Passive-aggression refers to the way in which anger is expressed politely by intentionally disguising oneself, including a series of behaviors that are performed on the target object in such a way that the other person does not perceive his or her own anger. The following 10 sentences are typical of passive-aggressive performance, can help you to the hidden hostility of the early warning. 1. “I’m calm now!” The passive-aggressive person doesn’t confess hostility, but rather denies the feeling of anger – insisting that he’s “cool” while he’s seething with rage. 2. “Fine.” “Whatever.” Withdrawing from the argument with displeasure is a basic passive-aggressive tactic. It is believed that expressing anger directly is bad, so these two phrases are used to indirectly express displeasure while cutting off direct emotional communication with you. 3. “Almost there! Soon!” Verbal promises are delayed. For example, you ask your child to clean his room, he promised very cool: “Yes, right away!” But when he doesn’t move, it’s likely he’s using passive-aggressive tactics to deal with you. 4, “I didn’t realize you wanted it now.” The average person procrastinates only about tasks they don’t like, while passive-aggressors are masters of procrastination, using delays to torment others or to get out of drudgery without outright refusal. 5, “You kind of demand perfection in everything.” In addition to procrastination, a more sophisticated passive-aggressive strategy is to complete a task on time, but not with the quality you want. For example, students hand in sloppy homework, the husband to his wife who does not like steak to do a good steak, employees in an important project seriously overspent …… these cases, you go to criticize him, he not only for their own defense, but also in turn accused you do not know how to adapt, or over the pursuit of perfection. 6, “I thought you knew!” The highest level of passive-aggression is deliberate “negligence”. In order to express anger, he purposely doesn’t tell you something to make you feel bad. When you ask him why, he excuses his inaction by saying he was negligent, while gloating behind his back. 7, “rest assured that it is an honor to serve you.” In the customer service department, it is often possible to meet staff who seem to care about you, or hear a super polite voice on the customer service phone, assuring you that the problems can be solved. On the surface, the attitude of the customer service representative is cooperative, but be aware of the grudge behind the smile – a face, he threw your application into the waste paper basket, or in your application form heavily stamped “not accepted. 8, “with your ability to do this part, has been very good.” Passive-aggressive compliments like these are the deepest form of humiliation. Similarly, “Do not be afraid, even at your age can still be braces,” “In fact, many men like fat girls,” you heard this “comfort”, what does the heart feel like? The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you have a good understanding of what you are doing. 9, “I’m just kidding.” Sarcasm is a common means of openly expressing hostility, but then you have to beat around the bush to look decent. If you’re upset, the passive-aggressive person will put on a pitiful face: “It’s just a joke, you wouldn’t, would you?” 10. “No way, you’re angry?” The passive-aggressive person is very good at after the blow to others, looking at the other side of the stormy look, they can still remain calm, or disguised as surprised. In fact, he is happily watching you lose control of your emotions, and in turn calling you “overreacting”.