Different families have different perceptions and practices about when it is better to sleep in separate rooms with their children. Too early and too late to sleep in separate rooms are not conducive to the mental health of children. After the age of 3, children can start to consider sleeping in separate rooms, about 5 years old is the most suitable, but after elementary school has not been divided into rooms, it is a little late. Of course, the specifics will vary from person to person, depending on the child’s psychological age, courage, independence, the degree of attachment to parents and the specific environment of the family and other factors. 1, before the age of 3 years old to sleep in separate rooms: will damage the child’s sense of security When to sleep in separate rooms with children, there is no standard answer, but too early and too late are not good. At least until the child is 3 years old before you consider sleeping in separate rooms. Sleeping in separate rooms with parents when children are too young can damage a child’s sense of security. If a child is separated from his or her mother before the age of 3, the child may think that the mother is absent or that he or she has been abandoned by the mother, thus damaging the mind. For children less than 3 years old, it is a very scary thing to be without their mother because the self is completely incapable of surviving on its own, and the child may grow up to have problems such as lack of confidence and security, suspicion, and the ability to trust others. “Why do some children have a special favorite item, such as a doll or a towel, that they must hold every night at bedtime until they are 3 years old?” This is because a complete image of a mother has not yet been formed in the child’s mind at this age. So, in the child’s subconscious, the doll or towel is a symbol of the mother, and sleeping with it ensures that the mother will not leave. So even if it’s old and dirty, it’s hard to take it away from your child. Therefore, it is a terrible thing for children before the age of 3 to sleep in separate rooms with their parents. 2, after school to sleep in separate rooms: may suffer from mental illness in adulthood “Similarly, too late to sleep in separate rooms with the child, the child may suffer from certain mental illnesses or develop psychological problems in adulthood.” For example, produce a variety of anxiety disorders or neurosis, personality disorders, adaptive disorders, interpersonal relationship difficulties, etc. 3, about 5 years old is more suitable to sleep in separate rooms It is recommended that children can consider sleeping in separate rooms after the age of 3, about 5 years old is the most suitable, “If you have not slept in separate rooms with your parents after elementary school, it is a little late”. “Why is it most appropriate to sleep in separate rooms around the age of 5?” Because children begin to realize the differences between men and women around the age of 5. Therefore, this is the time when parents sleep separately from their children, so that they can give them their own space and cultivate their children to form an independent personality. However, for children who firmly do not want to sleep in separate rooms, do not force, parents need to think more brain to think about what the child can accept the approach. For example, you can induce your child to sleep in a separate room through rewards, and if you succeed, the next day, you should give timely recognition and praise for your child’s brave behavior. Usually after a week, the child will be happy to sleep alone, and from then on most do not want to sleep with their parents again. 4, and children sleep in separate rooms have skills If conditions allow, try to let the child’s room in their own line of sight, in order to keep an eye on the child’s situation. When you first start sleeping in a separate room, be sure to stay with your child before bedtime and hug him or her. Tell your child a story or read a book with him or her before bedtime to prepare him or her mentally to fall asleep on his or her own. Try not to get too excited before your child goes to sleep, don’t watch TV, and don’t criticize or reprimand your child before bedtime. Have your child empty his or her bowels before bedtime and try not to get up at night. Tell your child that the door to your room will not be locked and that he can definitely get help whenever he needs it. When a child is sick or frustrated, parents can sleep with their child temporarily and let him or her sleep alone when he or she recovers.