Babies are born with different temperaments I often hear mothers complain that my baby loves to cry all day long since birth, and it is very difficult to coax each time, and the hands and feet keep moving around, especially difficult to bring up. But some babies are very well behaved, they do not cry and do not need parents to worry much about feeding and sleeping. Why is this so? In fact, the reason why babies make their parents feel this way is mainly due to their innate temperament. Modern psychological researchers believe that temperament is determined by biological factors such as heredity and talent; it is an innate quality and the way behavior is expressed. Why do babies develop different temperaments? Babies develop different types of temperament, mainly determined by the physiological basis. Perlman’s theory of temperament hormones suggests that different hormones secreted by endocrine glands activate different functions in the body. For example, a baby with well-developed adrenal glands is very emotional and exhibits neurotic traits; while a baby with a deficient thyroid gland shows sluggishness or dementia. The biological basis of many baby temperament types is in the “middle ground”, that is, behavior is dominated by a certain temperament type characteristics, but also have the characteristics of other temperament types. Is there a difference between good and bad temperament in babies? Temperament plays a very important role in the emotional and psychological development and social behavior of babies. If you can identify your baby’s temperament early on, you will be able to tailor it to your child’s needs in the parenting process. Undoubtedly, this is very beneficial for the healthy development of their emotional, psychological and social behaviors, as well as for the prevention of behavioral problems. It is worth mentioning that temperament is not good or bad and does not determine the social value of a person’s activities and achievements, and that there are outstanding representatives of different temperament types in the same field. Therefore, for the characteristics of various temperament types, if parents take the appropriate and correct parenting style for their babies, they will make their babies’ psychological development healthy and will definitely become useful talents in the fierce social competition in the future. Can I change my baby’s temperament? Temperament, as a psychological characteristic, has strong stability and is not easy to change, because the type of temperament is influenced by congenital genetic factors, it is quite difficult to change, as the so-called “temperament is difficult to change, nature is difficult to change. Therefore, 50% of the temperament characteristics are unchangeable. However, the other 50% of the temperament characteristics can be changed continuously under the influence of later life environment, life experience, social interaction, education and other factors. Babies are in the process of growth and development, and although the type of temperament inherited from birth is determined, the developmental tendencies and results depend on the education and training, environmental influences and self-exercise in later life. Therefore, to seize the dual characteristics of stability and plasticity in temperament, take advantage of the situation, through a variety of educational means to develop the strengths of the temperament type, to overcome the weak parts. In this way, it is possible to give better play to the baby’s potential and make their psychological health development is entirely possible. The characteristics of different types of temperament in babies 1. Difficult to raise This temperament type of baby, after birth, shows “different”, mainly in sleep, eating and excretion and other biological activity rhythm is not easy to establish, often bad mood, always good crying, parents are difficult to coax them. Moreover, they are overly sensitive to the environment, throwing tantrums or thunderstorms, behaving recklessly and stubbornly, and finding it difficult to get along with others, making parents find them difficult to bring up. Babies with this type of temperament also often have some elusive phenomena, such as crying in the middle of the night, waking up during the day and night, eating more and less milk, and being reluctant to try new foods, fussing and agitating when changing diapers or taking a bath. They are slow to accept and adapt to new environments and strangers, and if they are sent to a nursery or kindergarten, they have a hard time adapting. 2. Passionate slow starter type This temperament type is the exact opposite of the difficult to nurture type of baby. They are not lively, depressed, less adaptable, often like to avoid new environments, new things and strangers, lack of interest in the outside world, the spirit of exploration and competition, even if they are teased to play, they can not immediately make a happy response. This temperament type of baby, timid and fearful in life, easy to show avoidance of things, usually indifferent expression, often silent, they are often considered by parents to be a good “good boy”. 3. easy to raise this temperament type of baby, people feel lively, cute, generous. They are always in a good mood and have a regular rhythm of eating, pooping, and sleeping. It is easy to show closeness to things, warm to people, and easy to approach or get along with others. Moreover, talkative, easy-going, active and open-minded, and have a relatively strong ability to interact. Usually, they show responsiveness and adaptability to environmental stimuli, but also very moderate, can quickly accept and adapt to strangers and unfamiliar environment. Babies with this temperament, if they are sent to daycare or kindergarten later, will be able to integrate into the group more quickly and adapt to the new living environment quickly. How to raise babies with different temperaments? 1. difficult to raise type from the newborn, parents should focus on the development of regular habits of the baby. After birth, set up a quiet living environment, avoid the interference of bright light, noise and other stimuli. For highly reactive, overly sensitive babies, avoid provocation, do not scold, but should be more patient and persuasive attitude towards education. Teach babies to learn to restrain themselves, correct capricious, brutal, unreasonable and other bad habits, and can be rhythmic movement, music, dance, games and develop regular behavior, to relieve the baby’s excess energy. Avoid criticizing and blaming your baby in public, and take a cold approach to things, i.e. ignore your baby when he or she is most emotional, and bring it up again when you are happy. And, let your baby talk about the way you treat things, such as what is right and what is wrong, and guide your baby how to handle similar things correctly in the future. For babies with poor adaptation skills, let them be exposed to safe environments and friendly strangers first, and remind them how they should go about it beforehand. Parents should not always be uneasy and do too much for their babies, but pay attention to cultivating their babies’ ability to live independently and do things by themselves. Encourage your baby with more positive words, such as “you are really good”, “I believe you will do well” and other encouraging words to enhance your baby’s self-confidence. At the same time, parents in dealing with family problems, the couple should follow the principle of “to accept, not to transform”, mutual humility, mutual understanding, restrain themselves, and try not to fight in front of the baby. From the newborn that is to give the baby to more love, consideration, usually constantly stimulate with beautiful words, so that the baby’s intense emotions constantly get relief. In this way, you can create a warm, harmonious, stable and relaxed family environment for your baby, maintain a close parent-child relationship, to avoid psychological tension, inattention and impulsive emotions. For this temperament type of baby, the first thing to do is to create a lively, warm family environment, such as playing relaxing, rhythmic music regularly every day; with large and bright toys, toys with loud sounds and pleasant music to stimulate the baby’s visual, auditory and perceptual, so that they become interested in the outside world. Talk to your baby often to stimulate the language center of the brain, so that the language signal is stored in the language center of the brain, to promote the baby’s language development. For babies depressed and reluctant to interact with others, take them to public places as much as possible, more contact with other children. In the process of baby and children play, develop their social skills, and use the surrounding things to attract and educate the baby, to stimulate interest and enthusiasm for the outside world. Usually, encourage your baby to think independently, do more independent and capable things, and overcome the bad behavior of being too dependent on parents. When the baby is of the right age, it should be sent to a nursery or kindergarten in time to increase the opportunity to interact with people. Do not think that the baby is very good, they rarely care, and contribute to the baby gradually developed depression, loneliness, do not get along, not good communication and other bad character. 3. easy to raise type Such babies are born with a docile nature, parents are easier to take care of in life. However, it is necessary to remind, do not therefore neglect their education, should also pay attention to the correct guidance, so that the baby to a better direction of development.