When we face our children, how can we enter their hearts and minds? As parents, can we really only look at the back of our children and disappear in front of them? Is this the destiny between parents and children? Talking about education: play, is the root of learning between heaven and earth Speaking of “play”, do you know? I think not knowing how to “play” is really a shortcoming. How can I put it? Silvia once said that if a child has not touched nature in his life, such as touching the bark of a tree or stepping on dry and brittle leaves, she cannot teach him art. Because he has not been exposed to beauty firsthand. I have a very admired author named Shen Congwen, I think his literary charm comes from his childhood truancy experience – going to the street to see the hawkers who killed pigs and slaughtered dogs, sharpened iron and knives, watching the revolutionary army kill people and peasants’ heads rolled to the ground …… which presented him with a hundred states of life. The maturity and wisdom given to him by spreading out in the streets may far exceed the recitation in the classroom. When my son was small, I used to take him to the theater, to feed the ducks in the park, to knead dough in the kitchen, to play in the mud, pick wildflowers, catch grasshoppers and fly kites in the wilderness, to raise mint and grow cucumbers in the garden, and to go for long bike rides on the Rhine. Now he is big. He goes to Barcelona by himself, to see the architecture, to see the sculptures. I share the same view with Silvia: it is better to teach a hundred lessons on aesthetics than to let children walk in nature for a day; it is better to teach a hundred clockwork architectural designs than to let students touch a few old cities; it is better to talk about the skills of literary writing a hundred times than to let writers get their trouser feet dirty in the market. The mother misses her growing child, always in a one-way way; the youthful child runs towards his vision of life, his eyes eagerly looking ahead, while the mother can only look behind at his diminishing back, wondering how far and how long the horizon is. How all of a sudden, it was out of sight. Parents, for a 20-year-old, I’m afraid, is like an old house: you live in it, it shelter you from the wind and rain, give you warmth and security, but the house is a house, you will not talk to the house, to communicate, to be considerate of it, to please it. When you move the furniture and break a corner, you will not say “sorry”. The parents are just the old house you are used to living in that you are completely oblivious to, right? I guess it will take a full 20 years before my son will look back and start looking at this old house without a sound, and find that it has become dilapidated and weakened, gradually moving towards the “nothing” of life and the “extinction” of the universe. It was then that my son would look back and stare deeply. I knew that my destiny with my son would be to watch him leave again and again in this life, and to wave silently at his back. Later, such shots kept repeating: when my son went to middle school, I watched him rush into the line, no longer shy; when my son studied in the United States, I watched his back at the airport, weaving through the crowd, waiting for him to glance back, but he entered the gate angrily without looking back and really disappeared into the sea of people. My son was leaving his friends, he was leaving the town, the house and the pond where he grew up, and he was leaving me at the same time. This is a kind of permanent departure. But I understand that my son must “leave” in order to carry out his own. The so-called parents are the ones who are constantly delighted and sad at the back, wanting to catch up with the embrace but not daring to voice it. I ask my son to study hard, not because I want him to compete with others, but because I hope he will have the right to choose a meaningful and time-consuming job in the future, instead of being forced to earn a living. When his work has meaning in his mind, he will have a sense of accomplishment. When my son’s work gives him time and does not deprive him of a life, he has dignity. Fulfillment and dignity will bring joy to my son. What is most important to me is not whether my son is accomplished, but whether he is happy. And in the modern structure of life, what kind of work is more likely to bring happiness to a child? First, it gives him meaning, it doesn’t kidnap him, it doesn’t make him a prisoner of his work, and second, it gives him time to experience life to the fullest. I don’t care if my son is mediocre, but I want him to find his happy self. If we are not comparing ourselves with others, but just looking for a place of peace of mind for ourselves, then even the word “mediocre” doesn’t have much meaning. “Mediocrity” is to compare with others, but peace of mind is to compare with yourself. At the end of the day, we are ultimately responsible for the word “self”. Therefore, you certainly have no reason to compare yourself with your previous generation, or to live in order to conform to the imagination of your previous generation. When children are young, their parents are all-powerful and can be relied on completely. This is the prime time for parents to educate their children. As soon as the child reaches the teenage years, the parents’ expiration date is almost up. In fact, parents, like food, have an expiration date. What should be said, what should be taught, what should be done, should have been done long ago, it is time to accept. This is the acceptance of the parents’ educational policy, but also the child’s resilience to the outside world. The parents after the expiration date, no matter how hard they try, are no more effective than they were 10 years ago. Be cognizant of the fact of closing down and bearing up. I suddenly lamented the fact that I told myself that I had to help prepare my children to face the future within the golden years. Because time really flies. I don’t want to have to sigh and shake my head in the future. Childhood, it should be played over, so that children at the right age to do what should be done, so that they play in the liberation of nature. Fisher Price toys, let the baby in the playful become intelligent and healthy.