Children to three or four years old, five or six years old, become more and more naughty, how to say do not listen, but can not scold! For one thing, scolding is easy to cause psychological shadows to the child not to mention, but also easy to make the child become more difficult to discipline; second, you dare to hit the child? Ask your grandparents, grandma and grandpa if they agree first! However, three or four years old, five or six years old this stage is a good time to give children to establish rules, if no rules from childhood, to adolescence you will be more in control. So, when a child makes a mistake, a certain means of punishment is necessary, but must pay attention to the way. Here are a few tips that parents can learn! Punishment 5 tricks: 1, the golden hoop stick (hit the palm) Sun Wukong’s golden hoop stick is used for what, the child is still relatively clear – to fight demons well! So now, we also have to have a home! When everyone is in a good mood, make a gold band stick with your child. It’s best to choose soft, lightweight newspaper, Styrofoam, etc. You can also let your child use his or her imagination to decorate the rod. When you are finished, write the words “Discipline the Golden Band”. Next, make a deal with your child that if he bullies his classmates, animals or throws things downstairs in the future, he will be hit on the hand with the “disciplinary stick”! Master the strength, too light the child can not feel, too heavy a hit crying also can not; hit the palm, buttocks on the line, head, face and other parts to avoid. 2, the golden circle (time penalty standing, penalty sitting) Remember the Monkey King in the Journey to the West draws that circle? Although the demon can not enter, but the eight rings, the sand monk and they better not go anywhere. Now, our home also need to draw a circle. With the child, in the bedroom or living room corner, with stickers or chalk, etc. surrounded by a circle, which put an alarm clock, a mat. Then make a deal with your child: if you contradict your parents, disrespect your elders or make other mistakes, you have to stand in the circle for 3 minutes and not come out! But note that the location of the circle can not be too conspicuous, or outsiders visiting, a push on the door to see the child being punished, may hurt the child’s self-esteem; punishment time of about 3 minutes can be, too short no punishment effect, too long is counterproductive. 3, big mouth flowers (confiscate beloved things) Zombies have a “big mouth flowers”, a mouth can swallow the zombie. Children, now we also have a family, but swallowed your toys! Choose a locking drawer or box with your child, use colored paper to decorate the small box with eyes, fangs, etc., and then give it a “big mouth flower” “big mouth monster” and other names you like. Next, tell your child that if he doesn’t clean up his toys, fight over them, throw his clothes, etc., he will receive one of his favorite toys into the “Big Mouth Flower” and keep it for 48 hours. During this period, if the child behaves well, the toy can be “released” in advance. 4.Seven Dragon Balls (exchange wishes) collect 7 dragon balls, you can summon the dragon to achieve their wishes! Children want a new toy? No problem, collect all the dragon balls first! Prepare some glass balls, a jar, make a deal with your child, do what is good to get a dragon ball (glass ball), do what is bad will be deducted a dragon ball. In the future, if the child wants to buy a new toy, new stationery that is not urgently needed, you must gather 7 “dragon balls”. 5.Redeeming (doing housework) Spilled a floor of milk and want to run? No way! Throw a room full of clothes want to let mom collect? Don’t even think about it! Give your child a few small tools that he can hold: a small basin, a rag, a small spatula, a broom, etc.. When he soiled the floor or walls, you must use your own tools to clean up, otherwise, you may be deducted a “dragon ball” …… Punishment 5 principles: 1, there are mistakes must be punished Do not because today’s mood is good not to punish the child, tomorrow’s mood is bad to punish the child severely children; nor because this time the mistake is small not to pursue, the next mistake is big together with the account …… parents themselves first of all, the beginning and end, firm implementation! Even if the child accidentally spilled the milk cup, must also be responsible for this – the child himself to clean up. The parents themselves are changing around, and there is ultimately little deterrence for the child. 2, before the penalty must be warned Children sometimes do not consciously realize that they are making mistakes, so parents need to be warned when the child first appears such behavior, one is to give the child a chance to correct, the second is to let the child have psychological preparation. For example, during dinner, the child grabbed the bun and threw it for fun, you can immediately stop him, and then calmly tell him that this is a waste of food, and if he does it again, his meal is over and he must leave the table. 3, the reason for the punishment should be clear Punishment itself is not the purpose, the purpose is to make the child recognize the mistake. Before punishing, tell your child the reason straightforwardly and clearly, and mark what you want your child to do in the future. 4.The starting and ending points of punishment should be clear When the punishment starts, what the specific content of the punishment is, and when it will end, all should be clear to the child. Once the punishment is over and the child realizes his or her mistake, everything will return to normal, so don’t let the child spend the whole day trembling and sulking. 5, give the child a chance to defend When many children get together, it is inevitable that there will be mutual shifting of responsibility, do not get angry and recklessly punish the child, first patiently listen to what the child said, and then make a decision, so as not to wrong the child.