1. Growth is more important than success, and children who can afford to lose are the most successful. There is a strange phenomenon among parents nowadays, they do everything for their children, and think that their children’s task is to study. I organized a summer camp, a very young child looked at the boiled eggs dumbfounded, I said “do not you love to eat?” “Yes, I do!” “Then why don’t you eat them?” “These eggs don’t look like our eggs!” “What do your eggs look like?” “Our eggs are white and soft, this egg is too hard to bite!” Later asked to know, the child has never seen the family boiled eggs, peeled eggs process, are set up cut into four pieces in front of eating, so do not always pre-determine the outcome, but to pay attention to the growth process, to walk the road underfoot, the child who can afford to lose is the most successful children! 2, experience is more important than ranking, overindulgence caused by child incompetence It is said that children now have poor mental capacity to withstand setbacks, this is because parents do not give them the opportunity to accept the trials and tribulations, to withstand failure and setbacks. “Born a boy afraid of learning bad, born a girl afraid of victimization”, but unexpected harm can happen every day, overprotection brings the child’s incompetence. You can tolerate the child, so that the home becomes the child’s last harbor; you can understand him, so that he finds warmth and security, in the uncertainty and no way out, to show him the way rather than give him a wall. 3, give than give important, give children the opportunity to love you Only give love to children, will make them no sense of responsibility, will only be demanding. A laid-off female workers know that children like to eat shrimp, gritted teeth from the market to buy, see children eat with great pleasure, they can not move chopsticks, see the child has finished eating, the mother could not resist trying a bite, “Do not move!” The 13-year-old said, “That’s mine. The overindulgence and infinite indulgence of the child’s selfishness, so that the child’s heart is only their own, no one else. 4, dialogue is more important than confrontation, don’t “fight” with children Adolescent children love to “fight” with their parents, parents in their 40s and 50s also love to “fight” with their children, both sides stand on one side. They impose their own opinions on each other and want to change others, not themselves. For example, when it comes to early love, many parents simply and violently obstruct and forcibly suppress it. Adolescent children are in a period of rapidly increasing sense of adulthood, but the psychological immaturity, he wants to be respected by adults, but also the lack of basic trust in parents, so the rebellious mentality is very strong, the door of the mind only towards the peers open, this time he especially need spiritual care, need to understand. 5, motivation is more important than blame, appreciate your child, tell him “you can do it” A constant expression of dissatisfaction and blame to the child, bring the child is a negative message, so that the child is weak, depressed, and even anxious. When I was 5 years old, I drew a big rooster and my mother said, “That’s great! I have long said that the rooster you drew is more beautiful than the one I raised!” So, I love to draw more, blackboard painting from first grade to senior high school, to the rural areas to the farmers to run the newspaper, and later on the “China Youth Newspaper”; two is the love of dance, the year of the fifth grade, the Beijing Municipal Dance School to recruit young performers on one of my. The result of an unfortunate event: when I wore small pants, undershirt, behind the hands, feet stand straight, a teacher walked past me, glanced at me and said “Hum, legs are not straight still dance!” From then on, I remembered that when I danced, and then I was afraid to dance again, and then I simply stopped dancing. So I say to parents, children grow up in the environment of “you can’t”, slowly internalize “you can’t” into “I can’t”, he really can’t, “said you can, you I said you can, you can’t, you can’t!” In fact, for children, it does not matter if they have talent, what is important is to have interest and self-confidence. Don’t look down on others, boldly applaud your child, believe that your child will create a miracle! Education is a long and wise process, please use more positive, positive language to encourage your child, less sarcasm, sarcasm, so that your child in a warm and harmonious family environment to grow up healthy!