①The use of good, positive and constructive phrases to suggest themselves often will enhance self-confidence. Try to think in terms of “why you can do it” instead of “why you can’t do it”. Thinking “I’m going to succeed” and “I’m a winner” in your head will increase your belief that you will win, and you will try to find ways to “help you succeed”. This “psychological slave” usually believes that at a certain age, you should do something. For example, some believe that they missed a good opportunity, and now they are in a dilemma, riding a tiger, only to be left to fate. Some think they are too old to go back to college at 26, and some think they are too old to remarry at 40. The clinical psychology department of Beijing Huilongguan Hospital, Wu Yaxue Response: ① Don’t pay attention to the age limit, and look for vivid role models from life. ②You can’t just take it easy. Work towards your ideal in a planned and systematic way. Many people prefer to eat “pot rice” rather than reform, which is a typical “security” slave. Lack of imagination is the common psychological characteristics of “security” slaves. In fact, risk is objective, human survival, development, is a continuous struggle, and constantly eliminate the process of insecurity. Countermeasures: ① Make life colorful and colorful. ② Because there are risks to climb, there are difficulties to break through, there is pressure to rise up, there is wind and waves to fight. So learn to face all kinds of difficulties and rare and unknown things. The mind is controlled by the trauma of past failures, and fear of any new attempts is its main characteristic, once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of the well rope. They are discouraged by failures and do not know how to learn from them. Slaves to “past mistakes” can damage one’s ability to explore and keep one from moving forward. Countermeasures: ① Failure is seen as an investment, so you don’t feel the loss. It is said that Edison failed 9,999 times to create the first practical light bulb, but he himself thought he had found 9,999 ways that could not be applied. ② If you can perceive a mistake in time, it can’t be considered a mistake at all.