1. make learning an important part of happiness A mother told me that she had long ago stopped expecting her children to get pleasure from learning, which made me feel sorry for them. I’ve always thought that learning, growing up, knowing the wisdom that humans once had, knowing the secrets of the world, these experiences are all wonderful things, and the key is not to make learning miserable. As an example, at first Seconds didn’t like English very much. I deliberately took English picture books beside him and read them, marveling at them as I did so. When he came up to me curiously, I pretended to “despise” him and told him to “read it yourself if you can”. I also watch English cartoons at home, he followed the images and guessed the plot, I did not tell him, but also added oil and vinegar to portray “more good foreign books and TV ……” later, he learned English will be energetic, even if sometimes bored with learning, think The “good foreign stories”, can also think through. Will I detract from his happiness if I force him to memorize words? I don’t know. What I do know is that children themselves are motivated and motivated to learn, and the key is to mobilize them so that learning becomes an important part of their well-being. Comment: Many people have a deep-rooted notion that learning and playing are opposites, and that good grades and happiness are incompatible. This mother shows us that if a child’s “appetite” for learning is not spoiled, his or her attitude toward learning is not misguided, and the parent’s management of the child’s learning is motivational rather than commanding, the child will slowly learn to make arrangements to reconcile learning and play. Let your child know that homework is a “fun” thing, not a punishment; let him understand that marks and grades are two different things; have fun with your child for finding problems and finally solving them …… In short, learning itself can bring great pleasure and happiness to people. In short, learning itself brings a great sense of pleasure and well-being, for adults and children alike. 2. I often ask myself, what was the happiest and most enjoyable thing I did as a child? I remember most fondly a summer night when the power went out and I was sitting on the cooler with my father, mother, brother and sister. Mom happily sang her favorite song from her youth, “Spring Water Ding Dong,” and we kids played harmonica to the tune of Mom’s melody, while Dad also took out the family flute and responded. In fact, I later learned that our tune was not beautiful, but the feeling was really wonderful, and every time I think about it, it makes me smile from the heart. Now that I have children of my own, I often use this image to remind myself to share my joy and happiness with my children so that I can hear them laugh from the inside. Comment: The so-called immersion experience is the feeling that something allows you to immerse yourself in it and forget about time and space, and is one of the indicators of happiness. Your child is watching you and learning from your every move. If you take out time to create a wonderful immersion experience for yourself, then he will learn to do the same for himself. Likewise, if you take the time to nourish your own soul and find joy and personal preferences, your child will learn to do the same. Tip The “Unexpected Events” on the Road to Happiness 1. “After spending half a month’s salary on four high-end toys for my child, the most popular item was the white foam in the outer box. He broke the white foam into small pieces to make various shapes, and even dragged them to share with children ……” 2. “I asked my daughter, are you happy? She said out loud, happy. I asked again, why ah? She tilted her head and thought for a while and said, “Because I have a brother, and Yao Yao and Wang Ting (my daughter’s two closest children in kindergarten) don’t have a brother!” 3″, I thought that when I went to elementary school, my daughter’s happiness index would be lowered due to more constraints, but it turned out to be the opposite, she went there happily and came back happily every day. Ask her where is the best elementary school, she immediately said, school will not have teachers forced me to eat, how happy ah!” 4″, I thought taking my child on a trip abroad would bring him happiness, but to my surprise, what my child liked most was staying in the hotel and playing games with her father ……” 5. “In order for my daughter to be in the company of her mother In order to let my daughter play happily in the company of her mother, I took her to a parent-child class. After a period of time, I found that my daughter’s motivation to attend the parent-child class actually comes from the slide toys and the big mushroom pavilion downstairs.” 3. Happiness also comes from “scarcity” Nowadays, children have a rich material base, there are special early childhood classes to teach them games, many people feel that they are much happier than our generation. But I think that many children’s childhood is too “easy”. When I was a kid, I had to do a lot of things to get a candy, and this one candy would make me happy for a long time. But nowadays, children are surrounded by all kinds of snacks and toys, this sense of satisfaction has been greatly reduced. Now, our family is often “either in the park or on the way to the park”. I never bring toys to the park, but my children still have fun: they can play with water for half a day at the pool, and suddenly they find that they can build a bridge with rocks and sticks, and pick up leaves and roots. …… Although the toys are “missing”, there are more opportunities for children to actively The children have more opportunities to find happiness. Comment: On the road to happiness, there is a complete balance of openness and relaxation, take-home and take-out. It is necessary to prepare toys for your child, teach him how to play, and help him to be happy, but artificial “design” and the child’s real needs cannot be exactly the same. This mother saw this and gave her child the space to find and create his own joy, rather than designing and filling all of his life for him. In addition, it is important for children to have experiences of “lack” or “lack”. If a child is always satisfied without effort and does not experience the feeling of “hunger,” he or she will easily lose imagination, lack motivation and passion for life, and find it difficult to experience true happiness.