Many children simply can’t leave their parents, they are physically or mentally dependent on them, allowing them to take care of them without limits and letting them make decisions and decisions for them. If you’ve ever seen those “mommy and daddy”, “nibbler” or those obedient and unassertive children, you should know that this is never a good thing! So, for the sake of the children, you have to consciously away from the children “far” a little. If your child is 5 years old and still sleeps in the same bed with you, and also squeezes a blanket with you, then it is time to let him “roll” down. How to sleep, there is an important signal of family relations. If your family often sleeps three people in your bed, or simply the father gives way to the child, he sleeps alone, this may indicate that your family relationship is chaotic. Dad at home lack of proper status, then he naturally difficult to show the power and function of the father; of course, this is a hint that the child and the mother overly entangled, too close – if a child does not want to separate from the mother, is to sleep with the mother in a bed, he is no way to stand alone “up”. So, the first step is to let your child sleep in his or her own bed as soon as possible, instead of sticking to your mother’s blanket. Give your child space and don’t “fill” him up. When your child is concentrating on playing, your mother will let him do something else; when your child is looking at flowers, your mother will let him look at people; when your child is looking at people, your mother will let him look at flowers …… A friend said she met a mother and asked her child what she was going to eat for lunch today. The child said pizza, the mother said, pizza what is delicious, we eat fish head bubble cake. The actual fact is that you will not give your child any opportunity to make a decision, everything is decided for the child. The mother always wants to help the child, for example, the child grabbed a toy, the mother hurriedly said, do not grab, do not grab, mother buy you another one. The child is afraid of losing out, anxious to instill in the child how to be liked, anxious to give advice on how to win over children …… deprive the child of the opportunity to solve problems on their own. All of your child’s time is scheduled to be full, enrolling your child in various classes: painting classes, swimming classes, piano classes, storytelling classes, thinking training classes …… afraid that your child will waste time, not giving your child white space, not giving your child time and space to discover his or her own interests. And, do not allow your child those interests that seem unproductive: playing in the mud, collecting sticks, getting wet, laughing for no reason …… Every time this happens, throw cold water on them, scold them, and turn them from giddy to shrinking. If you are also a mother, then your child is full of “mothers”, the child does not have their own time and space. Even if your child does well in school and has good talents, but he does not know how to organize his life, his future will probably not be too smooth. Moms need to make room for themselves. Make a choice: If you had a spare amount of money, just enough to choose between a spiritual development program or an early childhood education program for your child, how would you choose? I bet you will pick the early childhood education class for your child! Because moms are usually willing to sacrifice themselves to put their children first. However, the best investment is to spend the money on the parents’ own enhancement classes. This is the time when moms need to recharge themselves. A positive mom who loves life and learning is the best life coach for her child. The anxious mother simply can’t be separated from her child, she needs the security, existence and value that her child brings to her, she feels that her child can’t leave her, in fact it’s more like she can’t leave her child, and she imposes all kinds of excessive care and attention on her child. Such a mother should hurry to reflect on this and not delay her child’s life. How far away from the child? The most important thing is to leave your child far away from you, to draw a clear line between you and him, to leave him to his own devices. That’s “far” and the child will be asking for your debt. It means that the mother can realize the growth, changes and needs of her child, bear the anxiety and worry, gradually let go, allow her child to make his own decisions, allow him to grow up, allow him to grow up without his mother, allow him to make mistakes, take risks, leave us and become himself!