Modern medicine recognizes that sex is more than simply a physical activity; it is an intimate connection with another person. And some interruptions or distractions can affect a partner, perhaps work, schooling, children or other things that take up time and interfere with the relationship. But it’s not hard to keep your sex life fresh and passionate if you actively communicate with your partner and make an effort for intimate sexual bliss. A. Inspire passion Explore your body. Being intimate and comfortable with your partner starts with knowing yourself, including your body and how you feel. Be free to perceive and express your feelings, to know what kind of touch you like, what triggers excitement and how your body reacts to different titillations. Exploring your body with your partner is certainly possible. Women can use a vibrator to help detect sexual responses and let their partner know what she likes. Relaxation before love. Some relaxation techniques before making out with your partner can help deflect the problem of focusing too much on sexual performance, such as breathing deeply or consciously loosening tense muscles to enjoy as much as possible. It is better to do the relaxation movements with your partner at the same time. Focus on foreplay. Sometimes sexual activity is programmed, like going from A to C. Try to slow down and focus on sexual feelings before making love, foreplay can be beneficial for both partners. Spend time touching and exploring each other’s bodies as long as you are comfortable before you go into battle, and play some music. Focus on fetching each other and giving arousal, and subsequently accepting the pleasure in return. Many ladies are excited about clitoral touch during foreplay. Don’t rush. In the event that intimacy is not a regular thing that you are ready to do, just do it. Slow down and enjoy every aspect of sex, feel the pleasure of touching and being touched, and experience the difference between sexual and non-sexual touch. You can practice sensory focus: 20-40 minutes of progressive training to help build trust and intimacy and overcome performance anxiety. Alternate with your partner to reinforce touch, starting with non-sexual touch, torso, arms, legs, etc. Gradually transition to areas of sexual sensation concentration, such as breasts, nipples, groin, but no touching of the genitals, until the end is included. At this point you are ready to have sex. Free play. One of the most common ways sex can become uninspired is to become “routine,” perhaps you only have sex late at night, or on certain special days. Unexpected times, ways, or places can make passions flare up, and instead of being aversive to masturbation, it can be a rewarding form of the relationship. Surprise. Don’t be afraid to pour sex toys or special clothing into the bedroom that may create excitement. If communication and trust are solid, no matter how odd it is, it’s not too much. Playing different roles can stimulate sexual fantasies, such as wearing different costumes or calling each other by novel names, blindfolded to highlight the tactile sensory deprivation mode, revive the first date scenario (for each other’s interests, sexual preferences know nothing), etc., can be completely tried. Second, say what you think Tell your partner what you like. Open and honest communication is the safest, wisest and most convenient way to enhance sexual well-being between partners, including what turns you on or off, discussing the boundaries and desires of your sex life together, preferably to the best of your ability. Don’t focus on what your partner is doing wrong, but express what you want. Use “I” expressions such as “I like it when you touch me like this” or “I’m more comfortable in this position”; if you have trouble expressing yourself, write it down for your partner to read, or Turn off the lights and read to each other; talk to promote trust and intimacy, despite the impulsive motives, talk at the initial stage can avoid embarrassment and increase mutual trust; note that do not rush into action, first to open communication. Be clear and straightforward. When talking about sex, most people are timid and as vague as possible, which can lead to misunderstandings. Try saying it clearly and not letting your partner decode it. Convert “I wish we had more sex” or “I wish our sex was different” into something you want to be intimate with your partner, and tell each other what special things attract you or what needs to change. Don’t pretend, it can damage a relationship. Let the other person know exactly what you want, and be honest about what is good or bad. Be honest about physical changes. For both men and women, physical changes can affect sexuality. For example, menopause makes sexual desire change, say so! It’s better than having your partner think you’re sexually frigid. Then again, if you experience erectile dysfunction, tell your partner and doctor that the condition is currently relatively easy to treat and that there is no need to be shy. Incorporate sensual interactions. You may be feeling more than your partner during sex, but you may be missing out on the best part. Discussing what you would like your partner to do and what new or different elements you would like to add may take mutual pleasure to the next level. This discussion should ideally be non-judgmental, and don’t be shy; it’s safe to talk about sex with your partner. Share sexual fantasies. Name your sexual fantasies, what turns you on, and also write them down if you feel shy. Be bold and talk to your partner! If the conversation is interrupted by something like TV or reading a book, ask directly, “What do you think of my idea?” This openness and sharing of fantasies will keep sexual interest fresh. The brain is the most sensitive sexual organ, and discussing sexual fantasies does not mean actually acting on them. In a trusting and open relationship, discussing various fantasies is what opens the door to exploration of sexuality, keeping it fresh, spontaneous and fun. Connect with your partner. Try other ways of connecting before sexual connection, which may vary from partner to partner. Finding them can be meaningful before true intimacy, including intellectual, experimental and emotional communication that builds the foundation of intimacy. Emotional communication requires sufficient conversation to share feelings and empathy, intellectual connection through discussion of specific content, and physical connection begins with sitting together and making eyes at each other, which may seem like a “silly” way to expose vulnerability to maintain before further bonding can occur. Three, intimacy must be sometimes to leave time for intimacy. It may seem unromantic to set a time for lovemaking, there is a saying that “love should burst out of oneself”, but it is not always right. Modern people are too busy to set important events and time is appropriate, such as setting at least one day a week to enjoy sex with your partner. On that special day, make love in advance and prepare plenty of time for cuddling and intimacy. Take a vacation together. Even a short weekend together can take the stress out of life. Work, school, kids, etc. can all be distractions from the sex drive, so make an effort to remove distractions and focus on your partner and your relationship. If necessary, finding family or hiring temporary childcare can free up time for a mini-vacation, such as a camping trip in the woods or a mini-hike. If you feel that traveling is too costly, you can also share time with your partner at home. Note that it’s best to turn off the PC, cell phone or TV at home. Set the mood. Lighting candles, laying out silky sheets, and making the bedroom a sanctuary for both partners can create a positive atmosphere. Also remove distracting items, such as piles of laundry, work supplies or children’s toys. Activate sex. If you’re always the passive party in intimacy, switch it up and take the initiative. If, on the other hand, you are always the initiator in your sex life, tell your partner that you don’t always want to be the “alpha wolf” in the relationship. Clarifying the situation will allow both partners to enhance the relationship. Emotional and physical intimacy should go hand in hand. Sex is so much more than just what happens in bed, and if you don’t have a close relationship or spend time together to get to know each other, sex will suffer and the relationship will suffer. It’s important to communicate directly, spend time together, focus on multiple aspects, share thoughts, fears, dreams and desires, and be open and vulnerable and accepting of each other. Seek professional help. If fear or anxiety about intimacy is seriously affecting your life, consider seeing a therapist. A professional therapist can effectively help you explore feelings of intimacy, overcome anxiety, and communicate better, either alone or with both partners. A therapist can analyze and improve issues that prevent intimacy, such as past bad sexual experiences, emotional disorders, etc., and promote safe and positive sexual attitudes. Unfortunately, domestic sex therapists have not yet formed a profession, but “there’s always bread!” Tip: Don’t believe what others call “bed legends” to correspond to what happened to you. Sex is not just for the pleasure of your partner, but for the pleasure of both. Don’t make sex an obligation or a duty. Sex is not just about orgasms either. If considering sexual aids, especially medications, creams, sprays, etc., be aware of safety and effectiveness. Porn is not a realistic guide to sex or what women want during sex, ask your partner directly is the right thing to do.