I do not know whether you have paid attention to many biographies of famous people how to describe the mother: mother gentle, virtuous, understanding, she always quietly for the child dedication without complaint, mother strong, kind, opinionated, as if nothing can be difficult to defeat the mother’s …… These words are not very familiar? It is this kind of mother who may have raised such an outstanding child. Because children have an instinctive dependence on their mothers at a young age, a mother’s character, words and behavior can affect her child’s life. What should a mother do? 1, the mother before entering the house, must remind themselves: forget all the unpleasant things in the unit, now begin to take on the role of a mother. Children need their mothers to be happy, never transfer bad feelings that have nothing to do with the child to the child, because the child is innocent. 2, when the child is excited to tell his mother that he got a five-pointed star or a little red flower at school today, do not show boredom or disdain, must be as happy as his son to praise him. The most appropriate way is to say can I show my mother, to share this joy with him, because this honor is very important to the child. 3, when the child came to ask his mother, “how to pronounce this word,” and other such questions, it is best for the mother not to answer him right away, the worst answer is “how do you even do not know this word”. The best thing for the mother to do is to look at it and say, “Oh, I don’t know it either, let’s look it up in the dictionary together, okay? After a few times, the mother will teach the child to use the dictionary, at the same time, the child will be very successful after checking the dictionary to recognize the word, after many times to develop the habit of not relying on the mother to consult the information. 4, when the child came to ask the mother questions, the mother must not behave as in the unit so smart and capable, pretend “ignorance” is not a good way to encourage the child to use their brains to rely on their own strength to figure out the problem, or the mother and the child can consult the books together or with the help of the network. Mom can not be like “bamboo tube pour beans” as the answer to all out, while saying that the side of the self-congratulation, which is not good for the child’s growth, after a few times, the child will avoid asking his mother questions to become very low self-esteem. 5, when the child told his mother did not do well in today’s exam, the mother must restrain their emotions, absolutely not angry or gloomy face, the child is nervously observing the mother’s face it. Therefore, it is better for the mother to show no emotional changes, let the child take out the paper, and analyze what is wrong with the child. If the child already understands what is wrong, the mother does not have to dwell on it. But in the end, she has to encourage him: Look, if you figure it out, you won’t get it wrong in the next exam. If the mother feels that she can not control their emotions to go to the bathroom to wash his face, look in the mirror, do a few deep breaths. 6, when the child before the test or do what is more important things before showing timidity, the mother must not be dismissive or reprimand him for cowardice or show than he is still nervous, which will aggravate the child’s psychological pressure, resulting in the child can not play normally. At this time, the mother had better be very relaxed and say to the child, no matter how you do, mom and dad in like you so big time is not as good as you it, do not worry. At this time, the child’s heart will be very confident and confidence, he will play better than usual. 7, if the child to participate in important activities the next day, when the mother observed that the child is preoccupied more nervous, the mother is best in the child’s bedside that night to accompany him to sleep, before going to bed with him to tell him a story or read with him his favorite books, ease his inner pressure until the child fell asleep and then left. 8, when the child suffered a failure or setback, the mother to show strong and never give up, calmly tell the child failure only represents a moment, does not mean that the child lifelong failure. Don’t children have not thought to give up when the mother first showed little hope. The worst thing is to use mean language sarcastic him, the child counted down to nothing, and even new and old scores together. Such a mother under the education of the child will be extremely low self-esteem, and even give up their own should be a bright future. 9, the mother should not be in the child did not want to say the words expressed clearly, it is self-righteous to pre-empt the expression of their own views, regardless of whether the child is willing to, in order to “you have to ……”, “you should be ……” tone of command, to their own views on behalf of the child’s point of view, and asked the child to carry out. Mothers must not become synonymous with “authoritarianism”. Children who grow up in such a situation lack initiative and the ability to judge what is right and what is wrong. Mom and the child should establish an equal relationship between (equality is not unprincipled), know how to respect each other. 10, the mother in front of the child to control their own way of speaking. The world’s most understanding of the child is the mother, so the mother is most aware of the child’s weaknesses in what place, if the mother often point to the child’s weaknesses when talking to sarcastic, critical or blackmail, or know that the child can not do and deliberately ask the child to do it, it is undoubtedly the sharpest weapon in the child’s pain in the constant stabbing. The child will be very hurt inside, because this injury comes from his closest people. 11, the mother in front of the child to control the number of words. Never nagging, in fact, the most afraid of the child is the mother’s silence, so, instead of nagging the child to say endless, rather than a short language to tell the child where he made a mistake or should pay attention to what, followed by the mother’s silence is certainly more useful than to continue to talk, do not think that the child does not understand, although he pretended to be a look of indifference, but in fact, in the observation of the mother whether to take the things that said He may pretend that he doesn’t care, but he’s actually watching to see if she takes what she says seriously. In short, a mother is a mother at home, not a professional woman. A mother should take good care of her child’s life, pay attention to the ups and downs of the child’s heart, care about the child’s every move, take care of the child’s childish emotions, and cultivate the child’s character. If you want your child to surpass you in the future, then, even if you are a capable mother, you must show “ignorance”, “stupidity”, “slowness” and “slowness” in front of your child. “a little bit, show a little bit” and “gentle rain”, in this way, the child will have a sense of fulfillment that he is more than his mother “knowledge”, “smart” In this way, the child will feel very accomplished that he is more “knowledgeable”, “smart” and “quicker” than his mother, and he will feel that he is surpassing her every day, until one day, he really surpasses her.