Parents in the face of the child’s request, one side to consider not to indulge, so as not to spoil the child, one side worried about the rejection of the child, may bring more or less harm to the child’s young mind, then parents in the rejection of the child to pay attention to what? 1, parents do not rule drift can and can not all be said by the parents, but at this time do not follow the feeling to go, if the parents are in a good mood can be, bad mood can not, this is actually very unfair to the child. Children are always looking at their parents’ faces and figuring out what they want, so how can they have the energy to develop themselves? If it depends on the child’s level of resistance, it is tantamount to encouraging the child to become a “rolling mine” in disguise. The parents are under the control of the child, which can still enforce the rules. In fact, it is really not difficult to reasonably reject the child. As long as we can put our bodies down, squat down, understand and respect our children, with love, patience and determination to enforce the rules, we will be able to harvest an independent, strong and self-disciplined children. 2, parents must not be condescending, commanding parents have had enough of being a leader, all the anger suffered outside to the child, the transfer of psychological garbage to the child. This is to meet the parents, the bad luck of the child. When you meet the one who would rather die than give in, the two sides are bound to saber rattling and the parent-child relationship deteriorates. In the long run, not feeling the warmth of parents, the child’s heart gradually away, and never look back. At that time, it will be too late to regret! The personality of the gentle encounter, although the surface obedience, psychological injury, become cautious, look at people’s faces, lose themselves. Once out of parental control, part of the children do not know who they are, what should be done, will only wait for others to give orders, only when the poor answering machine; another part of the children are like a wild horse, behavior out of control. 3, parents to avoid emotional blackmail on the child Parents are moving to say, “how do you do again, mommy / daddy will not like you, do not want you”. For tiny children within three or four years old, this is simply a terrorist holding hostage. Children this old, mom and dad is the whole world, is their survival depends on. If mom and dad don’t like them anymore and don’t want them, it means they can’t survive and what kind of psychological fear that will bring. So, parents say this is the same as putting a knife to the child’s neck for blackmail. And for older children, it seems super childish. Maybe it works the first time, but a few more times, the child will know that you’re actually bluffing. What kind of example are you setting for your child when they know you’re lying? Even if it works every time and the child is obedient, the child will not do what you forbid, not because the behavior is wrong, but because doing so will be abandoned. A child controlled by fear will not remember the rules for what they are, not to mention self-discipline! I don’t do it when mom and dad are around to threaten. If mom and dad are not around, I do what I’m told. Can parents still keep a close eye on them 24 hours a day, 365 days a year?