“My child is very temperamental” “My family too” “The one in my family is like a little emperor” ．．．．．． Many parents are in headache, the family is like a provision of the emperor, often tantrums, a kind of “with the king as with the tiger” feeling. The child is capricious, tantrums, and parents have a lot to do with it. The reason for this is that 1 to 2 year old children already have a certain degree of independence and self-care, and will often express their needs, but do not know how to properly express, so once they fail to achieve their goals or make him dissatisfied, they will protest by crying, stamping their feet, rolling and so on. In this case, parents must figure out the reasons and guide their children on how to properly express their needs. For example, if a child wants to eat on his own, some parents are afraid that the child will not eat well or eat everywhere on the clothes, table, or floor, and therefore do not meet; some children want to drink water on their own, but parents are afraid of spilling it, so they will also refuse the child. Parents must meet needs like these, and only through continuous learning and proper parental education can the child continue to progress. Inappropriate needs within the age of 2 divert attention or cold treatment Children within the age of 2 do not yet have the concept of right and wrong. You can solve the problem by diverting attention or cold-treatment. The actor Hu Ke previously in a parent-child program is very good, when the little fish in the supermarket cry want some kind of goods, she is to take the cold treatment, and not afraid of the child’s cry to attract others around, in contrast, the little fish after a few moments to stop crying themselves. After 2 years old legitimate needs to be given to meet, not legitimate needs to reason The so-called intergenerational relatives, some family grandparents, grandma and grandpa pain children hurt a lot, mom and dad refused the needs, basically children can be satisfied in them, which also encourages the child’s capricious behavior. Therefore, the family should unify their attitudes and refuse to sing a red face and a white face. The child clearly knows that some things related to health and personal safety (such as wanting a hug while sitting in a seat) are not negotiable. After the age of 2, children have grown to understand right and wrong. Rejecting a child’s needs must be accompanied by reasoning, guidance, and telling the child why not. “Is it right for you to do that?” “You can’t do that oh”. In this case, when Blu did not eat in the parenting program, Jia would ask Blu, “Is it right for you to do that?” “It’s not allowed to do that right?” When a child has a tantrum, tell him that there are other ways to solve the problem. Even though you criticize your child, let him know that you still love him. But be sure not to tolerate your child’s physical aggression; let him know that it is unacceptable behavior. Children are capricious and tantrums have a lot to do with family education, and must be treated correctly. Parents of children who have not reached that age should know in advance how to deal with it; parents of children who already have the problem, the habits formed over a long period of time are not something that happens overnight and must be guided with patience. In addition to proper parenting by the family, some children’s love of tantrums is pathological. If a child is holding his breath and fainting during a tantrum; has longer and more severe tantrum outbursts after age 4; hurts himself or others, or damages property; has frequent nightmares, has serious problems with behavior and bowel training, feels fearful or is too independent. For any of these conditions, it is recommended to take your child to a hospital and consult a specialist.