Is it harder to be a driver or a parent? The answer to this question is undoubtedly that being a parent is millions of times harder than being a driver! Before you can be a driver, you need to get a driver’s license, but as a parent, are you licensed? The nature of education: the rich and the old farmer’s way of teaching their children People with money, power and high education have more serious problems in educating their children. And old farmers with no knowledge can educate their children better instead. Why is this? Farmers educate their children in three words, but these three words are precisely the essence of education, the essence of love. The first sentence: “Son, rely on yourself, Mom and Dad are not capable.” This sentence means: “Do your own work, don’t look for me if something goes wrong, I can’t do anything about it.” These seemingly helpless words actually make children understand from an early age that they have to be independent and rely on themselves, which teaches “responsibility”. The second sentence: “Children, behave first, if you go out and bully people, don’t come back to this family.” This sentence means, “Be a human being and don’t hurt others.” The basic rule of not hurting others and not getting in the way of others is the basic rule of being a human being, which teaches “virtue”. The third sentence: “Son, go out and make a living, if you can’t make it, come home and have a mouthful of rice to eat.” This sentence means: “I love you without any condition, even if you are the last one in the world, you still have a mouth to feed when you come home, mom and dad are your backing.” These words teach “true love”. And what do people who are well-off teach their children? The first sentence: “Baby, just study hard, I will do everything else.” This statement tells the child, “Your responsibility is to study, you don’t have to do anything else, I’ll do it.” In fact, it is taking away the child’s right to be responsible. The second sentence: “Don’t bully people when you go out, but don’t suffer when they bully you, you must fight back.” Many children in kindergarten have heard this phrase before. Zheng said, “A child is so young, how can he tell if someone is bullying him or playing with him? If you teach your child this way, one day you will find that your child is always waving his little fists and starting to bully others when he is with them.” In this way, how can the child’s virtue be cultivated? The third sentence: “Study hard and get into college, and don’t come back to me if you can’t get into college and eat in the future.” This sentence makes the child feel: “I love you because you are promising, I love you because I want you to go to college.” In fact, this is conditional love, not “true love”, which is unconditional. From the rich man said these three words, do you see your own shadow? Many parents at the scene fell into contemplation. “Kindergarten children do not have the ability to discriminate, so they accept whatever you give them. What if you end up giving him the wrong thing?” Zheng believes that many parents nowadays have not received parental education and do not have a scientific approach to parenting, and are always teaching haphazardly and blindly. He cited the example that many parents now send their 4~5-year-old children to learn bead calculation, the children rely on their memory to learn bead calculation well, and when they go to the first and second grade, they will not learn math properly, and when they reach the fourth and fifth grade, they will lack the perception of math. “The best way to learn math is to give your child 20 dollars and let him buy whatever he wants to buy to go. Within a few days, you’ll find that you don’t have to teach addition and subtraction within 20, the child learns it in a flash. This is the perception of addition and subtraction.” Zheng said that education should be silent and subtle. You will not teach, do not teach, the child will be good on their own, afraid that you will not teach but also blindly teach, teach every day. In this way, the child will be bored with school, do not like their parents, do not communicate with their parents, and all kinds of problems arise. The parents who don’t know how to educate and are particularly responsible are worse than the children taught by parents who don’t know how to educate and are not “responsible”. What we need to become is educated and responsible parents. The dangers of blind teaching: teaching the wrong one is farther from wisdom than teaching the untaught one The core of education: to teach children well, parents must first be taught. This question baffles many parents. Aren’t parents and parents the same thing? A parent is an animal, a physiological concept, while a parent is a sociological concept. If you raise your child to be a competent social citizen, you are a parent, and if you raise your child with problems, you are at best a parent. So, how do you move from being a natural parent, to an intelligent parent? Parents need to be educated professionally and systematically. What children learn in school is knowledge, but what they learn at home is being a human being. The core problem of Chinese children is being a human being. Most of the problems of children are in home education, so are parents, who are the “teachers” in home education, professionally trained? The lack of parental education at the macro level leads to the immaturity of Chinese parents at the micro level, how can immature parents educate good children? Many parents have no knowledge, no methods, no one to ask and no place to learn when they encounter problems. In fact, parents are the ones who need to learn the most. If parents change a little bit, their children will make great progress. Will love is true love, true love needs to learn, will not love to love, it is called harm, or even abuse.