Young children will inevitably have some of this or that little problem. For the child’s shortcomings, many parents are to give a stern reproach, but do not know, many of the shortcomings of the child are originated from the parents’ faults. For the physical and mental development of the child, every parent should always reflect on their own words and deeds, systematically learn some knowledge of parenting, and scientifically help children to overcome their own shortcomings. Children rely too much on other people’s evaluation, from the parents of excessive praise or criticism Appropriate praise is conducive to help children establish self-confidence, but in real life, some parents are affected by the theory of pleasant education, usually like to praise their children unprincipled, which leads to a lack of self-consciousness of the child, overly valued by other people’s evaluations, and every little thing you want to do to get praise, or else refused to do it. Similarly, excessive criticism will also hurt the child’s self-esteem and make the child unable to see himself. Therefore, when a child makes a mistake, parents need to point out in a measured way where the mistake lies, so as to help him or her absorb the lesson and correct the shortcomings. Children stubborn, willful, from parents too democratic Many parents, especially the higher level of education, the family education in the “democratic” management is very important, no matter what the big and small things are counting on the “reasoning”, the result is that the reasoning did not talk, the child is spoiled. The reason for this is that children (especially the ones who are not in a good condition) are spoiled. The reason is that children (especially younger children) lack sufficient experience and judgment, there are many places in life need to rely on parental guidance, if they are too democratic, it is easy to spoil the child, so that he or she becomes stubborn, willful, do whatever he or she wants. Therefore, for older children, you can convince people with reason, while for younger children, with mandatory education management is still essential. Children make mistakes repeatedly, from parents abuse rewards, lack of punishment Children lack the ability to judge right and wrong, in order to help them to distinguish right and wrong, parents should develop the habit of rewarding and punishing. Some parents believe in the concept of “the stick hit out of the show”, while other parents go to the other extreme, only accustomed to the use of rewards, never punished the child, both practices are wrong. If a child makes a mistake, moderate punishment is appropriate. Of course, punishment does not exclusively refer to scolding and chastising children, and its methods and forms can be varied, as long as the purpose is achieved. On the contrary, if the abuse of reward in the inappropriate place or time, will not have the desired effect. For example: the child in the wall scribbling, originally parents just timely stop and education can be, but some parents prefer to use the method of reward, “if you do not draw to the wall, tomorrow to buy you a new toy.” Obviously, this method will condone the child to knowingly violate the law in order to get a toy in the future. Children do not obey the discipline, from the parents of the education of the views are not unanimous For a variety of reasons, the vast majority of parents in the education of their children on the issue of the existence of more or less divergent. Wise parents will avoid the child to discuss alone, in order to reach a unity of opinion on the child’s education. However, there are also many parents lack of communication and the education of their children on the issue of stubbornness, and even in front of the child public quarrels, this phenomenon is directly harmful to make the child feel insecure, do not know what to do. Therefore, in front of the child, parents should pay attention to maintain the same opinion, do not give in to each other. Because if the child agrees with one parent to say, later when this party is not present, the other party will likely not be able to persuade, discipline the child, thus bringing artificial obstacles to normal family education. Children lack of self-confidence, from the parents of the blind strangulation and over-protection Some parents of all their children, like a mother hen to protect the chickens like the whole day will be the children sheltered under their wings, and even the children’s ability to do what they can not let them do, and even the scope of the children’s activities are also completely limited to their own line of sight. This over-protection seriously interferes with the normal development of the child’s body and mind, resulting in the child’s lack of independent living ability, social difficulties, lack of self-confidence, indecisiveness, and even lack of moral feelings and sense of responsibility. In contrast, some parents always subjectively deny their children’s words and actions, like to compare other children with their own children, and even use too high adult standards for children. In the long run, the child’s enthusiasm and motivation will be blindly stifled, making the child feel incompetent, and the child’s self-esteem and self-confidence will be mercilessly destroyed.