Parenting, a position that you can’t quit when you become one, and you can’t retire for life. Do you have a parental induction certificate? What makes a problem child? Have parents lost their “blindness”? Husband and wife and parent-child relationship can be the world’s most tender emotional relationship, throughout the ages celebrated how many can sing and cry story, “moving China” ……; can also be the most sad emotional relationship, the streets and alleys talk about how many heartbreaking events! Happy families are similar Today’s statement Every couple that enters the marriage hall hopes to hold hands lovingly for the rest of their lives; every parent who gives birth to a child hopes to have a strong affection with their own flesh and blood, so that the child grows up healthily, however …… According to TMZ, Angelina Jolie has filed a petition for divorce against Brad Pitt and at the same time she has asked for custody of their six children, while Pitt can only get visitation rights. The reasons for the divorce are disagreements over the children’s education, substance abuse and Pitt’s emotional problems. Happy families are similar and unfortunate families have their own misfortunes. Behind bad parent-child relationships, there are usually bad couple relationships. Here are a few kinds of couples, let’s see how their couple relationship affects their children: 1, loving couples: the child’s character is healthy and cheerful Families where mom and dad love each other and the couple has a harmonious relationship can give their children a good family environment, and the character of these children will be more peaceful, cheerful and not easily rough, and because of the good relationship between the parents, the child will also have a good feeling and desire for marriage, and will be able to have a healthy heterosexuality. 2, indifferent couples: children willful and selfish parents have weak feelings, two people often rely on children to communicate or maintain the family, is often said to be “child-centered” family, the role of parental relations, the child is too much attention or interference, the character will become willful and selfish. 3, male weak female strong: male children timid, cowardly due to the father’s weakness, the power to the mother, the role of the family is increasingly marginalized, the mother will become increasingly strong and even say nothing. The child will always be to the same sex parents to form an identity, the daughter will be to the strong mother to identify, over time will become a strong daughter, the son will become no commitment to the cowardly, inferiority complex son. 4, divorced couples: children indifferent, insecure A lot of couples from unfortunate marriages, neglected the most important point, can never be relieved from the children. Their inner trauma is often difficult to heal, their sense of worry, insecurity, fear may never be healed. Children living in divorced families are more prone to delinquency and psychological disorders such as anxiety, depression, hostility, revenge and indifference. 5, blame each other: children sensitive, stubborn parents like to blame each other, such a family environment, will seriously affect the child’s way of life. Especially when the couple has an argument, it is easier to say to the child that the other side is not. The effect on the child is that he or she will have no respect for either mom or dad in the future. One party attacked the other party, want to use this to let the child on the other party dissatisfaction, and finally bring the child just hurt. 6, violent couples: children violent, violent parents quarrel for adults is very common, understandable, but for the children, it is the sky is falling, first of all, must be inside will be extremely fearful, insecurity. Children who grow up in such an atmosphere, encounter problems, it is easy to try to solve them with violence, and even become unreasonable and extreme. The influence of husband and wife relationship on children is far more far-reaching than we think. A good husband and wife relationship can help children successfully realize their gender identity, maintain balance and moderate closeness among family members, and also plant a seed called “happiness” in the child’s heart……. As long as you know that you have the qualification for parenting, you have the qualification for parenting? Here we see how parents destroy their children 1, let the child feel that he can not do anything, no one appreciates him 2, often take more than his “good” people to stimulate him 3, the child’s everything by you to decide, do not give him a little freedom 4, you must be in front of outsiders to damage him, to degrade him, so that he has no place to hide, public disgrace. 5, no matter what to take credit for, you will be the first to see the child’s behavior, and the child will be the first to know. 5, no matter what is attributed to the child’s fault and then teach him a lesson, and stop him from tears. 6, and the child’s tone of voice should never be gentle, never use the tone of discussion, must use the commanding tone. If you can also with some sarcasm and irony, the effect is better. 7, mold yourself into a victim of the family, so that the child has a sense of guilt. How to get the induction license? 1, the premise of educating children is to understand children, and the premise of understanding children is to respect children. 2.Educating children just have love, is not enough, must have the ability to love. 3, love is an art, parents have to spend a lifetime to learn to feel. 4, and children learn together, grow together, experience the art of love together. 5.Every parent should become the best education expert for their children. 6.Love the child’s nature, discover the child’s characteristics, promote the child’s personality.