Doudou is 8 months old and is a very cheerful child, happy to see people and everyone in the neighborhood likes to tease him. However, recently Doudou’s mother found that Doudou began to “recognize”, a neighbor reached out to hug Doudou, Doudou shrank into his mother’s arms, and sometimes cried. What’s going on here? Why not “recognize” before, but “recognize” when you are older? What is “recognition” and “fear of life” “Recognition and fear of life” is a reflection of the baby’s social development to a certain extent. It is a reflection of the baby’s development of perception, discrimination and memory, emotions and interpersonal relationships. Most babies at 8-9 months, a few at 6-7 months, will have “stranger anxiety”, which is often referred to as “recognition” and “fear of life”. The “stranger anxiety” does not last long and will gradually improve after the age of 1 year. Why do babies “recognize strangers”? 1.Dependence on family Recognition is a normal phenomenon in the growth and development process of children, because babies grow up day by day under the careful care of their parents, mothers or grandparents, they naturally become dependent on their families and feel safe only around them, so when a stranger comes near, babies will cry and fuss because they are afraid of contact with people. 2, the cognitive progress of the performance of why very young children do not recognize, no matter who hold are happy, and do not cry and do not make a fuss? That is because very young children do not know who is a family member and who is a stranger, when the child grows up slowly, with cognitive development, the child has the ability to distinguish between family members and strangers, to distinguish between mom and dad and people they do not know, so there is a recognition of the performance. What should parents do when their baby is “nostalgic”? Some parents may think that recognition is a sign that the child is not brave enough, so they deliberately let the child to contact people and things that he does not want to contact, in fact, this will destroy the child’s sense of security, is not desirable, child development is a gradual process, can not be too hasty. 1, respond to the baby’s needs at the right time For this period of time, the baby should try to comply with his needs. For example, play with the child, do not force the child to sleep or do something else because there are things to do, when crying to comfort him or hug him, so that he has enough security, these are the best way to respond to the child. 2, according to the baby’s emotions to give a soothing When the baby sees mom and dad have a very happy expression, mom and dad should also use a happy expression to respond to him. If your baby cries when he or she sees someone, don’t show a nervous or disgusted expression. This time the baby’s crying may be just to adults to pamper him, adults to soothe him, mom and dad should respond in time. 3, snuggling is very important to the baby snuggling is very significant to the baby, throughout the growth of young children, the parent’s snuggling is indispensable. The baby can feel the attention, comfort and satisfaction from the hug of the mother and father, he can deeply feel the love of parents for him. 4, more contact with others Take your baby out more often, and contact with children of the same age, play together, to help your baby adapt to the crowded environment. If the baby has a resistant reaction, mothers can first accompany the baby to watch from a distance, and then slowly approach the crowd to give the baby a buffer process. 5, not forced When the baby refuses to contact “strangers”, mothers should not give the baby to others to hold, this will lead to children afraid, more reluctant to contact strangers, is also not conducive to the baby’s future interpersonal interaction. Why are some babies unrecognizable? There are two types of babies who are unrecognizable. Some babies are very adaptable, which is more often seen in those babies who often go out and often contact strangers, these babies have adapted and accepted that “the people around me will often change”, so the baby has created a very strong adaptability. Some babies seem to be “unrecognizable”, in fact, because the baby’s recognition reaction is not obvious, exist for a short time, adults did not find in time, so they were ignored. This kind of baby in contact with strangers may just show more look, dazed, thinking, and then will be happy to play with others, so from the surface baby seems to “not a bit of recognition”. The baby’s non-recognition may also be related to the development of the brain 1, the manifestation of low intelligence Due to the delayed development of the brain, intelligence is lower than the same age, the child’s observation, memory, emotional expression, cognitive ability is not developed enough, so they can not distinguish the difference between the mother (the person who takes care of them) and others, therefore, no recognition phenomenon. 2.Autism Children with autism are not interested in the outside world, cannot detect the presence of others, and cannot distinguish the difference between their mothers and others. If the child does not cry when picked up by a stranger, or does not feel uneasy when separated from the mother, this is not in line with the common sense of growth and development. Whether it is a psychological disorder or a physical disorder, it is a sign that there is something wrong with the child, and the child should pay attention to the characteristics of the child’s actions and go to the pediatric department of the hospital for consultation.