Since having a child, you always feel like you are escalating the fight, worrying about development and eating when you are small, and correcting some bad habits of your child when you are older. The most headache for parents is that their children are capricious and disobedient, and they can’t be beaten or scolded! Some parents think that children are willful and disobedient are mostly spoiled, just beat a good! This statement is only half right, we will talk to you today about the problem of child capriciousness. Causes of children’s capricious 1, family education is the problem that we said before, children are mostly spoiled, this sentence is quite right. The current family is mostly four two one or four two two family. Grandparents unrestrained pampering and parental accommodation, want the stars do not give the moon, what adults want to comply with, indulge the child’s various unreasonable requirements, parents on this strong “love” approach, prompting the child by the grandparents and parents of the wrong love to form a self-centered concept, resulting in the child’s serious capricious and domineering personality. The child is withdrawn, not good at accepting others, etc. Therefore, when they go to kindergarten, they are prone to grab toys from children and take them for themselves, roll on the floor and cry when they don’t like it, jump and jump, and even punch and kick the teacher. When they go shopping or to the supermarket, they cry when they are not satisfied. 2.Budding sense of autonomy In addition to family education, children aged 1~3 years old have a strong sense of autonomy, and in his concept everything should be his. They do not know the meaning of sharing, and they do not listen to reasoning at this age. This kind of children, who think they are grown up, want to break free from adults’ control and want to show a manifestation of themselves. But their sense of understanding is weak, they simply can’t tell if it’s right or wrong, and their ability to perceive and judge things is still lacking. This is why some parents say that they are not spoiled, but they have become like this. Regardless of the cause of the child’s capriciousness, we must adopt the right educational tools and methods to help children develop good behavioral habits. Use the right method to help children remove the “capricious” label 1, scolding is not advisable, find the right method can When the child appears capricious, temper tantrums should be properly handled, a scolding may make the child no longer afraid, resulting in nothing more than a beating feeling. When you find that your child is behaving in this way, do not compromise easily just because you are in a crowded place; compromise once and there will be a next time. If this behavior, you judge that the child is just playing small, even if crying, you have to take him home to educate. Find a room, reduce the number of onlookers (especially grandparents) and quietly watch him cry and fuss. Even if he sneaks a peek at you during that time, do not react. When he stops crying altogether, then communicate with him. If your child shows self-harming behavior during this time, such as hitting his head against the wall or dropping something to get your attention, ignore it as long as you observe that it will not hurt him. If you compromise at this time, he may use more serious behavior to force you to compromise afterwards. 2, diligent communication with the child, listen to the child’s ideas “to see its so, observe its cause, and inspect its peace. Only through communication with the child, we can really know the children’s inner some real thoughts, can “the right medicine”, the child to carry out some psychological guidance and correct guidance. For example, if a child wants a certain toy, but there are many toys of the same type at home, you can let him say what is different from the one at home or why he wants this toy. Communication ratio, you can also follow 3:1, communication 3 times, meet 1 time, at least let the child know that communication is effective. 3, correct the grandparents’ point of view, a single satisfaction of the child is not love In the face of children’s needs, there should be a principle of satisfaction, to do love but there are degrees, love but there are rules. At the same time to understand whether the child’s behavior is correct, the child’s request is not reasonable, if you think it is unreasonable that should not be to meet him. Parents targeted to persuade education, to the child to analyze the stakes, to make clear the reasons why parents do not agree to his request. In the education of the child, the whole family should be in step, do not feel sorry for him. Otherwise, not only will not achieve the purpose, but also cause the child capricious behavior more and more serious. 4, children with a strong sense of autonomy, to learn to share Let children learn to share, for the correction of capricious also has a great help. For example, if you buy a watermelon at home, after cutting it open, don’t be the first to give it to your child, dad first take one to grandpa or grandma. The mother at this time to teach the child, “see dad first watermelon to grandpa / grandma, you give this watermelon to dad, okay?” Or let the child give the watermelon to the elders to take it over first, if the child does so, you can finally give the child a larger piece as a reward. Children aged 1 to 3 years old have a stronger sense of autonomy and are prone to grabbing toys or pushing and shoving. If there are other children visiting their home, parents should prepare toys or food in order to make a handful. When a child has a tendency to violence, stop it in time. Properly handled, not overindulged, do not worry about the child will become a small bully.