Abstract: Home is a place to talk about emotions, but many people mistake home as a place of reasoning. When each is always trying to argue with reason, have you ever thought that your children have been hurt? Many people don’t realize that children are the real victims when parents fight with each other. In a young child’s mind, his sense of security comes from his parents, from the harmony and warmth of the family. From a child’s perspective, he does not understand why adults argue and fight. But the parents’ heated arguments and emotions put the child in a great panic. The author believes that this has a lifelong impact on the child, and the parents should read carefully what is shared below. First of all, there is no specific period of parental quarrels, but the child is affected at different times. In infancy, babies have an auditory response on the first day of life, and babies have auditory sensations of soothing, alertness, and pain. If an infant hears a strong noise from his parents, his senses are painful and his body becomes rigid, contracting nerves and closing up for self-protection. If the infant is often stimulated by painful feelings, it will inevitably affect the infant’s auditory perception and visual perception development, and in serious cases, sensory integration disorder will occur in the future. In early childhood, children always see their parents quarreling and fighting in early childhood, and their hearts are tense and fearful. Due to the low cognitive level, young children cannot understand why their parents attack each other like enemies, he cannot distinguish who is right and who is wrong, and is more reluctant to identify who is bad. Some children may think that they are bad, they are bad children, so they have a psychological burden. If their mother is hit by violence, the child will feel extremely insecure, because his mother, who protects the weak life, can’t protect herself, how can he “live”? This instinctive fear makes the child withdraw from kindergarten, be out of place, fear separation from his mother, and have a low desire to participate in active activities. During childhood, parents often make a lot of noise during childhood, which can bring a sense of humiliation to the child. If the parents are arguing about him, the child will look difficult, feel like a bad child, have nightmares, be inferior in front of other children, and be preoccupied in class. If parents keep talking about divorce in front of the child, it is like having a sword hanging over the child’s head, his life seems to be waiting for this sword to fall, really living in fear and worry, such a child, no heart to learn, do everything with little interest, grades are getting worse, low self-esteem, and have a certain impact on his future personality growth. Parents quarrel to learn a try to avoid the children when quarrelling, what problems to wait for the children to leave, and then communicate. But do not cold war, because that will bring more psychological damage to the child, the child will not know what to do, and even think that it is their own reasons for causing the parents discord, in the long run, it will form a withdrawn and inferior character. The second parental quarrel is to make up in front of the child after the quarrel, easily “laugh off the grudge” and comfort the emotions of the frightened child. The company’s main goal is to encourage the child to express his or her feelings and then to explain them in a targeted and reassuring manner. The parents are the role models for their children, and their words, behavior, and even “quarrels” can become the object of their imitation. Parents quarrel with the fourth degree of control, try not to let the quarrel to develop to the point of unmanageable, this can also reduce the child’s sense of fear. It is the minimum responsibility of parents to make their children feel secure in their lives, and adults should not think that feelings are a matter of two people, they will attack each other, abuse, which will have a negative impact on the child’s psyche will be difficult to make up for a lifetime. Editor’s Note: It is difficult for children to stay out of the endless conflict between their parents in the family, and they are invariably spending their days in fear and feeling annoyed and upset. Things like “mom is angry” and “dad is upset” even scare them. The damage of parental quarrels to children is hidden, and the problem sometimes appears with a lag, and if parents are not aware of the consequences, it will surely harm their children. So the key issue is that when parents fight in front of their children, they have to make up in front of them. This is very important for the child, who can stop worrying about the parents and learn from it that harmony is achieved through conflict.