing to live in, they need adults to accompany them through its growth process. There is a saying, “To know what the world looks like to a child, you have to squat down and see the world from the child’s position and height.”