Working hard in the workplace, a decade, I reaped the dream house, car, children …… but steeply lost my health, at the age of 35 I developed breast cancer, life took a sharp turn!
Hospitals are the least short of stories, especially oncology hospitals, where there are endless stories of sorrow and joy, and endless tears of human kindness. Because I’ve seen so much, I often feel like my stories pale in comparison.
Breast cancer seems a bit worthless compared to the really aggressive types of cancer, and I thank Lady Luck for her blessings compared to those who are struggling to live and die with advanced disease.
But I’ve often had sisters wonder about my experience, and sometimes I wonder if it’s a bit odd to see a doctor go to work at a hospital and turn a sacredly admired male attending doctor into my beloved teacher and friend.
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Breast cancer diagnosed,
My husband and I hugged each other and cried
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When I received the news of breast cancer so suddenly, I was in tears.
When the doctor looked at my mammogram and said, “Hey, you’re so young!”
When the doctor looked at my mammogram and said, “Hey, you’re so young!” my eyes almost burst into tears, and my rambling thoughts began:
“The kids aren’t even in elementary school yet, so what will we do without a mom?
They are not the only ones who can take care of themselves, so don’t count on them!”
“My parents have been supporting us all these years, and they and my husband probably can’t get by without me!”
“Will your husband remarry? I’m not sure if I’m going to be able to do that. This is a great way to feel good about my understanding, and to be kind to my parents and children in the future, and to feel good about my own search. ……”
It’s funny to think about it now! So, when I seriously talked to my husband about these issues, he denounced my “insanity” and said, “If you’re here, the family is here, and if you’re gone, the family is gone”, which made us hug each other and cry!
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Husband accompanying,
A disease that crushes the “seven-year itch”
This is what happens when you’re a techie, you don’t have much to say, but when it matters, you don’t fall off the wagon.
He made me swear that I would treat the disease well, no matter how much money I spent.
The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Before we got sick, we had a long cold war, did God use an illness to save my marriage?
Thank God, if it wasn’t for this illness, I really thought the vows were going to “go away” like the lyrics.
Fortunately, I’m happy now, so maybe God wanted to make the test a little more solid, to see if my husband really meant what he said. It turns out that he is very reliable.
My husband has accompanied me through my treatment without complaint.
The most common targeted drug for breast cancer is trastuzumab, which was not yet covered by Shanghai’s health insurance, and I was not able to apply for the Cancer Fund’s buy six get eight free.
I thought to myself, “This is a very expensive way to spend your life, and I’m not going to waste it.
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The hard truth:
Surgery does not preserve the breast, and reconstruction is risky
With my husband’s support and encouragement, a sense of family responsibility and mission was born.
I’m not sure if I’m going to be able to do that.
The doctor told me that the lump was in a bad location and that it would be impossible to save my breast, which meant that I would lose the most precious part of a woman. The company’s main goal is to provide a comprehensive range of products and services to the public.
Then, when the doctor asked me if I wanted to have my breasts reconstructed, I felt like my whole life had been lit up! The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
This is not a small surgery, and it looks like it will be painful. My patients admire me, but I just feel really lucky to have this surgery. The procedure is not perfect, but there is a price to be paid for it, and it is a toss-up.
If you care about your body, it means you still want something for yourself, you want to be beautiful, and you’re willing to give it a shot. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers. The company’s main goal is to provide the best possible service to its customers.
Friends say, “You’re younger and prettier now, but those who know you’re sick think you went to Korea for plastic surgery!
Make tumor surgery into plastic surgery, only this disease can have this chance!
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Postoperative chemotherapy:
What’s scarier than chemotherapy is the fear itself
How scary is chemotherapy? The only way to have a say is to have experienced it.
The only way to find out is to walk through it and realize that the scariest thing is actually the feeling of terror itself and the imagination of the unknown.
No one studies cancer or chemotherapy unless they are sick. Most people’s understanding of chemotherapy usually stems from movies and TV shows that are designed to create sadness and news that needs to be broken. But it’s a lie to say that chemotherapy isn’t sad, and some people really don’t respond well to it.
In fact, as modern medical technology continues to advance, the overall safety and tolerability of chemotherapy has improved dramatically. The majority of them are fine for other cancers, but for breast cancer, it’s really not too much to pass.
Of course, there are differences in how people react to different medications, but mindset is also a key factor. For example, when you are alone at home, you tend to think about things, and when you are in bed all day, you can feel the discomfort of chemotherapy in a more nuanced way.
In addition, excessive care and attention from family members can often become a shackle and put patients in a prison of fear. Because you don’t have to worry about anything, you end up worrying about your illness!
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Greeting the newborn:
Everything is for the best
After breast cancer surgery, the treatment phase ended and I stepped into recovery.
The first question was, what about work? I was 35 years old, my career was on the rise, my leader had just promised me a promotion before I got sick, and my company’s benefits were pretty good. So, to go back or not to go back? Is it possible to go back?
This may be a question that many patients entering recovery, especially younger patients, face.
What should I do with the rest of my life if I don’t work? If you work, what mindset should you take?
There is no standard answer! Everyone has what they think is the ideal answer in their mind, except that it takes a great deal of effort to actually get to that ideal state.
But a good mind will be a panacea. After treatment, I joined the oncology hospital’s Yeon Kang Salon recovery volunteer ward visit team and signed up for a counselor course. The hospital leadership gave me the opportunity to come and work in the psychological assistance center established by the hospital, where I could serve more cancer patients and their families.
Even though I do a lot of trivial things every day, it is a great blessing in life to be able to do something that I really like deep down inside and that is right for me to do.
So I’m glad this disease came so early, at the right time for me, and that it was all for the best!