1, special treatment children in the family’s status is superior, everywhere special care, such as eating “only food”, good food in front of him for him to enjoy; do “only child”, grandparents can not birthday, the child’s birthday to buy a large cake, send gifts …… such children feel special, accustomed to superiority, will inevitably become selfish, no compassion, will not care about others. 2, excessive attention A family member always take care of him, accompany him. The new year’s holiday, relatives and friends come often laughing and teasing endlessly, sometimes adults sit in a circle around him in the center, repeatedly welcome the child to perform a show, applause. Such children think they are the center, indeed become the “little sun”. The family has to be around him, and all day and night can not rest, attention is extremely distracted, “people crazy” is also particularly serious, and even guests came to make it impossible to talk. 3, easy to meet what the child wants to give anything. Some parents also give toddlers and elementary school students a lot of pocket money, the child’s satisfaction is even easier. This child is bound to develop a bad character that does not value things, materialistic enjoyment, waste of money and inconsiderate of others, and has no patience and spirit of hardship. 4, lazy life allows the child to eat and live, play and learn without regularity, what to do, sleep, do not eat, wander during the day, watch TV until late at night, etc.. Such children grow up to lack of motivation, curiosity, to do people to get by, to do things in the heart, there is no end. 5, praying and begging, for example, while coaxing the child to eat and sleep, promised to tell the child three stories before finishing the meal. The child’s psychology is that the more you beg him, the more he squirms, not only can not distinguish between right and wrong, do not develop a sense of responsibility and generosity of character, and the prestige of education is lost. I asked some mothers to ask their children to work, and some of them said, “I can’t wait to hurt them, but I can’t bear to let them work?” Some also said: “Asking the ‘little thing’ to do something is more trouble, it is better for me to do it for him.” Therefore, children of three or four years old have to be fed and dressed, and children of five or six years old do not do any housework and do not know the joy of working and the responsibility of helping their parents to lighten their burden. This is by no means sensational. 7, fuss originally “newborn calves are not afraid of tigers”, children are not afraid of water, not afraid of the dark, not afraid of wrestling, not afraid of sickness. After a fall, they often get up without saying anything and continue to play. Later, why some children are timid and cry? That is often caused by parents and grandparents, the child has a sick performance panic, the end result of pampering is that children do not let their parents leave a step. These children are branded as cowards. 8, deprivation of independence In order to be absolutely safe, parents do not let their children out of the house, but also do not allow him to play with other children. What’s more, some children have become the “little tail”, always can not leave their parents or the elderly step, hugging sleep, snuggle sitting, pack on the back to go; in the mouth for fear of melting, spit out for fear of flying away. Such children will become timid and incompetent, lose self-confidence, develop a dependency mentality, but also often become a “door tiger”, in the family bullying, to the outside as timid as a mouse, resulting in serious character defects. 9, fear of crying As a result of accommodating children from childhood, children in disobedience to cry, sleep, do not eat to blackmail parents. The doting parents will have to cajole, surrender, comply and accommodate. Parents who are afraid of their children crying are incompetent parents; children who scold their parents will become ruthless rebellious children, sowing the seeds of selfishness, ruthlessness, capriciousness and lack of self-control in their character. 10, in-your-face partiality Sometimes the father controls the child, the mother protects: “Do not be too strict, he is still small.” Some parents teach their children, the grandmother will come forward to speak: “You can not ask too fast, he will naturally be good when he grows up; when you are small, is far from him good!” Such a child is certainly “unteachable”! Because he has no concept of right and wrong, and always have “umbrella” and “refuge”, the consequences of not only the child’s personality distortion, and sometimes will cause family discord.